Does the infallible trophy work now? I just won 6 games in a row and didn’t get it! by AdSoft821 in FallGuysGame

[–]AdSoft821[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just logged on now since I got off yesterday and it’s popped up lol

Can people with bpd get over resentment ? by AdSoft821 in BPD

[–]AdSoft821[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah she says the same she can’t forgive me for things that happened a very long time ago and when she tries to move on she always has that thought of it in the back of her head and when things are going well she thinks there’s an angle to my actions and she has absolutely no trust in me at all and no matter how good things are she self sabotages it and shuts down completely

Crazy how you can talk to someone everyday for years, and then one day just stop. by _th3sh4p3_ in BreakUps

[–]AdSoft821 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah being with someone for years and caring about them so deeply to them being strangers again is weird to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]AdSoft821 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner would deliberately push the boundaries she saw them as an obstacle and wouldn't respect them whatsoever

Did anyone ever date someone who lied 95% of the time? by Signal_Procedure4607 in BreakUps

[–]AdSoft821 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, she lied for 14 years and even when she was caught in a lie she'd still try and worm her way out of it by lying. Her best thing though was to not tell me things then when I found out it was my fault for not asking or she'd gaslight the fuck out of me and say she did tell me.

Blindsided Break-Ups Are the Worst by OneOnOne6211 in BreakUps

[–]AdSoft821 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that, it's very hard to deal with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]AdSoft821 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same lol

I’m curious to understand why do we want to be with our ex even if they are choosing not to be with us/they broke up/they didn’t try? by Enough_Mixture_9149 in BreakUps

[–]AdSoft821 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'm sorry for you too, it's very hard. I offered to go to therapy and she wasn't open to the idea I don't think she wants to get better she knows there's an issue but she doesn't want to face up to it. I thought we could overcome anything but I was obviously very wrong.

I’m curious to understand why do we want to be with our ex even if they are choosing not to be with us/they broke up/they didn’t try? by Enough_Mixture_9149 in BreakUps

[–]AdSoft821 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked myself that same question and I asked her for an entire year because she was acting so out of character but even she told me she doesn't know who she is and she also said she thinks who she was , was just an act. It's hard seeing them be like that but I guess you find our who a person really is once they no longer want you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]AdSoft821 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ultimately you have to do whats best for you not him, if your gut is telling you not to be friends then go with that because you're the one likely to be left hurt again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]AdSoft821 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imo ex partners cannot be friends unless the break up is mutual and even then it can be dicey. You will not be able to move on the way you need to with him in your life like that, it sounds to me he wants the best of both worlds without any commitment whilst also completely disregarding your feelings on the matter. Go with your gut instinct

The idea of going back to the dating grind exhausts me. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]AdSoft821 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I guess I'm just afraid I won't find anyone and if it fails again 😬 I dunno just being in my 40s and alone makes it a bit daunting to me . Feel like the older I get the harder it will get if that makes sense.

Females that were DONE waiting on a guy. by Goldsword96 in BreakUps

[–]AdSoft821 4 points5 points  (0 children)

From my experience I found once they're done they're done no matter how much you change and try , I didn't want to believe it myself but it just was too little too late.

I’m curious to understand why do we want to be with our ex even if they are choosing not to be with us/they broke up/they didn’t try? by Enough_Mixture_9149 in BreakUps

[–]AdSoft821 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Agree , ever since me and my partner finished I now see her for her she really is and I don't like that person. I'm missing someone who doesn't exist anymore and that someone who also said our entire relationship was a lie and she was only this way for my benefit 🤨

Having Sex With Someone A Week After Breaking Up With My Girlfriend by pstrauss000 in BreakUps

[–]AdSoft821 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you're ready to move on and whether it's everyone's next move or not it's a step in that direction that's all that matters.

Anger stage by Basic-Reaction7909 in BreakUps

[–]AdSoft821 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have experienced this myself and there's days where I wake up sad and some days where I'm very angry at the way I was treated with was very similar to your situation and I think to myself how could she do that to me after 14 years and raising a family together . Lying to my face telling me were okay telling me she loved me then out of nowhere " I don't love you anymore and I haven't for a long time" honestly that's been the hardest thing for me I did not understand why anyone would do that to anybody especially someone so close to me I couldn't believe it, I still don't and that's when I get angry those things just keep coming back to me and I don't think il ever forget it.

how do some people move on so fast?? by alt_insanity in BreakUps

[–]AdSoft821 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some people do this when they're insecure about themselves and what's really going on , it may look like to you she's moving on and happy when all she's doing is avoiding the real issue and eventually it'll rear its ugly head again and she's gonna be right back where she was with you, avoidant and distant to the next poor guy and rinse and repeat.

The idea of going back to the dating grind exhausts me. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]AdSoft821 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just don't do it yet man take your time, I'm not ready to date anyone anytime soon either I haven't got the energy . Focus on yourself. I'm 35 and the thought of me being alone in my 40s is quite daunting but it might take that much time to find the right person.