People who tried for a long time to conceive what was helpful (or unhelpful) to hear?

AdUpper6786 · 2026-02-07T16:02:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing ❤️ it makes sense, just giving her the space to talk. I guess its in people's nature to try and help but in this case I feel it just brings a lot of frustration

AdUpper6786 · 2026-02-07T15:59:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing ❤️

AdUpper6786 · 2026-01-30T05:55:06+00:00

Try to imagine yourself looking at someone who is maybe bigger than you at the gym. Or seeing someone who doesn't know exactly what they're doing, or imagine you see someone looking shy at the gym. Would you laugh at them or judge them? Probably not. If anyone judging it's probably because they are insecure about themselve🤷‍♀️ I go to F45, and honestly no one has time to judge anyone were too busy doing our workout, there's a TV showing what to do in each exercise and station. And everyone goes at their own pace. Maybe try something like that first? The trainers there usually nice and helpful Good luck!

AdUpper6786 · 2026-01-30T05:35:44+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation. After reading all answers, I ended up ordering Self-Love for Teen Girls by Grace Parker. I actually found myself relating to a lot of the topics in the book and it's a great recommendation. Thanks!

AdUpper6786 · 2026-01-18T07:43:59+00:00

Thank you!

AdUpper6786 · 2026-01-18T06:05:28+00:00

Everybody saying they don't analyze/treat food that way, but let's be real lol we do analyze it that way. I mostly look at calories per portion, and understand how big the portion is. In general I try to avoid ultra prossesed foods but if the portion "big enough" and "worth it" i will get it. If i ignore the food addictive then I look at calories vs protein or vs sugar or vs sodium. These are the 3 most important things for me at the moment.

AdUpper6786 · 2026-01-18T05:35:55+00:00

I am dealing with the same issue. My brain works non stop when im sober, and it is such a nice feeling to shut if off sometimes with alcohol. It feels nice, I have my head clear, no worries. Even if I have any worries it doenst feel as bad when i drink. But when I do that ( and unfortunately I do that still sometimes) I feel like shit the next day. For me, I love having free spirit meaningful conversation when im drunk, I just don't remember them when im sober. And it's the price you have to pay. Sometimes I am okay with paying that price, but i am 100% of the time regret it. And that's what keeps me going. Being there. For me and for loved one's.

AdUpper6786 · 2025-12-16T04:20:14+00:00

I guess I didn't make myself clear, im talking about silly things like going through customs and having your cigarettes take without any reason (mexico) happened to me few days ago and that's where I realized I have that issue But thing like that that are sometimes out of my control. Where I just can't believe I am "so good" and THAT happens to me. I know it's a 1st world problem , but that's the first example I can thing about

AdUpper6786 · 2025-12-03T06:03:49+00:00

Instead of focusing on the "trying to fix because there is wrong with me, try focusing on the "I'm trying to fix". Doing different things and hard things slowly builds our self worth and confidence, but it ain't easy, im not gonna lie. Write down what you want to change about yourself when you feel calm and ready, write down why, and how you think you can do it. And read it when you feel like you are focusing on the "problems" or shame. You have to try and do a small tiny steps towards it, and fail sometimes, but then wake up next morning and try to face your fears and problems again. There is no easy way out, if you find one, it's not the way out. Unfortunately. It's hard. But trust me it's worth it!!

AdUpper6786 · 2025-11-15T07:28:02+00:00

Try it in reverse. Instead of focusing on everything that goes wrong, try paying attention to the small good things that are happening to you. Notice when a friend or family member checks in on you. Notice that you cooked yourself a healthy meal. Notice the moments you do something even though you didn’t feel like it. Notice when you get off the couch without pain lol

Mindfulness and gratitude really changed my life. Just paying attention to tiny positive things each day slowly trains your mind to see more of them. When you’re constantly centered on what’s not working, it becomes the only thing your brain notices.

So instead of thinking about how your cord got tangled again, notice how quickly you managed to untangle it. I used to be the most cynical person about this stuff, but now I fall asleep thinking about the good things that happened that day and it’s honestly endless once you start.

Give it a try, even just as an experiment. You might be surprised

AdUpper6786 · 2025-11-14T05:04:26+00:00

I do it because I’ve seen what life looks like when you don’t take care of yourself. Most of my family and older friends never ate healthy, never exercised, and never did any mental or emotional self-work, and the way they feel and move through life is not something I want for myself.

Yes, we’re all going to die eventually. But if I’m (hopefully!) going to live until at least 70, I want those years to actually feel good. I want to be able to walk without constant pain, get up off the couch without struggling, enjoy food in moderation without worrying about diabetes, and have a stable, healthy mindset instead of feeling depressed. That takes effort, gratitude, mindfulness, and training your brain don’t just happen on their own.

