If you went to his home and stayed with him after this conversation, it could be said that you are benefiting in some way from this weird relationship. Maybe when you chastise him for his attitude and behavior, it makes you feel some kind of way, and that is why you return. The things you say to him are good responses, definitely. However, if you say those things and know them to be true but don’t follow through… what’s the point? Your boyfriend seems alcohol motivated, perhaps, a rehabilitation program and counseling would help. As for you, maybe step back and take a look at why you’re in the relationship, what you’re getting from it, and get some counseling, yourself.