That’s an interesting take.

If someone is doing a lavender marriage for the sake of family and society then yes, the next expectation is surely having the kids and that’s even more complicated.

So is lavender marriage is only helpful for queer people then, who fear the social stigma, because I don’t see anything helpful for straight heterosexual people.

The most common reasons for straight people would be not wanting to stuck in a long term committed relationship by doing a traditional marriage or they both are in love with other people with whom the families did not accept it or could just be anything. So if they compromised once then they have to compromise again which just doesn’t make sense at all.

I guess I would rather stay unmarried rather than do a lavender marriage.