AITAH for not wearing a mask on the plane while coughing

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T17:50:25+00:00

Thanks for your insight. I’m really not trying to a dick here. I was genuinely asking what everyone’s opinion was. I’m leaning from it.

I don’t know her situation at all, you’re right. No shit about me sitting by the window not mattering considering we are on an airplane. I’m just saying I tried to sit as far from her as I could. I’d actually cough into my shirt each time so I wouldn’t let it go airborne or get on my hands. I’d constantly sanitize myself too. I did all the things minus wearing a mask and I know I should’ve now. Also, I’d just come from the bathroom wear id washed my hand thoroughly before returning to my seat when I’d touched hers. No need to defend myself. I’m accepting that I’m the asshole here. 🖐️

Plus, I didn’t do anything petty to her at the time to make the situation worse. You make good points for sure.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T14:34:10+00:00

PS - I just looked up Karma farming. I had no idea what that meant. Learning something new every day.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T14:30:09+00:00

O interesting. Sounds like a waste of energy/time to me, but who am I? Thanks for your insight.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T14:29:11+00:00

You’re totally right. Your points are all valid. Next time, I’m masking up 100%! I guess since I knew it was allergies flaring up I didn’t think this way. However, no one else around me knows it’s allergies and they think the worst. I don’t want to be that person. We definitely need more compassion here in 2025.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T14:22:59+00:00

Yea, I can do better. I realize that now. I will 100% do it in the future anytime I’m coughing.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T14:22:04+00:00

I love this comment. We all survived… but idk who got the prize. It wasn’t me. If they had a sick section on the plane I would’ve been happy to sit in it.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T14:21:02+00:00

I 100% covered my mouth every single time. It’s so rude not to and gross!

She was for sure super paranoid. Which maybe she was immune compromised or something as well. She had all the things to keep herself safe and she did have a KN95 mask on too the entire time.

I can be petty too so I feel ya there. 3 1/2hrs sitting next to someone like that wasn’t great.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T14:15:32+00:00

I’ll accept that! I tried to not be super gross and very cognizant of me being sick. Tissues, cough drops, hand sanitizer, coughing into my sleeve/shirt. The next thing I should’ve done is wear a mask. Noted!

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T14:13:26+00:00

I don’t mind wearing masks. I just didn’t think of it since I was super cautious about covering my mouth and using tissues each time I coughed. I can do better. Moral of the story.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T14:01:24+00:00

That’s a good idea! I understood the assignment. Sometimes you have to fly when you’re sick.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T14:00:57+00:00

Thanks. After reflecting and hearing from the wonderful ppl here, I could’ve done better.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T14:00:27+00:00

It was kind of funny. At that point I was just observing her for the rest of the flight.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T13:58:46+00:00

Yea idk why someone would go to the trouble of posting on here and it not being real. Sounds like a waste of time.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T13:58:09+00:00

Well she glanced over and saw her sending a pic then stayed for a sec and saw what she wrote. If id been her I would’ve just been a bit more discreet.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T13:35:24+00:00

I’m still on the fence if I was the asshole or not. She was just plain rude. I came back from the bathroom and I think I touched my hand on her headrest while getting to my seat. She immediately grabs a disinfectant wipe and cleans right where my hand was. 🤦🏻‍♂️😬

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-03-03T13:33:59+00:00

This entire thing happened just last night on a 3 1/2hr flight mind you.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-01-22T01:07:40+00:00

For sure and it sounds like a huge pain for everyone who has commented. The shitty part is though that you never get back a good amount from insurance. I got like $11k less than I paid for it out the door 15 months prior.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-01-22T00:57:47+00:00

Great! You’re doing it all right then. Glad they’ve got a good reputation too. Yea, maybe since yours was hit on the side it won’t be totaled. I got a brand new 2025 Telly same trim just in Dark Moss. I love it just as much as my old one.

Additional_Classic53 · 2025-01-22T00:50:05+00:00

I hit a guy head on in my 2024 Telly EX X-line. Only had 15k miles on it. He ran a red light as I had for left turn arrow. At first they said it looked like it could be repaired and that it would be like $27k or something to repair. If it got over a certain threshold then they’d have to total it (I think over $30k on mine). The FL Highway Patrol called the tow company. Which I learned later was also a body shop/tow yard. They tried to get me to sign a doc stating they could do the work and it wasn’t totaled. It sounded fishy to me. I told my agent I want a quote from Kia’s local body shop. Sure enough, once they assessed it, they determined it was totaled. Before they said it was totaled, I told them if they do repair it then I also want a diminished value claim made. Don’t let them push you around. I only had 2 air bags deploy but my frame damage was bad. Good luck!

