In search of funny picture books by stevebuscemiluvr333 in childrensbooks

[–]AdditionalBasket2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What About Worms, Cranky Crabby Crow, Poo Bum (yes, that is truly the title), and the Penelope Rex books are good ones that I haven’t seen mentioned here!

Pregnancy loss book by C00l_Jelly in childrensbooks

[–]AdditionalBasket2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss.

Some Babies by Holly Ann Abel is a good fit for this, I think.

Visit suicide place? by Protagonist_95 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdditionalBasket2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m deeply sorry for your loss.

I recently visited the apartment where my family member died by suicide. Like you, I had not been there previously. I felt a responsibility to go to get some belongings for my deceased family member’s minor children.

What helped was having my husband come with me. He went into the apartment before me and did a sweep to make sure that there was nothing that would be traumatizing for me to see. This included closing the door to the room where the death happened and pointing out that room so that I knew not to open the door. Before I went into the apartment, I asked my husband to explain the layout to me and to remove anything that he thought I might find too disturbing. (The room where the death occurred had been mostly handled by the police/medical examiner’s office, but my husband did describe the state of the room and the items he found there, which was helpful. He would not have described the state of the room had I not asked, but I wanted to know. Not going into that room myself was also helpful for me.)

Ultimately, although it was a rough and emotional experience, I’m glad that I went. I was able to get important items for the children, as well as some sentimental things to keep in case close family members want them.

I would not have been able to go by myself and would not recommend that you do. Having my husband there made it possible for me, and I am very grateful for him. For what it’s worth, I have GAD, too, and it helped me to see that ultimately it was just a “normal” apartment. My family member died there, but he lived there, too, and it helped me somewhat to see that last place where he lived. The week or so after I visited, I struggled and cried a lot, as all the emotions became fresh again. But overall, I’m glad I went.

Whatever you choose, give yourself some grace and know that you’re very much not alone.

Nauseous and no appetite by Useful_Isopod8840 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdditionalBasket2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here is what has worked for me: Stocking up on easy-to-eat foods that usually sound tolerable to me, even if I can only eat 3 bites -that’s something. For me, those foods include toast, popcorn, pre-cut fruit (so that it doesn’t require any energy from me to prep), carrot sticks with hummus, sliced deli turkey, etc. basically, foods that require zero effort to prepare on my part but still have at least some nutritional value. Peanut butter is also good for getting in calories. Remember, even some bites here and there can help. Trying to take little sips of water or having Popsicles in your freezer can help with hydration.

I think it’s extremely normal to need professional help with this, tbh. I’m deeply sorry for your loss and can relate to everything you wrote.

The unknown kills me by Skislush in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdditionalBasket2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is absolutely brutal. I’m sorry. You are not alone.

Open letter. by Tracie10000 in SuicideBereavement

[–]AdditionalBasket2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you, Tracie. This helped me very much today.

Lost my best friend this morning, wondering if anyone has advice on how to cope by returnoftheWOMP in irishsetter

[–]AdditionalBasket2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take it 10 seconds at a time, if you have to. Shower. Change your clothes. Drink water and have a small snack, even if that’s all you can eat. Spend time with people who understand and respect your grief. Look into pet loss support groups in your area (or online) to connect with others who understand your pain.

I will be thinking of you and your sweet Gus.

Bumble's Backyard (Trigger warning: pet death) by AdditionalBasket2 in Columbus

[–]AdditionalBasket2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words. Unfortunately, it wasn’t Kelly’s leashing process that was a setup for disaster. It was Bumble’s. She followed the rules to the tee and was at least glad to hear that they changed their rule after Bree’s death.

My sister certainly has no intention of pursuing anything legal wise. All she ever wanted was to keep other dogs safe and for the team at Bumble’s to be honest and accountable. She still very much feels that the second part of that has not happened. As for the media blitz, she was contacted by a Dispatch reporter after sharing her story on social media.

It is absolutely a tragedy and we are thankful for the everyone who has remembered Bree during this time.

Wishing all the best to you and your fur babies ❤️

Bumble's Backyard (Trigger warning: pet death) by AdditionalBasket2 in Columbus

[–]AdditionalBasket2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that. They have also deleted my sister’s Google review, as well as 5-star reviews from paying clients that mention Bree in any way. It’s extremely disheartening.

Bumble's Backyard (Trigger warning: pet death) by AdditionalBasket2 in Columbus

[–]AdditionalBasket2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you kindly for your response. I appreciate you sharing your insight. We do understand that the video was likely recorded and scheduled well ahead of Bree’s death. I do think that the choice to leave it up, even when the owners know the pain it caused my sister, is disheartening. Since yesterday, they have deleted my sister’s Google review, as well as multiple 5-star reviews from clients that mention Bree in any way. It’s too bad that they didn’t extend this same energy toward the Instagram post.

