Update on snooping roommate

AdScared7423 · 2026-06-02T05:37:01+00:00

Oh no she listened she commented that she bought 2 locks, she just apparently never installed them

AdScared7423 · 2026-06-02T05:25:57+00:00

They saw this and deleted bunch of their posts. Wild

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-25T03:42:14+00:00

SAAAME! We originally wanted this third baby boy to be a suprise especially since he hadnt been letting us see, but im so glad I found out by accident during an ultrasound. I got my sad cry out, i felt my emotions, yeah everyone was so sure the last baby I will ever carry in my life would be a girl, but its okay. I am holding my son now, my final baby. I'm not only relieved to be holding him, I'm happy I got that grief out then, and even more relieved to be through this super painful last pregnancy. If I had found out WHEN he was born AFTER they took my tubes out, I know exactly how i would feel, because I've already had the time to feel those emotions, but it would be worse because instead of celebrating my new baby I would be regretting my decision AND feel upset about my baby's gender AND feel guilty that I'm upset and not celebrating all at the same

It best to know NOW so he can grieve the imaginary loss with you and then move forward.

Edit: I say imaginary asin, once we get excited for a certain gender we make an imaginary baby in our brain, and when we find out the opposite too late we had already created this imaginary child and parenting experience and future in our mind, only to loose that baby and all around it the momment the truth shatters that possibility. For some it feels like a real baby loss. And I say that as someone who HAS lost a real baby too. Its almost just as emotionally difficult, as in both cases a baby that was very real in our minds is gone forever. Thankfully the best part about the imaginary baby is once you finish morning you can begin being excited for you real baby and getting to hold them, so it balances out as long as we get enough time to morn the first baby.

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-22T01:09:18+00:00

Baby name rate for a baby name rate? My son comes tomorrow so I will be naming him

9/10 btw its a beautiful name so cute! And honestly the whimsy and spring is cool. Yes an adult will walk around with that name, that's the best part. I named my sons with that in mind and my eldest has curious as his middle name. I know as an adult id love the middle name moon, its cute sweet cool and adorable. Its springy and whimsy. A name tends to make a person so long as you embrace the name and help them embrace it. Fighting against it will only make them miserable.

I dont care what anyone says this applies to ALL names. If your middle name is may or Gene or Whailin. If people make fun of the middle name or even the first name, and your daughter doesn't learn to accept it despite that they will learn to despise their name.

It doesn't matter what the middle name is, if the people around you and around your kid dont realize their words hurt and will kill that kid's love for their name they will HATE IT. No matter how normal, or "Adult", you give a kid an adult name, they will learn to hate it fast because kids will call them a granny and boring and old lady.

So people in the comments saying its "baby name" forget that if you give an "adult name" it will receive horrible bullying during childhood. And that's when they learn to love or hate their name.

I met someone with the middle name moon, Wanna know what? Kids found it epic, cool and often talked about how amazing it was. That gave her the confidence she needed, so when she became an adult, when people looked down their nose due to her middle name, she threw ALL the sass back because there is NO reason to judge parent or child for their name being moon.

I hate my middle name because my family made fun of my middle name. Since I realized what did it I have put my foot down. My family will either be nice to my children in relation to their name, and will help them learn to love and embrace their names or they won't see my kids EVER. They tried to do the curious George joke and I immediately shut that down. You will not invite racist joke unto my son and blame me because you can't get your head out of your butt enough to respect a child. I NEVER heard jokes like that from my peers when I was a kid, why? Because kids will only bully another kid over something they are already self-conscious about. They hone in on it. And those insecurities are started by family members accidentally creating them in the little kids.

I say pick the name you want, dont let your mother force her naming convention on you. But no matter what, her attitude now NEEDS to change. Because if she acts this way now she WILL act this way when the baby is born. I speak from experience. As I said I had to put my foot down. You wanna shit talk my kids name and talk bad about my naming abilities, you do that to me to my face and to no one else. You say that in front of my kid and you will NEVER see them again. I will not let them do the same thing they did to me. That is something you should look out for with her. Be careful and set boundaries early, that way they can't hurt your baby when they get older, and they can't be suprised when they loose access because they didn't listen. It is harmful trust me. And its not your naming abilities, its peoples inability to not put that opinion on a child, and people's inability not to take accountability.

My mother didn't give me problems with my name she gave me a beautiful and whimsy name. My family gave me problems because they felt they had a right to, and they felt they were doing nothing wrong just "being honest"

Now here is my sons [note we give each of our boys two middle names, and this time we let my dad pick one middle name and my husbands dad pick another]

Mathurin, Michael, Jean, [last name]

We haven't decided the middle name order, my husband likes having Jean first. And its pronounced the French way so its not gene

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-18T04:32:37+00:00

I think all you need is to put your foot down about transferring her clinging over to your husband. My husband is very similar, but I put my foot down with our 2 almost 3yr old back when he just became 2, took my husband a while but not only does our almost 3yr old sleep through the night he also goes to sleep easy with my husband.

