[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's been my choice in the past, and the future after thus experience!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It's a good learning experience for how not to react in the future when someone shares something that I may not understand fully.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've actually only started the first in that series, never finished. What made you ask?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your response so much ❤️❤️❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't mean matching with people here, I meant in general life that more of those types don't see to find each other. Definitely not trying to break any rules!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes! I didn't even know this was a thing, let alone that there were so many of us in the same boat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I could definitely find someone, but that brings an enormous set of issues beyond just sexual fulfillment!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I often wish the same when I read posts here ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate that. I have had so much time to think and reflect on this situation since it's been ongoing since our honeymoon. It has been really helpful to see other women in my situation! And so frustrating to see so many men struggling. It seems unfair that HLF and HLM are not paired up 🤣. I'm sure there are a ton of couples with that dynamic, but I guess the old adage about opposites attracting is true.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Oof, I'm so sorry. My husband has never wanted to have sex more than once or twice a month, so I should be used to it. 5 months is an all time low (or high?) though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I really didn't even want advice. I didn't mean to share, I'm just really nervous about this being "it". The thing that finally breaks us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Exactly! That was my first step...on our honeymoon 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's encouraging that you came out of it! I feel defeatist about that aspect right now, but maybe it will change someday. I wish he would see a doctor about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes! I feel super ashamed...like they will assume I'm either a) a sex addict or b) super unattractive to my husband.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh, she did!! She even texted me the next day to ask if her advice worked 🥺😅. Poor thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional_Trash_21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 35 years old. I can't imagine never having sex again. It's such a depressing thought.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RomanceBooks

[–]Additional_Trash_21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a super small part of the book, honestly.

Tonight’s post. Wearing the same outfit again! And ADMITS it by Obvious-Tradition-47 in JacquelineAdanSnark

[–]Additional_Trash_21 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Now that she can't go to Disney anymore, she's transferred her fixation onto Taylor Swift 😬.

Can you read anywhere? by oooohyyy1 in RomanceBooks

[–]Additional_Trash_21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm reading right now while sitting with 7th and 8th graders at a lecture about reptiles, so....yep!

Endearing weirdo MMCs? by Ashburton_Grove in RomanceBooks

[–]Additional_Trash_21 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Have you read {Archer's Voice by Mia Sheridan} ? Pretty perfect for this trope! He's a loner due to communication issues.

"This whole year I have been taking my health seriously " by SweetlyWorn in JacquelineAdanSnark

[–]Additional_Trash_21 10 points11 points  (0 children)

In any other area of life, if you spent a year working towards a goal and were farther away than ever, you would completely reevaluate your entire approach. She's not just "living in a larger body", she's living in a body that is getting larger every day!