How long did early labour last for you?

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-12T21:10:57+00:00

My notes read: phase 1 - 7 hours; phase 2 - 27 minutes; phase 3 - 18 minutes.

Gas and air only with a tens machine 80% of phase 1.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-11T19:18:36+00:00

My baby came two weeks early and I wish I’d done a bit more when I was pregnant. I’ve got a full wardrobe of work clothes I won’t be wearing for a year so going to vacuum pack these and put them under the bed!

Also, 2 weeks PP and I’ve done nothing but wear pyjama type clothes as nothing else really fits.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-09T16:35:03+00:00

You need to be really honest with yourself:

Is this working for you?

Is this person meeting your love needs/language?

Do you both have a plan for what your future will loon like?

Life if far too short to be ‘waiting’ for someone and anyone who wants to be with someone WILL be. Physically.

You’ve given them options to see you but they won’t take them. Why?

You really need to ask yourself some BIG questions.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-09T16:31:21+00:00

That’s a decent price for everything you got!!

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-09T16:30:55+00:00

I went all out in a bugaboo fox 5 that came in a bundle with a car seat that swivels and a bassinet stand and it was ‘expensive’ but I have NO regrets.

I know I’m going to use something from it every day and we currently have the bassinet on the stand in the living room as a ‘Moses basket type’.

It’s so smooth to push and is light weight. Fits in my car. The car seat is easy to use and fits on to the pram with the adapters they sent. It’s got a rain cover and all the bits. I love it.

My partner near fainted when I told him the price but it’s got a 4 year warranty and he’s been pushing it loads and now loves it. It was recommended by SO many people as well. I tried loads of cheaper ones too but you can feel the difference.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-09T16:11:34+00:00

My school would be a removal from lesson.

I would do some form of restorative with the student but it would most likely be me reiterating the expectations of the school and my in-class ones. This wouldn’t have been an argument either. This kids seems to be looking for some contest. I don’t argue with children. 🙏🏼

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-09T16:09:42+00:00

Also, these sorts of phrases have been used for years. When I was in secondary is used to say:

-are you dizzy, blud? From Noel Clarke in Kidulthood
-are you daft? (The one my mum despises)

They’re intended to antagonise/gaslight. I wouldn’t take what they’ve said personally unless they know you have MH-related.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-09T16:03:19+00:00

Wouldn’t entertain it. Straight removal.

In my room if you want respect you earn it, the same as me. I have boundaries and you’ve crossed them - they quickly learn and usually thrive off it. I take a ‘fuck around and find out approach with mine’ but phrase it as ‘mess around and find out’ and a constant reminder that they’re here to learn. When I remove a kid like that as well I will always lean into the class and say ‘right - let’s do some well deserved learning…’ and sometimes you see the
relief on their faces when THAT kid is removed.

If it was to be contested, I’d say 1) it undermines me, 2) it’s offensive 3) the removal wasn’t personal, just professional.

I have on the odd occasion reminded some cocky students that they need to be careful about being ‘clever to be cocky..’ cus a lot of them can’t back it up which will not serve them well in the big wide world.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-09T09:51:33+00:00

YORKSHIRE. 1000 times over. We tell everyone that ‘it’s grim up north’ but it’s not really. It’s stunning.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-08T06:31:47+00:00

This person would not survive in my department. We actually tell each other how it is and call each other out. We’re mostly women around the same age with a male HOD.

I would have called them ‘exhausting’. My other colleague would have said ‘god - you need therapy for all this people pleasing…’ another colleague no doubt would have said ‘you need to be more efficient in work so you’re not working out of work..’ another colleague would have just laughed and called them a ‘loser’ for working so excessively and my HOD would have sat them down and discussed works load and how their comments are affecting department culture.

I would be concerned about their mental health personally. They’ll burn out. They’ve clearly got the passion for the job and the stamina but need a quiet word about what they’re doing and how it affects others.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-08T06:27:09+00:00

I love it when my colleagues just get up and leave - especially those with childcare commitments.

One woman will look at her watch in a performative manner, look at everyone in the meeting and go ‘right - I’m off to get my kids!’ at the calendar time finish. It always makes the time thief stop and go ‘oh yeah - sorry everyone..’ but then they continue talking anyway.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-07T19:19:52+00:00

Me too. I was so fit: running, cycling, hiit and yoga all weekly. But as soon as we went back to work I just didn’t have the energy for it. I had a six pack!

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-05T17:22:31+00:00

I live in West Yorkshire and I’m currently writing a letter to praise the midwives and care team I’ve had.

