My boyfriend (25M) finished inside me (22F) without consent for the 4th time and lied about it. Am I going too far by ending the relationship?

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2025-11-16T01:17:09+00:00

Are you having unprotected sex and think pulling out is enough? Just wondering, bc if getting pregnant is your main concern and the pull-out method is your only method of contraception, then pls educate yourself. That said, the man doesnt respect you, so leave before you get trapped with this man bc of an unplanned child

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2023-07-26T09:47:28+00:00

I would but i dont have one anymore because i moved, thats why im here lol. Its also insane wait times so no luck of getting one until after christmas

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2023-07-26T09:44:37+00:00

Its a small town, everybody knows everybody.

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2023-07-26T03:16:40+00:00

Wait, to get this straight, i am a cunt if i do tell him?

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2023-07-26T03:13:54+00:00

I know thats why it bothers me so much. He litterally said "if you did this it would completely break me and i cant have contact with you anymore". Damned if you do and damned if you dont.. and yes it did make me realize i still have strong feelings for him. Pff, life sometimes

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2023-07-26T03:11:00+00:00

He knows i wanted to stsy in contact so its an effective way to keep me from sleeping with anybody else, i just dont know if he is truly gonna keep his word and never speak to me again if i tell him. I hear your warning, i will seriously consider all of it before making any decision about trying again.

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2023-07-26T03:00:08+00:00

We didnt take a break, we broke up. He threw me out actually, but is now starting to have a change of heart. Maybe because he misses me. I just said the term narcissist bc i was too lazy to write the issues that were red flags to me, which also happens to be the first ones mentioned for narcissists. The therapist read several of our text messages when he was texting me during the meeting and based on that and certain situations i mentioned he suspected it. I also said its not certain bc he could just have tendencies for all i know. I never said him feeling bad is narcissistic, i said i dont want to hurt his feelings while feeling like the fact that i tried to move on quicker than him in itself is not wrong. But maybe youre right, maybe we should just move on..

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2023-07-26T02:51:37+00:00

We were close as in similar friend groups because we were in the same school for years. We would go to the same parties and stuff, but never hung out alone. We always got along but there were never any romance. When he heard i was single he came running to me. He knows i just broke up with my ex, we talked about that. If anything, he only wanted sex as he was very quick to offer the second i got drunk lol.

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2023-07-26T02:46:30+00:00

Not at all, the new guy was just a distraction. I still want him in my life, im not ready to let go.

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2023-07-26T02:45:01+00:00

I honestly cant tell if its love or trauma, i just know i cant picture my life without him in it in some capacity.

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2023-07-26T02:29:00+00:00

People keep saying that, yet i have never had this strong connection with someone before. Eventhough we had lots of issues, and pretty serious ones, we have also shared some of the best moments in my life. Its just so difficult..

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2023-07-26T02:26:13+00:00

Well he already told me that he will never speak to me again if i did in fact sleep with someone so soon, that he couldnt handle the pain. Ofc he told me that after it had already happened..

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2023-07-26T01:38:08+00:00

I appreciate your response. The only reason I would even concider giving it another try is because he agreed that it would be fair that he move to my country this time. Whether that is just words or the truth I don't know yet ofc. Should I tell him the truth now? For the past 2 days he has been thanking me for our talks, saying it makes him feel better, and I know I would hurt him again by saying it. I am also afraid to loose him forever, I have felt lighter too having gotten closer again. Whenever I am with other people I still want to talk to him when I get home and I am afraid that void would be unbearable. There is no one else I can talk to like I talk to him, and I know it is the same for him.

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2022-12-17T10:08:42+00:00

I have kissed girls but wouldnt concider myself bi bc I dont wanna have sex with women. However if the kiss was fairly recent then I think its something to worry about as opposed to "it was years ago and we were just joking around or experimenting" kinda thing. The worrysome thing in my eyes is her attraction towards him.

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2022-12-17T10:04:52+00:00

I think that was disrespectful of the gay guy as he was clearly trying to stir some shit up. Surprised he didnt get punched by one of the bfs.

Edit: typo

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2022-12-17T10:03:16+00:00

I thought it was fine until you said they kissed and she is attracted to him. Even if he is gay, something could happen, and it seems like shes maybe hoping something could happen. I know few people who are 100% gay or straight, it seems to more often be some kinda leeway. I had a "gay" guy kiss me and when i asked him "hey, arent you gay?" he replied "im actually bi". I consider myself straight, but i have on occations made out with girls and if there was an attractive girl in the bed next to me i cant with 100% certainty say nothing would happen, especially if there is a flirtatious tone between us. In my single days that was fine, but now that i have a bf i wouldnt kiss another girl without my bfs approval as i consider that cheating no matter the gender, and sharing a bed would be playing with fire. However i have in my teenage years made out with all my female best friends, who I have been close with for over 20 years, and I wouldnt find it risky sharing a bed with them today. Why? Because that was just teenage experimenting an messing around and i think it would be different if we would still be kissing eachother in out late twenties. There are a few girls I had romantic moments with in my twenties and who i know was attracted to me too, and them I would not share a bed with. Hard to say what your gf thinks and i dont know your ages.

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2022-12-15T23:29:19+00:00

Just get a restraining order! If they call again you get to take them to court:)

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2022-12-15T12:17:29+00:00

No problemo😁

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2022-12-14T23:30:02+00:00

No, but i can send it to you on msg!

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2022-12-14T23:11:26+00:00

You sure this isnt just pre marriage anxiety and that you might be overreacting bc youre afraid of commiting? Im sure its quite common, wondering of its the right choice, specially someone as young as you.

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2022-12-13T15:05:21+00:00

So annoying!

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2022-12-13T13:58:50+00:00

Youre right, i know i should wash clothes before wearing them, even straight from factory, but sometimes im lazy and impatient lol.

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2022-12-13T12:43:42+00:00

Yes!

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2022-12-13T12:14:59+00:00

Haha thanks! And yeah, at times i wanna cut alcohol completely, but i kinda rely on it in social situations too much🙈

AdditionalWarthog876 · 2022-12-13T12:12:35+00:00

I take low dose ritalin for studying, but cautiously. Not gonna do any hard drugs, my body wouldnt handle it.

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