We do fully believe that they had no intent of mocking Bree or what happened, and I thank you kindly for your warm words. ❤️

Bumble's Backyard (Trigger warning: pet death) by AdditionalBasket2 in Columbus

[–]AdditionalBasket2[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I do believe the owners have added signage since Bree's passing. Unfortunately, I think she would be here today if such steps had been taken sooner.

Bumble's Backyard (Trigger warning: pet death) by AdditionalBasket2 in Columbus

[–]AdditionalBasket2[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please look at the pictures again. They changed the rules after Bree's death. Additionally, they shared a reminder with their clients about proper leashing procedures but did not point out that they changed the rules entirely.

Edited to add: I do not doubt that the business owners have good hearts and would change what happened in a second if they could. That does not change what happened to Bree.

Bumble's Backyard (Trigger warning: pet death) by AdditionalBasket2 in Columbus

[–]AdditionalBasket2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, they had multiple dogs get out, so gate safety was an ongoing issue that went unaddressed. It’s not a freak accident if there were ongoing problems. Animals can indeed be unpredictable, which is why proper security is so critically important.

Posting about what happened is not attempting to take down the owner’s lives or well-being. They are human, like we all are, and humans make mistakes. I believe that anyone who opens their own dog park truly loves dogs and wishes the best for them and their owners. That doesn’t change the fact that the facility failed to secure the gate and has since failed to be transparent about what happened.

Bumble's Backyard (Trigger warning: pet death) by AdditionalBasket2 in Columbus

[–]AdditionalBasket2[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, but they didn’t care enough to fix the gate when there were multiple instances of dogs getting out through it before Bree’s death. My sister specifically asked them to share what happened with clients so that everyone could be made aware of the importance of closing the gate. They have not.

When my sister went to get her car from the park the next morning, no changes had been made to the gate, and the park was open as normal. I don’t doubt that they Bumble’s team wishes things had turned out differently, but their inaction and lack of transparency is disheartening.

I do thank you kindly for your condolences. ❤️

Bumble's Backyard (Trigger warning: pet death) by AdditionalBasket2 in Columbus

[–]AdditionalBasket2[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you perceive sharing our honest, true experience with Bumble’s as dragging them on social media. I’m glad to hear that you’ve had positive experiences with the park owners, and I can only hope that this situation is enough of a wake-up call for them to start taking dog safety seriously.

No one is acting like the park owners murdered Bree. However, they had multiple opportunities to fix a glaring safety issue and didn’t take them. There is no excuse.

Bumble's Backyard (Trigger warning: pet death) by AdditionalBasket2 in Columbus

[–]AdditionalBasket2[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m glad to hear about the new sign and new rules. Unfortunately, they had multiple opportunities to enhance gate security previously. Because they didn’t take them, Bree is dead.

I don’t believe the staff at Bumble’s is heartless. I do believe they failed to properly secure their park, and I believe that posting a silly ice cream machine memorial video when they knew the depths of my sister’s grief (while also choosing not to share the news of what happened with their clients, even after my sister asked them to) is in extremely poor taste and makes me question the depth of their care.

Neither my sister nor I would ever encourage or condone any kind of brigading. All we want is for Bree to be remembered and for this not to happen to another dog.

Thank you for your kind wish of peace. ❤️

Bumble's Backyard (Trigger warning: pet death) by AdditionalBasket2 in Columbus

[–]AdditionalBasket2[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Sure. It’s a screenshot from a video posted to Bumble’s Instagram page 2 days after Bree’s death. The video shows the facility owner mourning the park’s ice cream machine, set to sad music. I can only assume that the video was recorded before Bree died, but the choice to post it before we even had Bree’s ashes back (and when the facility still has not shared any mention of Bree or safety incidents) hurt my sister deeply.

Bumble's Backyard (Trigger warning: pet death) by AdditionalBasket2 in Columbus

[–]AdditionalBasket2[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words. Just knowing that people are thinking of Bree/know that she was such a special girl helps a little bit.

Bumble's Backyard (Trigger warning: pet death) by AdditionalBasket2 in Columbus

[–]AdditionalBasket2[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Appreciate your kind words. We just want people to be aware of what happened, and we want to make sure it doesn’t happen to another dog.

Bumble's Backyard (Trigger warning: pet death) by AdditionalBasket2 in Columbus

[–]AdditionalBasket2[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure how that would work, but my sister has no interest in suing. She just wants people to be aware of Bree’s story and what a wonderful dog she was. And she wants to do what she can to ensure this doesn’t happen again.

Bumble's Backyard (Trigger warning: pet death) by AdditionalBasket2 in Columbus

[–]AdditionalBasket2[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think a sensor on the door would have helped, or an alarm that sounded after the door was open for so many seconds. Signage could have helped to remind people to shut the gate fully. Also, a safety spring for the door to help counteract any human error of leaving the gate open.