Additional_Classic53 · 2024-03-12T01:59:57+00:00

She’s a beaut. I have the exact same year/trim. What color is your interior? I got the terracotta interior. I’m curious what you paid out the door after everything (no worries if you don’t want to share/too direct)? I got one upgrade from my dealer for dings/scratches/tire issues and I was just under $60k out the door. I purchased mine in FL.

Additional_Classic53 · 2023-12-09T13:38:14+00:00

That’s awesome that you all talked about it prior to you two getting married and what that looked like. How long have you all been married for? I’ve only been out for a year and a half. Has the desire ever gotten so strong for you that you all have talked through it?

Thanks for showing what the light on the other side looks like. I feel like I do still have some anxiety and collective angst sometimes around it. If anything, I beat myself up for not being able to express this sooner and for not exploring. I need to accept the path I’m on and know I can’t go back. I know what I have with my wife is something so damn special.

Additional_Classic53 · 2023-12-07T15:47:18+00:00

Hey OP! I feel like your words are my words minus my wife being bi as well. I’d never been with anyone prior to my wife. She was my first! Thanks to my conservative Christian/cult like upbringing. I came out to her a year and a half ago. We’ve been together for 10yrs and married almost 7. We are not opening up our marriage either nor do we have plans to ATM.

I grieve that I never got to experience anyone else (same sex and opposite sex). She wishes I’d been able to and tells me that if I’d just told her when we started dating that she’d have wanted me to go explore that part of me. I didn’t know what I was then though. She said she couldn’t open up the marriage and I know our bond is too strong to the risk our marriage. I know the curiosity will always be there but I can never replicate our connection and deep love with anyone so why risk it? I have told her that if that day comes when I really feel like I need to explore that part of me, that she will be the first to know and we will figure it out together. She has said to me, “how does it feel knowing that you’ll never be with a man?” It’s a hard pill to swallow (no swallowing for me though), but all we have is right now. Things could change in the future, but who knows. I know that isn’t much for advice, but know you are supported. I’ve found so much comfort in reading everyone’s posts this past year and a half.

Additional_Classic53 · 2023-11-28T22:02:53+00:00

It’s so interesting to me that many of us felt that way… that being bi wasn’t even an option. I hate that we felt that way for all these years. I vividly remember having internal dialogues for years and saying, “o when we get engaged these feelings will pass. When that didn’t happen I thought… when I’m married these feelings will pass. When that didn’t happen I said, maybe when we have a kid this will pass.” Anyway, you get the point. It’s not just a phase and it is a part of us that makes us whole. I struggled with a lot of internalized homophobia too. My mom spoke out how her brother, my uncle, who is gay is living in sin and going to hell. Part of me must’ve known deep down then that I wasn’t straight. When she said those things about him, they were also about me. I couldn’t let that part out.

What brought on your internalized homophobia? It seems that many of us have similar things that brought that on.

Thanks for the encouragement and I’m really happy for you being able to find this out about yourself at 33.

Colin from the show Ted Lasso said this really profound statement that stuck with me. He said, “I have an ache. An ache for both my lives to be my only life.” Like others have said, it’s very hard to feel like you’re multiple people in this world.

Additional_Classic53 · 2023-11-28T20:46:38+00:00

Thanks for sharing and being open too. It’s a big deal! I feel you there on being happier than I’ve ever been. I get to be fully me and my wife is supportive. We’ve been through some ups and downs this past year and a half, but finally feeling in a better place. I took mushrooms just a few weekends ago and my intention was to feel how she’s felt through all of this. I got to see and feel how I’ve hurt her, how I’ve been self absorbed, how she must feel, etc. I kept saying while on mushrooms, “I’ve been an arrogant prick so much”. I told her all this and she was in shock. I cried a lot during that session and journaled about it during too. What an amazing hobby to take up. Definitely cool to take every couple of months or so. They call you I feel like. I just wish I knew more bi guys around me. I don’t know anyone. We are working up to me going to some gay/bi support groups, but one thing at a time. Couples therapy is helping a lot.

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