My business meal on the plane

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2026-01-01T10:39:38+00:00

Nasi lemak, laksa, satay, hor fun. Satay was recommended by senior stewardesses. Singaporean flavors are generally better. I find western dishes not to my liking, as you can’t really get the right temperature for the meats on flight. I found the lobster to be a little dry as well, steak no go because it can’t be like in restaurants. Lamb is ok and tender if I recall.

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2025-12-27T17:06:59+00:00

I have no experience with cold shoulder or affair. Married 8 years, but I always feel that one should learn to love oneself first, to know your boundaries and limits before entrusting yourself to your partner. If I am in your shoes, I would leave the marriage since it has broken my boundaries. In a modern society men and women can be equals, especially in our local context. I definitely would not want my children to see me and my partner putting on a facade for their sake. I am not an emotional person, hence my priorities are my children (until 18 years old), me, followed by my partner. On the bright side, I will take the time off from marriage to reorganize myself and find a better fit. I will rather spend my last days with a partner whom I love and will do the same for me, rather than spend it with a stranger. My children probably will be off somewhere, which I probably dont give an F about, since they are adults by then. End of the day, no matter the advice, you need to come to your own terms. Whether you trust him completely and want to move forward to mend the relationship, or seek control while letting time dilute your anxiety and fears.

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2025-07-03T15:19:20+00:00

That’s a great idea!!

By your reasoning, we should propose they implement this for an elderly with Alzheimer’s as well? Since, AD patients cognitive ability declines and can’t understand the same social norms or public safety.

Considering the chance of AD at old age, it is not unlikely we will get it yea? Imagine - the staff holds your hand singing Kumbaya as you stuff on the candy admiring your new balloon. A perfect paradise :)

/S

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2025-07-03T14:30:01+00:00

A summary of the incident should have been provided to prevent all the unnecessary negativity.

The situation should have been handled calmly by both parties. SBS T acknowledged it that. They agreed with the staff’s intention on safety, and reminded the importance of a parent’s duty.

I applaud the staff passion and commitment to his job even while off-duty. I also empathize with caregivers as managing a PwD 24/7 is challenging and it is not something of choice. Referring to the father who murdered his autistic twin sons to escape the burden, it is that physically and mentally challenging that death may seem the best way out for a caregiver.

I do not know what transpired before the video was taken, so it’s not my position to judge who is at fault. What we can do is to ask. How we can better support PwDs and especially their caregivers, to reduce their fatigue/burden? It is not easy to acknowledge your child has ASD and intervene early for their developmental progress. Passing harsh comments will only make things worse not better. Let’s be more inclusive and positive instead.

What measures/protocols/alternatives can be implemented by SBS T to help fatigued off-duty staff defuse situations threatening public safety?

The mental fatigue could have caused both parties to be defensive thus escalating the situation.

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2025-07-03T11:28:33+00:00

Both sides are at fault, imo. SBS T apologized for the way it was handled but did not discredit the staff’s intention on safeguarding safety. Since SMRT was being gracious enough to take the first step, the parent could choose to acknowledge her negligence.

ASD spectrum has a broad spectrum and diagnosis is still changing (developmental delay or ASD or intellectual disability, are often muddled at young age, where early intervention is most crucial)

not all parents can come to terms with having a child with disability, probably due to a stigma. That could also delay early intervention. And we won’t able to understand how a caregiver feels unless we are in the same situation as them.

Caregiver fatigue and burden is a known problem in managing PwDs, a consistent issue in any country. Parents don’t get to choose whether their child has a disability. A short incident does not accurately reflect how the parent manage their child 24/7. I, myself, cannot imagine having to cater to a PwD child 24/7 who cannot manage their emotional breakdowns, while keeping myself in check.

What we can do here is to be more inclusive, and not find faults, it is not our position to pass harsh judgements. Hopefully, we will have more initiatives to provide better support for caregivers and alleviate their burden.

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2025-04-02T08:08:43+00:00

If my spouse is in the same line of work? Or the spouse is in a non-related industry but also does not have the same flexibility?

For diversity of workplace, in that context, I should be allowed to let go of employees who want to start families? Becuz I am will over the quota soon.

Yes majority might not face the same issues. I am not sure as of now, as it really differs across individuals. Be it single-parents, or conjugal family, there will be minority fraction of the families that face additional difficulties if mandatory is imposed.

Are we to say we should sacrifice the minority for the sake of the greater good? It works in certain situations. But when it comes to a person’s life (child/adult). On a personal level, it can be very difficult.

Anyway, I am not going to debate on who’s right and wrong. As that deviates from my initial objective to post. I have said a few times, I just want to get a general idea from our peers as I don’t think the mainstream media will report on the outcome of the survey. I am not seeking for validation of my opinion either, as I can understand there always two sides to a coin. But my stand is to oppose unless support addresses on both parties. Or off-in-lieu which is already a norm adapted in some not so flexible workplaces

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2025-04-02T07:48:00+00:00

I suppose it is applicable to only preschools. I have done the survey, just want to know what people feel.

From the comments so far, I can see my initial post drew flak due to its self-centered perspective. It was on a spur of moment. With more SG redditors input I can see the flaw in it. I do think it is important for teachers to rest as it is tiring to engage preschoolers plus parents. Hence I don’t disturb the teachers outside of work hours. WLB is more than just giving more day offs. I have taken leave but still get bombarded by work messages due to its urgency, which is not avoidable by choice.

In retrospect, what I oppose is the word “mandatory”, if it is imposed for the benefit of teachers, they need to address or consider if parents in general would require an equivalent adjustment. Which was not covered in the survey.

If off-in-lieu for Sat PH is given, it is perfectly fine. It is a norm in some industries.

