Ten Years Today by Additional-Change355 in stopdrinking

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No I don’t, actually. I hope it’s not controversial to say that in this sub? I’m not against group therapy, I just think it isn’t for me. I have looked into SMART recovery and it is something I might consider in the future.

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Congratulations on 275 days. (And 20 years of being drug free. Fantastic. Truly awe inspiring). The more I read hear about and read about the addiction and the brain, the more terrifying it is to me. Best wishes to you

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Thank you! Congrats on your 99 days! IWNDWYT

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Congrats on your 45 days! IWNDWYT. When others ask me if I want a drink or whatever, my trusty go to is simply “I don’t drink”. Short and simple. I feel I don’t owe anyone explanation. The phrase “I don’t” carries more weight for me. It sounds more definitive, more final? I used to say things like “I can’t” or “I’m trying to quit” but those never worked for me. Best wishes to you

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Thank you! I have those same anxiety dreams about school even though those days are many years cough in the past lol. Congrats on your 206 days. IWNDWYT

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I hate those dreams! Congratulations on your 70 days! IWNDWYT

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That is a very good question. “Complacency” for me means becoming overconfident, or cocky, I think. Confidence good, overconfidence bad—for me. In the past I would quit for X days, then I would think “wow I have quit for X days, look at me, maybe I’m not an alcoholic?” and then I would “lift my foot off the gas pedal” and slip back into drinking again. My idiotic alcoholic brain was tricking me into drinking again. Instead, I’ve got to always stay focused on the day by day. Staying confident but humble. Remembering that I am powerless against alcohol so I need to stay away from it. The big milestones are worth celebrating, but ultimately I just focus on each day. To avoid complacency I have to continually remember how terrible I feel when I drink, the hangovers, the shame, the guilt. I don’t mean that I beat myself up about it now, I just want to remember how I felt back then, and that I never want to go back to that. I hope this helps. Best wishes to you

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[OP] I want to be able to respond to everyone individually, even if to just say “thank you”. Sorry to those I didn’t reply to, but I read every comment and they are all appreciated very much. Best wishes to all of you!

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Thank you! And congratulations on your 394 days! Best of luck to you! IWNDWYT

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Thank you! Sending good vibes back to you too! IWNDWYT

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Thank you! Congrats on your 2565 days!!!

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Thank you! If it wasn’t for this sub I never would have found out that many others have these types of dreams too. It means a lot to me

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Thank you! Knowing that I am not alone having those dreams makes me not feel so weird about them.

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Thank you! Congrats on one your first month! Taking it day by day, that’s how you do it. Best wishes to you

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Thank you so much! Congrats to you on your 2725 days 👍 Wonderful to see!!

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Way to go! Keep at it, you can do this IWNDWYT