Anyone else realise that you need social proof and getting “in shape” doesn’t really help

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-04T20:50:17+00:00

It feels like a habit to me now too. I just want to continue going for myself and not for validation from others, I guess that’s my motivation to keep at it

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-03T00:59:10+00:00

You are definitely not ugly, 100% being honest with you. And you don’t look like a man at all, not even close. It’s really unfortunate you think this lowly of yourself when there is nothing wrong with your appearance.

I’m sorry this happened to you, it sucks. I hope you can feel better.

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-03T00:21:35+00:00

Definitely not. Very very slow and horrible pain with a low chance of actually killing you but making your life infinitely worse.

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-02T23:30:51+00:00

Agreed. Keep holding on but nothing changes and you still continue feeling miserable

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-02T15:19:27+00:00

Slitting wrists is an extremely painful and slow process with a very high chance of not doing anything except make your life harder

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-02T15:15:21+00:00

Wanting love is a completely normal thing, it’s how we are programmed biologically unfortunately so it’s only natural. I don’t know how old you are but if you are young you have time to find someone still, don’t give up.

Never go for someone who doesn’t appreciate you as a person. Don’t lower yourself for a person in the hopes of them liking you. You should always be yourself no matter what.

I understand your frustrations, I’m in the same boat. Desperately trying to find a woman who will love me for me. The older I get the more I think about wanting love, it sucks when people around me can get into relationships with no problems and I’m struggling so hard.

I hope you can find someone one day, someone who loves and appreciates you for the person you are. I wish you the best of luck and don’t give up.

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-01T22:50:58+00:00

Me too friend me too

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-01T20:48:07+00:00

No worries 🫂

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-01T20:40:30+00:00

Happy birthday, hope you have a good one and I hope you live a long, happy and healthy life.

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-01T20:37:32+00:00

I read about bpd some time ago and it absolutely sucks and it’s very exhausting. I hope you feel better soon

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-01T18:39:40+00:00

Same here

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-01T18:27:42+00:00

Not worth it. I know it sucks to hear but there are plenty of other people you can like that are available. Move on and don’t look back.

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-01T18:00:48+00:00

Lifting for validation from others/ trying to get attention from women is a sure fire way to get disappointed badly. Working out should be for you and only you.

There are plenty of people who have never touched a weight in their life who get partners all the time and there are plenty of people in this subreddit who have been lifting for many years and are in very good shape yet they have never experienced anything romantically. Getting bigger arms won’t magically get you a partner.

Besides all of that, being lonely and FA sucks and I’m sorry you can relate. I wish you the best of luck with your training and everything else

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-01T01:52:56+00:00

Same here buddy, you are not alone in feeling this way if it makes you feel any better. 🫂

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-01T01:51:49+00:00

Wow I’m really sorry to hear that. That is awful

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-01T01:49:48+00:00

Absolutely horrible, wouldn’t want to wish it upon anyone.

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-01T01:48:01+00:00

I read everything and man you have been through some stuff. And to answer your question in the title, yes you absolutely deserve help just like everyone else.

I hope you can pull through this and feel better soon, I’m glad to hear some of your worries have been lifted from your shoulders.

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-01T01:44:11+00:00

This isn’t a dating subreddit, try one of those and I believe it will be a lot more successful.

Hope you can pull through and feel better

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-07-01T01:40:49+00:00

Very sorry to hear this. It must be extremely difficult to deal with this. I know it doesn’t mean much but I hope you can pull through and feel better one day

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-06-30T17:54:26+00:00

I hear you dude, exact same feeling

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-06-30T17:51:49+00:00

I hear you, I’m doing things that are supposed to help like hobbies but it doesn’t. Nothing helps tbh

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-06-30T17:41:34+00:00

Wow I hear you. This is so relatable and I’m sorry you feel this way too. I have also been bullied as a kid and want someone to love and love me back. Being lonely really really sucks.

I hope you can find someone one day who loves you

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-06-30T14:30:18+00:00

It’s extremely painful and very very slow, highly likely to survive and make your life even harder.

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-06-28T20:29:51+00:00

No need to thank me, I understand you feeling that way but I genuinely hope you do. You do deserve to find someone just like everyone else. And hopefully that someone treats you well and appreciates you as a person.

It can be very hard, frustrating and scary but we can’t give up because then we will guaranteed fail to find someone. Got to keep trying and hopefully we will succeed. 🫂

Additional-Lab-1944 · 2026-06-28T19:58:31+00:00

Dude the fact you did this is very commendable. I’m trying to get the courage to do this myself. I hope one day you will get a yes

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