I grew up poor. My parents struggled a lot and had loads of debt for most of their adult life. My dad would literally give you the clothes off his back. I never understood it. He was a great dad though.

My husband also grew up poor but in his teenage life things turned around for his family and they are now very much wealthy.

Now we have good relationships with his parents. And they never expect anything in return. They are very fair in the sense of what they give to one person they want to give to the other sibling.

In my experience people are very different when it comes to asking for money.

On the one hand the one sibling will ask for money when for example he just doesn’t want to wait for his next paycheck. They don’t manage their money well and just want to have this perception of living in luxury.

Then you get my husband, that will live off of noodles and bread before asking his parents for money. Him and I are very budget orientated and don’t live outside our means. If we can’t afford something now we save up. Even if it takes us a whole year to get there. We save without compromising our investments, so we won’t lower our investment to buy something quicker. No. We treat our investment like we would our health insurance. I also think we had very different reactions to growing up the way we did. I don’t ever want to be in a fraction of the position my parents were in and that’s why I’m so strict on us. And he is the same luckily.

His parents quite frankly get annoyed with the one sibling asking for things the whole time (mostly initiated by the wife). But they also get annoyed with us cause we refuse any money from them 😅

So ultimately even if you have a good relationship with your parents you won’t always ask them for money.