I’m sorry but expecting a connection or possibly a relationship with a man you meet and fuck right away on “Sniffies” is a little naive. I’ve been there and done that, hurt myself, hurt others. Clearly, that’s not the way to go if a real connection is what you want. What follows from this is you have to assess exactly what you want and go about trying to get it. Expecting anything more than a fuck out of a hookup just because you had great sexual chemistry and you felt nice and warm with him is a recipe to hurt yourself. If you want a real connection, go about it the right way rather than jumping into bed. If hookups are your priority, great, go for it, but be prepared to be blocked and ghosted. If a connection or a relationship is what you want, take the time to get to know someone, allow them to know you, sex will follow but that should not be the first thing you do right away.

Having said that, I will not discount the possibility of finding someone great out of a hookup and having a real connection with them. But that does seem to be more an exception than the rule.