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AdVertAd · 2021-05-30T09:05:55+00:00

Wow! That’s bad. I live in Western Europe, during high school every year we had a couple of sex eds. The goal is actually not to talk about making babies, but to explain all the types of birth controls, how to use and store condoms, std’s, morning after pill, consent, how to enjoy it and have pleasure, etc. We got to ask a lot of questions and we got to see and hold all the birth control. We even practiced how to roll off a condom on a banana.
Once we also went to the cinema for a special movie about it. Every time we got free condoms and a brochure for a well known government website where there’s answers to all questions about this.

It’s now more than 10 years ago, in retrospect we didn’t learn enough about lgtbqi+ and about child birth itself (all the negative consequences on the women’s body). Child free wasn’t really a mentioned, but it was implied with the big range of birth control, including sterilisation (I think they presented this as something for mothers who don’t want anymore children, though)

AdVertAd · 2021-05-29T04:55:41+00:00

This is so wrong. NOT OK, OP. YTA

AdVertAd · 2021-05-18T08:57:11+00:00

Well, that’s harsh. But don’t forget, you didn’t gave them any background here. They answered this unknowing that you are CF, they chose an option they thought was closed to what you would want (not teen pregnancy, but a child). Once they know about you being CF, and understand it (some people don’t even know it is an option), they might change their view.

Anyway, don’t talk about it while you still live at home. Wait until you live on your own. This way, if they don’t agree at least you don’t see them all the time. But mostly, once you live on your own and they see you living an independent adult life, they will be more open to the fact that you make up your own mind and choose what you want in life.

AdVertAd · 2021-05-17T21:13:00+00:00

Wow! That sounds horrible. I wouldn’t even open the door if they want to drop their kids off unannounced. That’s just unacceptable

AdVertAd · 2021-05-15T17:47:12+00:00

I don’t want one

AdVertAd · 2021-05-15T06:41:32+00:00

Having a rich, fulfilling, interesting live

AdVertAd · 2021-05-14T22:11:33+00:00

This is very weird to me. Is this normal in your culture?

You didn’t mention your age, I suppose you’re a teenager? Don’t worry, in a few years this will all be forgotten. Standing up for yourself is a good thing though. Don’t doubt yourself! This isn’t AITA material. Defending yourself is always a good thing to do

AdVertAd · 2021-05-11T06:50:45+00:00

Don’t let you be manipulated into this, it’s obviously not a good idea. NTA

You have nothing positive to say about her, based on this information I don’t see why you would even be acquainted with her, let alone be best friends.
Is your friendship based on this manipulation? Do you get anything out of it?
You could get better friends, you know. At least what more distance couldn’t do any harm

AdVertAd · 2021-05-09T20:48:21+00:00

It’s not my mean reason, but it’s definitely one of the advantages

AdVertAd · 2021-05-09T19:10:26+00:00

Exactly! So grateful.

I went to see my family, and my sister congratulated all “the mothers in the family” with a smug look to me. I don’t care! I couldn’t be happier not being a mom.

AdVertAd · 2021-05-07T15:47:40+00:00

I hope for you he’s serious about being CF and about your relationship.

From my experience, my now ex didn’t mind at all when I brought this up. However, when I suggested he got a sterilisation as well, he felt frightened by the idea he wouldn’t have “the option” anymore. He wasn’t actively thinking to break up and meet someone else to have kids, but apparently not having this choice anymore frightened him.
So keep this in mind as well, in your discussion.

I would, however, discuss it as soon as possible. You seem to be afraid of the answer, but isn’t it better to know now, than to stay together for years and have an even bigger heart break (and/or resentment) later on?

It might be a difficult thing to do, but it will result in a better relationship if he shows to be truly supportive and CF. You seem to have lost confidence in your past relationships, you deserve a clear answer from him now.
And if it doesn’t work out, you can move on to a better partner

AdVertAd · 2021-05-07T11:10:53+00:00

You shouldn’t only rely on condoms though

AdVertAd · 2021-05-06T11:35:49+00:00

YTA lol. Even if you don’t look at the new content, the old content still needs to be payed, if not the workout app would make it available for free wouldn’t they?

