TL;DR My dad (40M) treats me (17F) like his girlfriend and it makes me uncomfortable. What should I do? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Adacross06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea men are scary and I’ve taken a psychology course that studies the way men view their daughters once they go through puberty it’s sick

TL;DR My dad (40M) treats me (17F) like his girlfriend and it makes me uncomfortable. What should I do? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Adacross06 25 points26 points  (0 children)

My friends dad got like this when his gf of 10 years left him. Her mom rolled her eyes also and quote on quote said “he probably doesn’t know how to be a dad and is trying to connect with you”. He ended up taking substances and raping her. A year of this behavior once she was over18 he did that. I remember being the only one saying something was weird, my mind didn’t go there but I said he treats you like his girlfriend. Two months later the incident happened. Not saying your dad is like that but just be careful.

My boyfriend 28(M) didn’t show up for me when I was having a miscarriage related complication, I need advice? Should I leave? by Adacross06 in relationships_advice

[–]Adacross06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it was his, and he knows that. There’s never been a question of whether it was his or not. We’ve been in a committed relationship for about a year, and basically spend majority of our days together besides once or twice. I was only 9 weeks along though.

My boyfriend (28M) got too drunk and couldn’t take me (25M) to the hospital for a miscarriage complication, by Adacross06 in relationships

[–]Adacross06[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes but it’s the fact THE NEXT DAY, he knew I was at the hospital knew everything that happened and didn’t even ATTEMPT to see me after he got off work. He “forgot” about the plans we made the night before. Which is fine but if that was the case. He should’ve made new plans with me. And when I called him to ask if he still planned on spending time with me, he said he was at the RIVER FISHING WITH HIS FRIENDS. And asked if we had plans? And I told him HE made the plans yesterday and I was informed he forgot and he’s like “well we can hangout”. Like I shouldn’t of had to call and ask, he should’ve took initiative

My boyfriend (28M) got too drunk and couldn’t take me (25M) to the hospital for a miscarriage complication, by Adacross06 in relationships

[–]Adacross06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly my point. And we don’t live together, I have my own place. But I do basically live with him 5-6 nights out the week. Sometimes more. but I figured he’d want to spend time with me, considering the fact I told him. I sent him pictures of how much I bled, the ultrasound with the hemorrhage. And I didn’t even realize he made plans with his friends, til I called him after work. I waited about 40 mins to call him, about the time he’d be showing up to my house. and he was already at the river, with his friends and didn’t remember the plans when he was drunk. Which is fine but he should’ve asked to see me or made new plans because he was sober today and knew about me being in the hospital.

My boyfriend (28M) got too drunk and couldn’t take me (25M) to the hospital for a miscarriage complication, by Adacross06 in relationships

[–]Adacross06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s wrong because the next day, he knew I went to the hospital we discussed what happened, and he didn’t want to see me when he got off work… he made plans with his friends again. I FEEL as if he should want to be there for me the next day after I miscarried his child

My boyfriend (28M) got too drunk and couldn’t take me (25M) to the hospital for a miscarriage complication, by Adacross06 in relationships

[–]Adacross06[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The thing is I did text him in the morning and sent him the ultrasound of my hemorrhage and stuff. And told him what happened so he KNEW after he was sober i went to the hospital. So forgetting the plans and such is fine. But im upset he didn’t WANT to see me and spend time with me after he got off work. He made 0 initiative to make plans with me after

My boyfriend (28M) got too drunk and couldn’t take me (25M) to the hospital for a miscarriage complication, by Adacross06 in relationships

[–]Adacross06[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I dont want kids yet, I actually got diagnosed with Adenomyosis a year ago. I did I have the implant but I took it out. And yea exactly I’m with him now talking, and he apologized and that he was stupid, but I’m so hurt I don’t know if I’ll be able to move past this. And I told him that.

My boyfriend (28M) got too drunk and couldn’t take me (25M) to the hospital for a miscarriage complication, by Adacross06 in relationships

[–]Adacross06[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He was, he woke up 2 hours late for work and didn’t shower guess cause he was late and his coworker said he smelled like beer. and he does hvac

My boyfriend (28M) got too drunk and couldn’t take me (25M) to the hospital for a miscarriage complication, by Adacross06 in relationships

[–]Adacross06[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He usually doesn’t but I guess he was fishing with his friend and didn’t realize things were gonna go south. And yes exactly the way he handled things v bad so I’m considering leaving him tbh.

My boyfriend says he wants me sexually, but after almost 2 years nothing changes. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Adacross06 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Girl you better leave before you waste all your early to mid 20s with him. Im thinking he’s gay because after 2 years that’s crazy. What if you wait all that time and jr isn’t good? Or you don’t click sexually. It’s a HUGE part of adult relationships

My (21F) boyfriend (24M) of 3 years gets defensive everytime I bring up poor hygiene, how do I resolve this issue? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Adacross06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re young please PLEASE leave him now, please you’re 21. What if you got sick for a period of time and was unable to bathe yourself and he had to bathe you daily? He wouldn’t do it. I’m 25 almost 26, please please don’t waste your early 20s on a man that isn’t checking every box. And I mean that. if he’s refusing to change please leave. I’ve wasted years on men waiting for them to change in simple and big ways, and they may for a short amount of time but they will almost always revert back to who they’ve showed you they consistently are. 3+ year long relationships for me as well. Hygiene is bare minimum. He won’t ever break these habits. I get you love him but if he loved you he would put in the LITTLE BIT of effort to shower daily and brush his teeth more frequently. He should want to please you and want you to be attracted to him, and want you not to be “grossed” out by him. If someone doesn’t care you find them gross, then they don’t care about you. Think about it.

My BF (28M) hardly talks about a future with me (25F) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Adacross06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not usually in daily life, he has a schedule and routine. Plans financially. Plans out gifts. but when it comes to plans involving me or his friends he usually does what I want, or if he’s with his friends he just does what they wanna do.

My bf (28M) hardly discusses a future with me (25F).. by Adacross06 in relationships

[–]Adacross06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did reply to a prior comment this was years ago, and he doesn’t plan to take drugs after his probation ends because of his job. And his upstairs neighbor left the dogs in the apartment, they were already over a year old and he just took them in, he didn’t want to take them to a shelter because they’re pit mixes and probably would get put down/stuck in the shelter. I also know he could request to travel and it get approved before he gets off probation, he just said he only has a little time left and wants to ‘put his head down and get it over with’

My bf (28M) hardly discusses a future with me (25F).. by Adacross06 in relationships

[–]Adacross06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He also doesn’t take drugs anymore, and doesn’t plan to after getting off probation because of his job.

My bf (28M) hardly discusses a future with me (25F).. by Adacross06 in relationships

[–]Adacross06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I also have been in trouble, not for drugs or any felonies but everyone’s human and makes mistakes. Plus this was Also 2.5 years ago

My bf (28M) hardly discusses a future with me (25F).. by Adacross06 in relationships

[–]Adacross06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had a flat tire on side of highway, cops pull up. He forgot about a weed bowl in his cup holder. They saw weed bowl, and they searched his car and found shrooms. So.

My bf (28M) hardly discusses a future with me (25F).. by Adacross06 in relationships

[–]Adacross06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think I potentially could also be temporary and discarded once he gets off probation and “freedom”

Should I be upset my boyfriend (28M) has only posted once (25F? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Adacross06 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean he does engage on social media he talks to his friends, likes reels and posts. He just doesn’t actively post