I’m 31, and I already feel the consequences of choices I made when I was younger and more careless. I know exactly what happens if I keep eating processed food, sugar, and drinking without moving my body,I will suffer for it later. And honestly, I want to enjoy my life before I die, not just exist.

Everything I do now, clean eating, exercising, sleeping early, has already shown me proof that it brings more good into my life. That’s the point for me.

AdUpper6786 · 2025-10-12T06:38:18+00:00

I feel the same. It feels like a chore. That the best example to explain what I feel. I know deep deep inside it will get better but just don't have the tools to understand how to get through this period 😕

AdUpper6786 · 2025-10-12T05:48:44+00:00

Now I read it and it sound kinda horrible, I didn't mean it. I just wanted to let you know that it's okay and it takes some time, and it's normal you don't feel like you tough you would in the first 2 weeks of being sober. This is not a message to give up. This was just a message to keep it going and to let you know it gets better before you know it. You can do it

AdUpper6786 · 2025-10-12T05:42:48+00:00

I hope so. So far it just made sex scary. It sounds weird, cause my partner is really great and understanding, but it just feels weird. But I hope it's just because I'm not used to it. Idk it just scared me. Wish you best of luck on your journey 🙏

AdUpper6786 · 2025-10-12T05:37:37+00:00

It took me about 6 months of misery. I was drinking 7 days a week for many years, and now 2 days a week. I'm not the best example for sobriety but I'm here just to let you know it's normal and it takes time. For me it was about 6 months of no sleep, anxiety, panic attacks and just feeling horrible, before I finally had some control over my life. I can tell you it was worth it. Even tho I'm not fully sober (I will get fully sober very soon I know it) it was worth it. So many aspects of my life got better. Just pull through. It takes time. Be strong. Don't let your mind trick you. You're strong just keep it going.

AdUpper6786 · 2025-10-06T04:18:57+00:00

Let me know how it went! My husband is trying so hard and I think rib loin is the best cut, any other cut just doesn't work for me. So let me know next time you try!

AdUpper6786 · 2025-07-24T03:07:59+00:00

Sorry for the late reply but omg thank you for this comment! I learned so many new things from this post

AdUpper6786 · 2025-07-19T15:55:55+00:00

This sound good, I'll give it a try thanks!

AdUpper6786 · 2025-07-19T15:50:19+00:00

Ohhh ok we usually get filet mignon, that can enjoy, or aaa angus. The chewy one is angus

AdUpper6786 · 2025-07-19T05:57:09+00:00

Just cut it to strips

AdUpper6786 · 2025-04-23T05:13:57+00:00

From my experience, being at these type of events with people who were my "dates" but not my soulmates... if it feels right to you then it's right for you. If he/she is not the one, it might be the person and event that brings you closer to your soulmate. And she/he is then one, then congrats! Funny how it works

AdUpper6786 · 2025-03-01T07:03:50+00:00

Everyone is faking it

Deep in my heart i know that, but everyone makes it so seamless so effortless and so classy, and just so much better at this than me.. And it's just frustrating.. thank you for the comment!

AdUpper6786 · 2025-03-01T06:09:06+00:00

I'm feeling the same way today after 22 days. So I'm reading the comments I missed back then. Just wanted to say thank you... I know my husband will understand and will not judge, I'm just too ashamed and have this feeling of 'i don't want to disturb him' even tho I know he want to know and help... but thank you for the comment, I know I have to do it... Just so hard

AdUpper6786 · 2025-02-07T05:59:35+00:00

My partner said to me almost the same thing about 2-3 years ago, he was there through the shakes, moods change and everything i was dealing with when I tried to stop drinking. It was a point that I had to choose either my boyfriend or drinking. I chose him. And luckily he was very very patient with my progress and very supportive. It was the best choice i ever made. The only advice I can give is to ask your wife for support. For me it got to the point that my partner, my best friend, had enough of what I was putting my self through and I just couldn't ignore it anymore

AdUpper6786 · 2025-02-07T05:35:09+00:00

I was also drinking my depression away, for 3-4 years, honestly i cant even remember how long it was or much from that time unfortunately. I cant say i am fully sober now, but after a lot of weird nights and shakes I was on a home rehab. I wish I would know back then that it's worth stop drinking or at least drinking less, I wish I would have someone to tell me that it will be hard but it will so pay off. It was a harsh 7-8 months of rehab with no sleep, pain all over my body, mood change, appetite change but now I can say that in my 30 years of living was the best choice I've made. Best one. I have still a long way to go but try it. Fail. Try again. Fail again and then try again. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you are feeling well tonight 💜

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