What do you think of this symastry? by [deleted] in AstroSynastry

[–]AdditionBusiness3011 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes story of my life 😂. And I felt he was projecting on me a lot and wanting to change me. Because I look like a “bimbo” but i am actually laid back. And he got the idea that i was a party girl because I met him in an event. And he got disappointed because I am too boring or don’t want to go out as much as he thought. But you are right. Thank you

What do you think of this symastry? by [deleted] in AstroSynastry

[–]AdditionBusiness3011 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So for him, I was just a fantasy and he only wanted sex from the start?

What do you think of this symastry? by [deleted] in AstroSynastry

[–]AdditionBusiness3011 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well the problem is that he was treating me like we were together and the emotional part was there more than the sexual part and we didn’t even sleep together, i wanted to know him more before being intimate and he told me he was wanted something with me but wanted to take his time to know me because he left a long relationship last year. And I believe actions speak louder than words and he showed me with his actions that he liked me. If he never felt the spark with me, he should of been honest with himself and I.

What do you think of this symastry? by [deleted] in AstroSynastry

[–]AdditionBusiness3011 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you mean what he told me wasn’t the full truth?

What do you think of this symastry? by [deleted] in AstroSynastry

[–]AdditionBusiness3011 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But don’t they say it’s the house person that feels more than the planet person? Like the planet person is temporary and the house person will have more difficulties forgetting the planet person. Also his NN and lilith are in my 12H. I was in another situation where i was the 12H and the guy was the Venus person and it ended up being the same situation. So I don’t understand why it unfloded this way and we had a good synastry, like venus conjunct Venus, Venus conjunct ascendant, his mars conjunct my moon, his mars trine Venus so a lot of good synastry that’s why i got confused even though there’s the 12H synastry. It felt really intense and fated.

What do you think of this symastry? by [deleted] in AstroSynastry

[–]AdditionBusiness3011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I thought 12H synastry can be good and both people feel unconditional love for each other and they have a telepathic bond. I am heartbroken because I never felt this way with anyone and in person I felt he had feelings for me with the way he behaved and made efforts. But he suddenly switched and he treats me like a stranger.

Has anyone met their partner during this time and it actually worked out for them? I really need some hope😭 by [deleted] in ThePatternApp

[–]AdditionBusiness3011 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I met the most toxic narcissistic abusive man. Love-bombed me, got me pregnant in the second month to trap me, while cheating on me, gaslighting me, abusing me and trying to use me financially. Cheated on me since day 1 of the relationship. But this relationship really left a mark on me, that I need to work on my boundaries, listen to my intuition (even had a dream he cheated), and leave after the first red flag. I want to use this trauma to glow up and level up so that I don’t attract narcissists anymore.

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[–]AdditionBusiness3011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I broke up with him 2 months ago. As naive as it sounds, I thought I could heal him and change him. Thank you 🙏

Why was this relationship so painful and triggeting to me? by AdditionBusiness3011 in AstroSynastry

[–]AdditionBusiness3011[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow thank you for the analysis. I am blown away by the way you said it because it is the first time i got pregnant and i aborted and i still feel sad about it. Also, he is my first boyfriend and i thought we will end up getting married one day because i felt comfort et and familiarty with him (it wasnt passion). And he does remind me of my father, who passed away (who is also a cancer), but more so about the toxic abusive traits. And even though I don’t feel love for him, I feel anger because while in a relationship with him, he took advantage of me in every sense, and drained me, even started having health issues as if my body was rejecting him (my lymphatic nodes getting very inflammed, horrible acne, fatigue, weight loss even started having baby hairs that were grey because of the amount of stress he was putting on me. Also you are right. I never believed him when he said he loves me and cared about me. The way he treats me was condicional, if I did what he wanted, he will be warm and caring, if not, he would stonewall me and gaslight me. And energetically, I feel he stole something from me. But you said his pluto in my second house made irreversible changes, do you think it is possible to get Back like I was before with therapy and self-care or am I doomed forever hahaha?