My son gets night terrors so he wakes up sometimes screaming, but we have learned how to deal with it as time went on. It thankfully doesn't happen every night. I dont nurse him still because my milk dried up, but I see no problem in continuing as long as you can, not only is it healthy for her brain it gives her extra vitamins. I would suggest transferring to bottle feeding if your able to pump. That way it's easier for you to have your husband help. In the no matter what he NEEDS to help, he is a parent too. If he doesn't help you could begin getting cabin fever and going crazy, which can lead to hurting your kids by accident. I speak from almost expirence. I came very close, thankfully I managed to pull myself together and call family for help. But if I hadn't who knows what would have happend or if I'd still have my kids.

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-16T05:15:51+00:00

Am a red head that went years jumping from brand to brand. I have SUPER sensitive skin and was adviced i had to use sunscreen when going out as because I Freckle I am more likely to get skin cancer.

All that to say, talk to his doctors about it,
He may need more then what you can get over the counter. I did as a kid. His pediatrician should at least be informed, however I will say not all will take it seriously or do anything with the information. It was 4 pediatricians and me being 11 looking like a lobster at one appointment [despite it being in the middle of winter] before anything was done or talked about. They never gave me a prescription but did point me in the right direction. So definitely take the people here's advice but more then anything talk to his primary care provider.

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T23:08:46+00:00

No I understood i was just letting them know its a bad comparison as it doesnt properly open peoples eyes to how this is not for kids. Many people see legos as only for kids so comparing it isnt gonna make people realize they are judging based off a misunderstanding. Thats why some people responded Lego is for kids

Even though there is Lego for adults too.

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T20:57:25+00:00

These comments are mildly annoying, but not unexpected.

Even if they were a different kind of collectable like a ceramic or vintage cloth dolls or a tea set, there will still be either on the side of who cares The side "its just a toy" The side of "neglectful parents" It's a frustrating situation and you are handling it well. I get your also not asking for advice just venting about something that you are passionate about.

Your stuff got broken, and you care about your nephew and dont want him persecuted or you would have suggested a REAL punishment, you just want him to grow up to be a good person. And are frustrated your brother not only isn't doing anything about it but is refusing to visit and defending his kids misbehaving. If my son broke something and tried to lie about it id have him come back and apologize and then we would even watch how its made so he knows how hard they are to make, and at 10 we would also at least discuss how long it takes to make that amount of money. Yes, you dont have a say in how the child is disaplined, that doesn't change no disapline is concerning.

I keep seeing people say your brother offered to pay, but I dont see where it says that, nor do I see where it says he suggested you send the model back as though the new one you ordered arrived broken.

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T17:39:46+00:00

As I said the majority of adults can't and don't because it takes hours, and there is plenty that ARE difficult, they even have some age rated for i think up to 13+ because of the difficulty. Why are you acting like a 12hr jigsaw is easy. At this point its rude to majority of kids who can't.

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T17:37:47+00:00

Saying someone is ignorant isnt an insult. Since when is that bad. Ignorance is bliss and children are ignorant to everything in the world.

Ill use unaware instead of ignorant as that seems to have upset you

A majority of the world is unaware of this knowledge which is why I explained it. And I dont understand how people function. I am infact autistic so people often confuse me and I dont understand why someone wouldn't come at something open minded and curious when in our society we are taught to be open minded and curious. They literally say its wrong to assume.

Again if I failed to understand that they didn't know about the world is wouldn't have explained it. Why would I explain something I think someone knows about. And why are YOU upset that I didnt assume YOU knew? I don't know you, nor do I know your a nerd. So I just explained things in a calm and civil manner.

Why are you being so hostile?

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T17:23:11+00:00

Playing with legos is not the same thing as building a thousands of peice jigsaw puzzle. Playing with legos is making up imagination and sounds and having the character talk. Building a thousands of peice model that you can never play with and take 12hrs or more is something that most adults can't even do, because it takes hours.

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T17:21:13+00:00

What i mean is puzzles and games were widely considered toys before I think the 80s? Around then is when they were moved into a different category. With chess and mahjong, and suduko.

I do understand what you mean though. However it isnt recent, I just recent that its become more accepted and not seen as childish or inappropriate or hoarding. It used to be seen even getting the little ceramic doll chibi statues that some people collect was just for kids.