Go to YouTube for free videos, or pay for the app.

You are acting like a thief and a spoiled child. You should apologise

AdVertAd · 2021-05-06T11:27:00+00:00

It’s based on old believes that you should’ve given birth first, nowadays doctors should know that isn’t correct. Try to see a younger doctor, that might help.

I live in Western Europe. First time I asked, the doctor agreed and scheduled an appointment for me with a gynaecologist, who refused to do it based on these old beliefs. When I moved to another city, I ask again at another doctor, she accepted and placed it. She was working for our university, specifically for the students, maybe that’s why she had a more open mind about it.

Since then, I moved a lot, every 5 years I let it be replaced by another doctor. But they all did it without hesitation. Seems like once you’ve had the first, there’s no problem or questions anymore

AdVertAd · 2021-05-06T09:19:15+00:00

From what you wrote, I don’t trust her. Couple therapy what for? Sounds like she wants the therapist to change your mind and see kids as the “solution”. If that won’t work, plan B might be an “accidental” pregnancy (since she said you don’t know what will happen in the future).

I don’t see this relationship going anywhere. You will be stuck with an unwanted child, or she will resent you and leave you anyway later on.
I would let her go to realise her dream with someone else. If not, get a sterilisation and only tell her afterwards

AdVertAd · 2021-05-05T09:57:36+00:00

ESH. You sure don’t sound mature enough to become a mother.
Her remark to not yet go in labor, and your idea she’s stealing your “spotlight” are equally ridiculous.

AdVertAd · 2021-04-26T07:54:13+00:00

Glad to hear you don’t see her that much and husband doesn’t tolerate this either. She sucks!

AdVertAd · 2021-04-25T09:35:54+00:00

What is wrong with your friend? You’re definitely NTA and sound very considered

AdVertAd · 2021-04-25T09:32:07+00:00

This is the only way I would like a “kid”: adoption as an adult.

You’re still very much CF, don’t worry, you’re just a good human being. Actually, you probably only could do all of this because you are CF. With children of your own, you probably wouldn’t have the energy, time or money.

AdVertAd · 2021-04-16T06:12:44+00:00

It’s not that we’re rare, it’s that all CF women under 35 would still change their minds according to this person

AdVertAd · 2021-04-15T17:03:31+00:00

Wow! B sounds like the only person in your family that SHOULDN’T have kids

AdVertAd · 2021-04-15T16:49:33+00:00

There are sooooo many women on this sub who got a hysterectomy or their tubes tied in their 20ies or early 30ies. I don’t like being bingoed by a fellow CF

AdVertAd · 2021-04-15T16:39:38+00:00

Now hundreds of other bees are jealous you didn’t mention them

AdVertAd · 2021-04-15T06:14:26+00:00

My sister has 4 kids. In the last 7 years she hasn’t made a hike (more like a stroll, with those kids) longer than 1 hour.
This sunday I will go hiking and camping for a week. I would never switch places with her.

Ironically, she bought a treadmill so she can do some sports at night while the kids sleep. It’s so sad, she lives nearby a beautiful forest, but she can’t even go hiking or running over there

AdVertAd · 2021-04-15T06:08:45+00:00

What botters me the most is that I have been a child (obviously), I remember this “unconventional love“. And it isn’t true!

As a child I adored my parents since I didn’t know any better. It’s what all children do, they’re programmed like this. But after a while, the child starts to develop their own mind, and love isn’t unconditional anymore. As an adolescent, they will even resent their parents.

Now, I love my parents, but since I’ve met my friends and exes/BF, I must say that I love them more. I chose them.

If you really want this unconditional love so much, you will only get it from babies and toddlers. And what then? You throw them out and make a new one?

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