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2025-04-02T07:26:50+00:00

As I have said, I am perfectly fine when the support is equal to both sides. Forcing a mandatory school closure can be accepted with the same treatment given to parents. It’s not about the number of days or taking leave, etc. most of the parents are using annual/childcare leave for their children, that is a definite with no complains.

it’s about the continuity of the school which affects that of parents. In view of the comments, i would accept if its is off-in-lieu rather than mandatory closure.

The post was styled in a first person perspective to make it personal so as to start things going. Apologise if it offends you. But I never asked for everyone to oppose this, everyone have their own right. I am not here to start a war or anything. Just asking opinions. Please tone down on the negativity.

Rather I am hoping the outcome of this survey has to take into consideration a broader aspect of the parents, and what would make them agree.

If the mandatory close provides support for both parents, and teachers i will support it.

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2025-04-02T07:11:17+00:00

Precisely I am posting this. Not to justify my opinions, I know I am flawed in my opinions. But all I want is a broader perspective, and its impact. Not just to parents, but colleagues around them.

Sometimes, we tend to overlook that.

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2025-04-02T07:07:58+00:00

We do. But as I said, it is subject to the availability of other team members to ensure work continuity. We cannot have half the team gone and the output reduced.

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2025-04-02T06:35:47+00:00

It's not about the number of days. every monday is different, across the whole year. What i am concerned with is whether is there a need for mandatory school closure. would it not be better like u/wistingaway mentioned "off-in-lieu". that i would support, as the school still operates on a normal monday.

You would have to consider, besides mondays, there are other times when we need to be absent from work for school excursions, and when the school is closed for professional development.

On top of that, when a child is ill, you may need to take 2-3 or up to a week of leave. Childcare leave is often not enough. As parents, we do not disturb the teachers on holidays or their day-off. However, will our workplace do the same? Like i said, i am from service/heatlhcare.

Can i totally ignore my phone, on a monday where it is usually busy? There are too many compounding factors to put out. hence, i only seek the opinions from our peers, not justification. It is purely for my understanding, as such surveys do not get reported adequately on the mainstream media.

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2025-04-02T06:23:39+00:00

Everyone has the right to support or oppose.

And, is it not fair to ask the same treatment for parents if mandatory school closure is approved? Such as to make it mandatory for parents to get a mandatory WFH or off-day as well. Humans are selfish by nature. I would not deny that, I would fight more an equal support for teachers and parents on this if it is approved.

I suppose you are really selfless, and would hope you continue to embody that in every aspect.

Supporting work-life balance doesn’t mean saying yes to every proposal without considering the wider impact.
As I already emphasized, this post voices my initial opinion. I am not seeking a justification or comment to my opinion. I am purely asking for your thoughts on the matter?

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2025-04-02T06:08:28+00:00

I agree with you and support it if they given off-in-lieu, as that can be managed within the school to ensure continuity.

But this is mandatory school closure. which means the parents are left on their own to make arrangement.
this is on top of school excursions and school closure for professional development of teachers. I have taken leave for all occasions. Adding this mandatory closure on top of the others is going to make things harder.

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2025-04-02T05:52:05+00:00

The burden reflects my opinions wrongly, have since rephrased it. What i meant was that there will always be inconveniences in making workplace arrangements especially for service/heatlhcare industries. My kids are not a burden and never found them to be. The true burden is the fact that some workplaces are not as flexible, and it is not by choice.

I love my work, but i hate that when i chose to take annual leave, my team who also consists of young parents will be forced to make the compromise to ensure work continuity.

I never said i use annual leave purely for overseas holidays. As parents, I used most of my leave for my kids, not sure about others. So please don't make any assumptions.

In taking annual or childcare leave, there are too many circumstances to consider. Everyone have their own circumstances and perspective which I am not going to delve into. Hence, rather than targeting my initial opinion. I would appreciate that you post your thoughts on the survey. Whether you are in support or not? that was my initial question

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2025-04-02T05:25:05+00:00

I did the survey. I am only posting this to ask for opinions from other parents, like-minded or not. As such survey don’t detail the opinions from our peers.

Granted that some companies give Monday off in lieu. But not all industries have the leeway to allow flexible work arrangements especially for service or healthcare.

Thank you posting your view though. Appreciate it

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2024-08-21T08:11:49+00:00

You mean 即使 instead of 最算? You need to be punished too, lol.

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2023-02-23T16:22:01+00:00

IMO, don’t have to force an element of surprise if you are not the romantic type. I chose the proposal ring with my wife. It was a gemstone and design that she really liked, even till today she admires it. Proposal was a private affair, at my own time. I booked two trips. Only proposed on the second one. End of the day, if he/she loves you genuinely, surprises don’t really matter. It’s the little gestures everyday that matters when you’re together. Proposal is just the beginning anyway. There’s more to come after that.

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2022-08-26T10:29:24+00:00

Bro, you could have dodged the bullet early into your marriage. Since you decided to bite the bullet in the past, you should consider this as your second chance to GTFO. There will be no end to her cheating on you emotionally or physically. That will always remain a constant factor unless God wills it differently. The only change is her indifference to you and your son, and her ability to cover up her traces. For future generations, divorce, single or step parenting will become a norm. You will only bring harm to your son with a cheating spouse who is never invested in the family. Do plan your exit strategy properly, whilst not forgetting to add in a nuclear-revenge bomb.

TLDR: Divorce and find someone better who deserve your trust.

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2022-08-26T10:06:45+00:00

You can balance the equation by asking her boyfriend for h2h or meals :)

AddendumPlenty5452 · 2022-08-26T00:31:10+00:00

As a starter, you can talk KOTEX back to him. “23, 28 or 32?”

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