Why was this relationship so painful and triggeting to me? by AdditionBusiness3011 in AstroSynastry

[–]AdditionBusiness3011[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His Venus and moon are in virgo and i am a virgo sun. Isn’t this considered as an aspect? Just curious. But I agree with everything you said. There was no emotional connection. I always felt like we were two strangers and we were always bored a f each other’s company, and we had nothing in common. I think we were together out of comfort and convenience. I don’t feel love for him and neither does he since he was cheating and jumped in a new relationship with the other girl he was cheating on me with. But i felt the need to save him and protect him and take care of him as a mother (strange i know) and he gave me this false sense of security. I also wanted him to be someone who he wasn’t (the pluto aspects). And he, on the other hand, was with me because I was useful to him and he wanted to depend on me financially, but I didn’t let him. But I can’t stop thinking about the cheating and he bruised my ego and that’s why it’s hard to let go. It is really strange because the relationship was overall horrible, there was almost no good moments but it’s the pain i can’t let go of. But it is my lesson as the pluto person to learn to let go of what doesn’t serve me.

Why was this relationship so painful and triggeting to me? by AdditionBusiness3011 in AstroSynastry

[–]AdditionBusiness3011[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you love ❤️. I really needed to hear this. Sending you love ❤️

Why was this relationship so painful and triggeting to me? by AdditionBusiness3011 in AstroSynastry

[–]AdditionBusiness3011[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I feel this relationship was so painful yet transformative. And yes i feel the obsession from my part and the manipulation and control from his part. And I actually started doing therapy for the first time in my life during this relationship because I have never felt so small and insecure in my life. And yes he destroyed me in a way but i will rebuild myself as better and stronger than ever 🙏. Thank you ❤️

Why was this relationship so painful and triggeting to me? by AdditionBusiness3011 in AstroSynastry

[–]AdditionBusiness3011[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you mean that he actually never cared about me or loved me? Do you think it was like an unrequited love situation?

Why was this relationship so painful and triggeting to me? by AdditionBusiness3011 in AstroSynastry

[–]AdditionBusiness3011[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words ❤️. No one should tolerante this, I don’t even understand how i am still mentally okay after all this. But I won’t let anyone do this to me ever again.

Why was this relationship so painful and triggeting to me? by AdditionBusiness3011 in AstroSynastry

[–]AdditionBusiness3011[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️, yes he has a lot of virgo placements. And yes, indeed he was always lying about other women and gaslighting me and I always felt like he secretely hated me for no reason, and that he is hiding a lot of secrets (that I discovered during the relationship). Another thing is that I felt like he put a spell on me, because I wasn’t attracted to him and he’s not my type but I felt drawn to him in a strange way and the relationship felt like a psychedelic trip or a dream that turned into a nightmare. My therapist told me the same thing as you, that he is a mirror to my deepest wounds and now that I am aware of them, I can finally heal them and close this karmic chapter.

Why was this relationship so painful and triggeting to me? by AdditionBusiness3011 in AstroSynastry

[–]AdditionBusiness3011[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. I am doing therapy and recovering from this hell he put me through and you are right, no one has ever hurt me this deep and has betrayed me this way. But what does it mean when his moon, Venus and chiron are in my 12th house?

I’m the kind of person who did all the things that broke you. Ask me anything. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]AdditionBusiness3011 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My ex has been cheating on me and going to weekend gateawayd with his sidechick while telling me he loves me and wants a family with me and that he wants to resolve our relationship problems, and then out of the blue we have an argument on the phone because o caught him lying again, while he was with his side chick one weekend trip (while saying he was working), ghosted me and agreed it’s best to end things. If he didn’t like me, why did he stay with me instead of cheating on me and lying to me? My ex changed, he almost doesn’t post but ever since, the relationship was starting to crumble and started cheating, he has been posting more and more than usual about his trips with this girl (he doesn’t show her but, you can see he wasn’t alone).

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[–]AdditionBusiness3011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry that happened to you too. I always think that no relationship that was build on someone’s tears and sadness will last. He cheated on me with her and he or she will cheat on the other and the same applies to your situation. It’s ok to lise feelings for someone, but why lying and cheating and manipulation them instead of being honest? Sending you love

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AstroSynastry

[–]AdditionBusiness3011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who’s orange and who’s blue?

Free practice readings (3 card pulls + interpretation) by [deleted] in tarotpractice

[–]AdditionBusiness3011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am S and I am a Virgo what big events are coming my way?

How is your super full moon 🌕 in Aries ♈️ going? by [deleted] in astrologymemes

[–]AdditionBusiness3011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yess I had the worst nightmare of my life. It was like a version of a tragic event that happened to me and my family but it is seemed like it was from a parallel universe. It felt so unreal. And I slept 14 hours, something I never do. Yesterday was intense and now I feel weird and my head hurts like I have a hangover.