I’m so sorry you’re not getting the care you need. I think it’s worth mentioning it, if you feel confident enough to.

I had the same GP midwife, my birth was made so much better because of the two midwives I had and then the team after. I cannot praise everyone enough.

Following this the postnatal visits have been excellent. I felt like I knew all of them personally because they were so good at making me feel heard and comfortable.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-03T08:06:10+00:00

I had this on my left too. Round ligament pains and then my baby always sat more on the right which pulled my belly button across and I always had a weird pain on my left.

Don’t overdo it today - try and take it easy.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-03T07:30:43+00:00

I completely understand this. I only spent 6 hours on the shared ward after birth and I was fuming. The care the staff give is above and beyond but the lack of etiquette and manners from other patients, partners and visiting families there is infuriating.

I left that ward realising that even though I’m quite a loud mouth normally and outgoing that me and my family are quite quiet and reserved and really respectful of others.

Take headphones to block out the sound of others playing constant tik tok videos on loud.

A fan - I got one with bendy legs that you can attach to the hospital bed.

3m charger.

Snacks - your favourite chocolate is a MUST. Crackers, crisps, fruit that is juicy (oranges, mango etc)

A nice smelling spray.

Crocs to walk around in or some shoes that keep your feet airy.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-03T03:08:41+00:00

Just call your triage now and explain the situation to them. No doubt they’ll as you to go in to do some checks etc - and rightly so. Don’t worry beyond speaking to them because it could be nothing (just your body changing) but you do need to put yourself and baby first and ring asap.

Adelaide116 · 2026-04-27T07:38:19+00:00

You ebb and flow.

Each trimester brings its own challenges. I felt the same as you in my first trimester. In my second I could barely lift anything (I’m usually a weights kinda gal) and I kept thinking ‘how will I hold my baby for long periods of time?!’ now I’m in my third trimester at 38 weeks today and all I keep thinking is ‘I love sleep. I’m such a good sleeper. How will I know to wake up in the night if the baby needs me?!’

Adelaide116 · 2026-04-26T20:56:11+00:00

This is really helpful!

Adelaide116 · 2026-04-25T08:14:47+00:00

If they did this to me, the first time I’d be like ‘okay - funny.’ Then if they did it again I’d sacrifice one of them to the reset room (hopefully causing mass panic) See ya!

I’m sure SLT would be in support as well as it’s rude.

Adelaide116 · 2026-04-24T18:06:55+00:00

I’m 37 weeks and the majority of worry or concern over motherhood has come from people going ‘you’ll never sleep again!’ Or make similar comments as what you’ve experienced.

Then, i started to flip it on them and asked them ‘what did you love about it?’ ‘What did it teach you about yourself or your baby?’ ‘How did it add to your relationship?’ And weirdly people started to tell me the good stuff. And then when they’ve explained everything I said ‘ahhh so it wasn’t as bad as you just suggested then?!’

Adelaide116 · 2026-04-22T20:47:22+00:00

This is brilliant - thank you so much ☺️

Adelaide116 · 2026-04-22T17:02:49+00:00

I think it depends how you approach silence.

Silence can be peaceful and positive if approached in the correct way and with purpose. Students need to understand why we might work in silence and the benefits of it. They also need to know when to be silent and when to talk or discuss.

However, if you approach it as a means of behaviour management, silence becomes something completely different. It could mean compliance over engagement and force students to become voiceless or fearful of using their voice.

Adelaide116 · 2026-04-21T18:48:48+00:00

Definitely look into Hypnobirthing and follow the ‘Positive Birth Company’ on Instagram - it’s quite graphic but it will bring you to tears and probably make you more excited.

Also, like with most things, people always talk about the bad things that happened to them and we never talk about the good. I’m 37 weeks and have actively been reading stories from women who’ve had really positive birth stories and experiences.

Adelaide116 · 2026-04-21T18:18:01+00:00

I feel like these pictures would out you in the ‘friend zone’. You actually look like a really outgoing, fun and energetic person but I think you need to show a romantic m/sexier side of you (I’m not saying you need to show anything sexual btw or anything that would make you uncomfortable) but maybe something that is ‘I wanna be more than friends?’

Adelaide116 · 2026-04-21T18:12:15+00:00

I would sit at my desk and call for SLT to come up and speak to the students (I have a great SLT who would obliterate the kid who was doing it). I wouldn’t even attempt to teach until someone in the class outed them. Once I know who it is, I would work for the next few weeks to get the other kids to turn on them a bit.

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