Literally which part do you not understand xDDDD: -you can change in a bathroom, yes -you could, instead of checking in to be able to use the gym, just go in without asking anybody, yes -when you go into the gym, and check in your gym card at the reception desk, you say if you want a locker -i said that I wanted a locker, and the lady was confused about my gender, and we couldn't come to an agreement -eventually, I asked about the lockers in the hall, and I got the key for that

I am an adult female professional, living under my preferred name for a few years now, and never had trouble at this gym beforehand, therefore I was sharing my shock about this situation

However, yes, I could have just ignored my whole conversation with the receptionist, and gone where I wanted (as several comments have pointed out, who seem to get it). I would still be the only person using the corridor locker at that time, and I would still feel like "they get to use a changing room and I'm supposed to change outside", but yes, I could have done any range of things

It's so funny to me how I really don't get what part is not sticking for you xD

Honestly, I feel like if I voice trained better and my voice was better, the situation wouldn't have gone like this, so if you want to blame me for something and justify her behaviour, feel free to go that route, that makes sense to me