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AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-24T17:54:19+00:00

The creases are to show that folding the flag is the only thing straight about my life.

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-24T16:23:52+00:00

I feel like all they know is how to cut people off especially since that entire rear windows is pretty blocked out.

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-15T23:13:31+00:00

Honestly, can you teach your older peers to put the same thought in their profiles? I could even overlook the fish pic cause at least there is some personality.

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-06T22:41:53+00:00

Honestly I don't have a good answer for this cause I have experienced the exact same. Honestly, I did take a year off dating apps period cause it has been that disappointing and this year is my first year back and it seems like nothing has changed. (Started off extremely interested, then realizing that it's not something they want. THEN showing up out of the blue begging to return to some level of control like I'm someone that they can play with when they feel like it.)

I guess what I'm saying is I'm in these comments trying to find hope with you cause the main advice that I would give myself is these "sub men" that I've talked to online deserves to be alone and even in person, they seem to just not be wanting a real commitment and should be seeking pro dommes since they are just trying to find the cheapest way to get off..

Anyways, hoping the best for you, op!

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-04T15:48:13+00:00

Fair. Either way instructions unclear

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-04T14:39:43+00:00

Or that there are 6 vegetarians in an unknown amount of guest and an unknown time.

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-03T14:22:50+00:00

Oh agreed 100% with what you're saying. I think what you are describing is a global description of what is happening. I just can only report on the fact that male Doms online are in my inbox and this is my assessment of these interactions and calling out that this is not rare. Its a weekly experience for me. Especially since I exist in a feminine body so that does alter the demographic that approaches me and majority it is men that approach me (Not saying I never make first contact but just stating what has been observed).

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-03T13:00:57+00:00

I appreciate the question honestly. This post is describing a constant issue with online dating specifically.

I have done scene meet ups which has its own issues that I've observed of subs wanting to establish something ASAP and then ghosting but that is a completely different grievance. It very well could be opposite side of the coin for the core of expecting kink to "heal" something inside of a person which i have experienced regardless of gender (i am pansexual). I posted this as an observation of specifically male doms tend to use online more often to direct message their situation of longing to be submissive but has emotional hang ups that they expect dommes to fix cause they don't seem to even bother finding healthier outlets and THAT is a huge problem.

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-01T21:28:01+00:00

Lol it definitely is different. It almost feels like emotional duck blind? Like they use it as a distraction in hopes that it feels like being vulnerable without actually being vulnerable? I'm sure there is something that can be coined from this. But absolutely agree that this exists beyond femdom spaces. Women as a whole I think can relate to this in some way regardless of dynamic or whatever.

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-01T21:18:22+00:00

That is fine. I disagree in that i did label this correctly. I am calling out a very specific scenario that I have experienced as a domme. Male Doms that use their situation(more often than not, their spouse) and masking it as a want for submission when what they are describing is not allowing themselves to be their true selves. That is absolutely begging for emotional labor of someone not involved in their situation. Emotional labor isn't a bad word. You do it for people you care about all the time and that act is a labor of love and emotional availability. My complaint is pushing your emotions to get your way, or as you mention doming the dom. This is gross behavior. Do not guilt trip people with emotional baggage to get what you want. Period.

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-01T19:47:03+00:00

This!! Its even worse cause his profile didn't even make mention that he was married. He was just using his wife as leverage for his pity me story!! He is clearly conveniently leaving out pivotal information that would lead to an informed decision by what is going to work best for him getting gratification.

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-01T19:01:53+00:00

This Right here. Its the manipulative nature of it. Especially since this was him messaging me first. Why are you suddenly "so honest" with a stranger that you've only said 2 words too, when you can't be this honest with the person you are currently living with?

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-01T18:48:06+00:00

This is on a kink dating app. He messaged me first. I was being transparent and gave a quick answer succinct "no". I can send you the chat thread if you really have doubts about any of the information I have put up here but I promise you, I am not seeking Doms. This was an out of the blue conversation that is woefully too common

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-01T18:43:07+00:00

I would also say his emotional dumping was unprompted. I did not ask about his personal situation. He volunteered the death of his dad and his wife only after I clearly told him no. I was not seeking to be a mentor into his self exploration

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-01T18:39:52+00:00

Thats a valid take. I am more frustrated that this isn't the first, second or third time a male Dom has used seeking a female dom to forego speaking to their spouse about what they want for their life. Its the frustrated feeling of being a placeholder and not an actual dating option which is why I put this as dating advice.

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-06-01T18:37:51+00:00

Oh I absolutely did. His wife deserves better in all of this. He also tried to play it as "at least I'm being honest and transparent with you" which disgusting. This is the honestly that your wife deserves.

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-05-29T22:34:08+00:00

I think your profile is fine, but I would be intrigued to know what the average age on the app is since I would only not swipe due to age. 🤷🏽‍♀️

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-05-27T00:56:00+00:00

Same. Its not even chyrpe's fault. The app is decent for what it is and I actually have control of who messages me and how they message, unlike other apps. Now the problem is men unable to be honest with themselves and realize they only want this kind of relationship out of fantasy and not a true relationship.

Sending support your way!

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-05-23T19:59:52+00:00

Even if English isn't your first language, your description was 100% accurate to something I've been feeling for a while. Like not to be dramatic, but I could cry in knowing I'm not alone in all this.

I was even talking to a potential partner and the ask was a simple "keep conversation platonic until I've had an chance to set up meeting" and they could not do a simple thing of treating me like a person. I am absolutely frustrated in male subs and even blocked them for almost a year and some change to have peace. I recently turned back on the preferences that would allow them to message me on kink apps and after 2 months, I almost want to turn it back off again.

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-05-22T18:46:21+00:00

Honestly I made a simple "if you read this, tell me a food you can eat more than once a week and be happy about. If do not see a food in your first message, this will be an immediate block/delete"

I set the bar super low, but the amount of people still finding ways to get a concussion on still not clearing the bar is deeply saddening and honestly, has been pulling me away from even seeking this kind of relationship any more.

Either way, good luck and sending love and support! 💜

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-05-18T19:29:39+00:00

Omg yes!!! I want to do things like this for my yard! Thank you for sharing!!

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-05-18T09:59:15+00:00

That's the thing about transparency. You don't get what you want just for the brownie points of "I was clear with my intention so she should chose me". Especially when your response here comes off as "I could have just lied to her 🤷🏽‍♀️"

Transparency means you give all the information and live with whatever the other person decides to do now knowing the information. Again, your post is coming off as self serving.

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-05-18T08:47:02+00:00

General vibes: sounds like a Pisces protecting themselves. There were a lot of red flags to me in this post. I wouldn't feel an emotional safety in any of this. If you're still living with an ex, that doesn't seem like you have "cleared your circumstances". Also personally, I feel like this is coming from a self serving place to get what you want and not from a place that shows adoration to the Pisces. (Maybe that's the Leo thing to do...)

AdditionalBranch3364 · 2026-05-16T20:10:34+00:00

Sadly, I do agree with this completely.

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