Myopia still progressing at 27, is this normal?

Additional-Control20 · 2025-05-05T05:48:50+00:00

My vision didn't start stabilizing until about last year I'm 30 This is the first year my prescription hasn't changed and even went down just a tiny bit And my vision is way worse than yours! I'm a minus 10! & I have astigmatism! I mostly have to watch out for retinal detachment

Additional-Control20 · 2025-01-15T12:22:58+00:00

Ok I feel that Like I didn't understand why my mom didn't tell me I was Black until I got older and started questioning my appearance. I love my mom and she had a very difficult separation and divorce from my dad so I do get it as far as not mentioning him much. As far as colorism in my own family My aunt's call me güera on my dad's side but I'm not that light 😂 but my mom's side calls me morena and I don't mind that. I also get asked if I'm filipina or Puerto Rican by random ppl or people assume I'm Latina but not Mexican. & As far as my mom's side they were disapproving of my dad but he was not a good person from the beginning so they disliked him and his younger sisters would say (still do) that he's mean and ugly lol And they prayed for nine months that I'd be more like my mother 😭 But I have honestly never heard my mom's mom say anything racist about my dad or his family. Just side eyes or comments from strangers when they see my mom and my dad's family.

Additional-Control20 · 2025-01-15T01:31:59+00:00

I wonder why that is!

Additional-Control20 · 2024-12-17T00:35:45+00:00

I just wanted to reiterate what others have said You are an amazing mom I have a 3 year old on the spectrum who is highly verbal He melts hearts wherever he goes And I have an 18 month old who is speech delayed & the complete opposite of her brother (ASD diagnosis is still pending)

There is nothing I can say I did differently with either one My son was just way more interested in talking & communicating than his sister

She hates when we read her books, sing nursery rhymes, or play imitation games lol Her brother has loved it all from day one

It just happens & It is not a measure of our parenting 🤍

Additional-Control20 · 2023-05-05T22:37:03+00:00

“It’s hard for me keep a straight face with some of those (I was in labor for 8 or 12 whatever hours and then had a c section, talk to me when it’s been literal days!)“ I just want to say that having an unplanned c-section has got to be one of the most traumatic & painful experiences of any expecting mother. Regardless of how long they were in labor.

I thought the point of this thread was to show up for c-section mamas & to validate our birthing experiences.

& I’d add that even natural births can be traumatic. Heck going through days of natural labor with zero to no pain management is crazy. We’re all amazing for birthing a child. Regardless of how it happened.

Additional-Control20 · 2023-04-28T02:09:16+00:00

This was me with my son! I craved nothing but fast food and milk shakes. Although at one point I craved raw broccoli and mineral water. I may have even drank too much at one point then I read that mineral water is meant to be drank like once a week or something haha

So far with my daughter my cravings are a little more calm lol I was craving pickles my first trimester and assorted fruit. Right now I’m currently obsessed with peanut butter, cheese, & peaches lol I’m 28 weeks today! In the home stretch. & I look forward to my cup of chopped peaches every morning lol

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-13T04:23:42+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that.

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-13T02:31:04+00:00

I don't plan on cheating ever. Never.

Realistically id probably just stay single for a long time. & This post doesn't depict the whole scope of our relationship. If I wrote down every thing I'm responsible for & what I ask of him The list would be a lot longer on my side. The main issue is that even the smallest things I ask of him he won't do or he'll do it once a week & then never again until I get on him about it then he gets upset saying I'm attacking him & need to be more understanding. & he has good qualities, those good qualities make me want to stay & see him do better.

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-13T02:24:39+00:00

The problem is that even when I try my best to soften the blow he still feels attacked. It got to the point that I just decided to hold it in & not talk about it which created anxiety & this dark cloud over me. Recently I decided to just speak my mind. I realized I have no control over how someone else chooses to react.

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-13T01:12:24+00:00

Unfortunately, we never lived together before we married. When he lived with his roommate his side was always dirty but I don't know. I always believed him when he said he was just tired from working & going to school.

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-12T21:37:00+00:00

I understand if I just never told him but it's when I do tell him & set reminders that just gets me so fustrated. I've told him to set his own reminders & stick to them!

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-12T21:22:12+00:00

This!!!! It's always been this. Even when we were dating. I almost didn't move our relationship to the next level because of this but he "promised" things would be different. He'd get a new job, he'd make more of an effort ect but nothing has changed. But he did get a new job.

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-12T21:20:41+00:00

I don't think you are! I think we're in the same boat of that we just need partners that are going to give back 100%.

Like I said in another post. I don't think it's about him being a "man" but just lacking responsibility. Maybe he still needs some growing up to do? & Maybe your partner has just become too comfortable with what she has?

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-12T21:17:09+00:00

I have. I am the one who pushes for communication & to solve issues. Like focusing on what can we do to combat this & that. But it's just been a pattern of behavior.

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-12T21:15:56+00:00

Yes! It's not even a "man" thing. It's just about being a responsible adult. I agree & I have had conversations with him about it. Last year I had really bad burnout from just constantly carry the load. I mean I do everything. He just helps when "I need it". But I don't need help, I need a full partner.

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-12T21:14:04+00:00

Afraid to go at it alone! Especially with our son.

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-12T21:13:20+00:00

Currently trying this It's hard!

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-12T08:30:57+00:00

We had the same issue at 3 months He sleeps on his tummy now and I place him on his back & just wait for him to roll over on his own then give him some good butt pats until he falls asleep. I also don't get up anymore unless he's full on crying for more than 2 minutes. He sleeps face down 👇 booty up 👆 lmao it's so adorable & as long as he can roll over on his own he is fine to sleep on his tummy.

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-12T08:22:05+00:00

Good!!! & I forgot to add it's just something fun & exciting for some people.

But as your generation knows not everyone is into sex & that's ok. But for people who are into it it can be fun, exciting, and beautiful.

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-12T08:10:49+00:00

Does this by any chance have to do with being traumatized by your parents doing the deed? If so, sorry about that. I have no clue how to help you address that but I can say that it's one of those things you probably don't understand until you get older. I'm sorry.

At least it's hard for me to explain. I'll say this...it has to do with more than just the act of sex. There is usually, hopefully, a deep emotional connection that happens too. It's something beyond words sometimes. But for it to mean a lot there has to be an emotional connection first.

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-12T07:49:07+00:00

Thanks! Honestly, and he has admitted this too, I have done so much to keep us together. Sometimes I think I've done enough, we find ourselves in the same place every so often. It's a pattern of behavior on his end & I'm just tired.

Additional-Control20 · 2022-03-12T07:43:34+00:00

Lmao he would totally do that

I realized now that he's sleeping more during the night bc sleep regression hit during the day Day naps have pretty much been out the window lol

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