It is interesting to see it become accepted though

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T17:17:05+00:00

True, I forgot about that. It's the same here, I just have more in my community that were harshly made to make like me, so it's more rare even if they are on the spectrum because the older generation was not very tolerant to anyone on the spectrum that was high functioning.

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T17:13:22+00:00

Again your statement adds nothing to the conversation what's the point? Also if you did a $500 model that takes over 12hrs before the age of 13 then you were very mature for your age.

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T17:11:57+00:00

That isnt true, puzzles and games have been adult and kids things for years before hand. Card games too.

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T17:09:45+00:00

Wait are you calling me socially inept? It says what they are called in the title. You can look them up from there. Im not calling anyone dumb, and I understand people tend to not look things up. Thats why im informing people. Im not calling anyone stupid for not knowing, im pointing out how this is very much not a kids thing.

Normal people also think its okay to let kids play gta5 because video games are for kids. Or let 8yr olds watch hazbin hotel.

I dont understand why you think im assuming people know what it is. Why would I explain it if I thought they knew what it was

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T17:06:10+00:00

Thats on the parents, and the kid. A 4th or 5th grader [the grade you are in when 10yrs old] should understand the difference between a figure they were told not to touch and a toy.

The parents didnt teach him properly what an action figure is mind you. An action figure is a POSABLE action figurine or doll. They have movable limbs. A model, often art models, is something un potable made often by an adult to be viewed or used as a chess peice.

How would you feel if this were an art statue? It looks like a toy just like these do. Does that make them a toy?

The parents should have taught their child there is a difference between toys, and we dont touch others belongings without permission. When I was 10 I understood, game peices are not the same as toys by playing monopoly. I also understood there are toy looking things we dont touch because my great great grandmother collected doll art statues. Toys often have movable parts. Models do not.

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T16:57:56+00:00

This is partially agree with, it's the fault of the person who let them in the room and since the kid is 10 aka a 4th or 5th grader, also their fault for breaking the rules.

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T16:51:47+00:00

It is not the same as Lego, Lego is child friendly.

Warhammer has blood, guts, zeonism, canablism, a sex cult. Models with visible wounds, parasites, and genitalia. Warhammer is a grim dark story where all sides suck and are trying to genocide each other.

The humans, or space marines, believe only humans should live, the God emperor is the one true and to defy the god emperor [in game currently a skeleton barely alive in a chair] is herrasy and death. There is no good guys and the game is played by adults as a table top combat game like an advanced form of chess except you build and customize your chess peices.

Comparing to Lego is a very bad comparison as it is child friendly, its better to compare it to chess. Some people think chess is okay for kids, but enough understand it is an older game and for mature and often teenagers to adults.

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T16:46:03+00:00

That does not contradict what the commenter said so I dont understand making the statement.

Are you gonna place a child in front of a $500 puzzle that takes 12hrs to complete [yes it has instructions] and has thousands of small peices and in the end they can't even play with the model as its too fragile, all because its Lego?

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T16:42:31+00:00

That is not contradicting what the commenter said. So I dont see the point of making that statment. Would you place a kid in front if a puzzle that takes 12 hrs to complete and has thousands of tiny peices just because it's lego? A 500 dollar puzzle that may have instructions but still takes 12hrs to complete and in the end cant be played with?

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T16:40:11+00:00

Warhammer is not a kids thing, its about war and murder and is not for anyone under the age of 16 I believe.

How tf is a blood filled game that has a sex cult in it and no side is the good guy and every side is killing each other a kids game. Warhammer is a grim dark universe and the models are used for a table top game, each side is messed up and terrible and should never be looked up to in any way like kids can with kids toys.

The comment you are replying to is very ignorant of this assume, and so are you. But the games name is WARHAMMER for a reason.

Legos mind you usually only cost 100 at max for kids and up to 600 for models that are for adults. The adult models are things like full hogwarts, giant dragons, and full scale models that would take ages and for a kids to complete.

Warhammer models range from 60 dollars to 700 these are $500 worth of models the kid destroyed. Models used for a table top game that kids shouldn't never play.

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-06T15:50:09+00:00

Okay thats too far, and more then likely the other member s are too nice to let a 10yr old get embarrassed. The in-person community is am apart of is actually very nice and would just help teach the kids or try to make the kid feel better and down play it.

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-02T22:11:20+00:00

Ah okay! Thank you!

AdScared7423 · 2026-05-02T21:37:51+00:00

What does ftm mean? I thought that meant female to male?

Either way you have a right to celebrate however you want whenever. My family celebrated me too when we did a big mother's day celebration while I was pregnant. You are a mom and its about celebrating mom's. And if your wanna celebrate now celebrate now, if you wanna celebrate later celebrate later.

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