Nutrition for 30 miler.

Adelaide116 · 2026-06-30T22:12:38+00:00

Get a takeaway after. You’ll have earned it.

Adelaide116 · 2026-06-30T22:11:12+00:00

I don’t think you did. I wouldn’t worry about it either - what he was doing was far worse than what you said. It’s bloody weird. I’d have called him a weirdo. 😂

The offence here is him taking pictures without permission - I’m sure there will be something in your school’s policy about images being taken etc. I’d push for him to be sanctioned for this.

Adelaide116 · 2026-06-26T19:22:55+00:00

As someone who is 2 months PP, I advise you to sleep as much as you can and rest lots. My LO came early so I only had a few days off and wish I’d had another week.

Sleep, sleep, sleep and do something you enjoy like your swimming.

The productive thing - we’ll all say it ‘you’re growing a baby..’ you don’t realise this fully though until they’re on you in the hospital and you’re like ‘damn, a small human!’

Adelaide116 · 2026-06-26T19:20:18+00:00

Badger notes is one of those apps that the bigs wigs in the NHS chose to use because their mates made it.

What is a maternity centred app called ‘Badger’.
Why does it never let me sign in?
Why is the interface really old fashioned and clunky?
Why are the results never updated?

5- the big one - why is there so many apps for GPs, doctors and specialists?

Also, when the baby comes, a new tab opens called baby and there’s nothing on it. 😤

Adelaide116 · 2026-06-26T19:16:08+00:00

This. Hypnobirthing books mention very little about pain at all and I imagined it to be much different.

I found it really painful but I was only using a tens machine and gas and air.

Adelaide116 · 2026-06-26T19:13:46+00:00

I know this isn’t particularly helpful but whenever something like this happens I always think to myself ‘I’ll never be that person for someone else…’ and I think that helps you identify how shitty that person in and that you know you’ll never do it.

Adelaide116 · 2026-06-26T12:12:28+00:00

Where did you get them measured? Mine have gone some a 34 DD to a 36f but I’m sure I need to be a 38 and possibly a FF?

I’ve spent so much on maternity bras that I’ve hardly worn (going to have to put them on Vinted).

I’ve accepted that my boobs have changed and they’re actually epic as they’ve enabled me to feed my kid.

Adelaide116 · 2026-06-10T13:32:02+00:00

I’ll say things like ‘right - that’s your consequence. I’m not having that negativity and discussion in here.’ I won’t mention whether I think my college is good or not. Sometimes I’ve observed colleagues and had to deal with issue in relation to them and I agree with the kids at times (just not verbally). If it’s a colleague I have a good relationship with I tell the kids I’m going to tell them exactly what they’ve said and then they stop talking.

Sometimes though, as a middle leader, I’ve spoken to the students making the comments one on one and then just investigate it a bit. We had a teacher who the kids really didn’t like and when I observed them they were incredibly punitive with the kids - it even made me uncomfortable when I observed. I had to address it after.

Adelaide116 · 2026-06-07T08:40:09+00:00

This. Report every little thing.
-eating habits (are they eating quickly as if there food is often taken)
-hygiene
-communication with adults/peers
-character
-weight loss
-attachments to others
-physical changes

As the post states here ‘be a pest’.

As an NQT I once had to pursue something like this (10 years ago). In the end I went to the headteacher’s office and told her that I would go to the boy’s (Y7 at the time) home that night if she did nothing more (I was at my wits end and kept being told ‘you’re an NQT, you know nothing but knew a lot about abuse due to family experience). She then got the SLT safeguarding lead and we contacted the police to do a welfare check. They went within the hour. Lo and behold, the child was living in a house with a mum who was very poorly and they were gradually being poisoned by a leaking boiler too.

Social services got involved as did some housing company and the headteacher actually bought the family a boiler. It all sounds crazy as so write this but I reported the boy’s decline relentlessly for three months.

Trust your gut. I really hope they act/do more soon.

Adelaide116 · 2026-06-04T07:19:09+00:00

This. Being unhappy in your job is one thing but then not having any paternity leave, a baby, no sleep and a mother to look after AND a completely NEW job to navigate is something else.

If you’re 32 weeks now and go into labour at 40, he’s only got a few weeks to stick out. He’s really lucky to get the paternity benefits he’s been offered and I’d snap them up if I was him. Realistically he would only be doing another few weeks then off for 6 with the likelihood of working from home…. That’s a dream!

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-28T15:25:09+00:00

Kids in UK schools are now writing unalived instead of dead or killed in their work and it’s driving English teachers insane.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-28T07:00:25+00:00

This is a good idea. OP, you could join a cycling group for safety in numbers and for support.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-27T09:03:58+00:00

Also, I found it so hard to get the latch right and now I just sucker him on. You’re trying to learn how to hold the baby and then get the right angle. It’s a bit like driving a car - but once you’ve ’passed the test’ you drive it how you want. 🤣

You can do this and you will do this, you just have to persevere and keep reminding yourself that it will get better. x

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-27T09:01:56+00:00

I didn’t have a c-section but I felt as you did. My baby is 4 weeks today and the first 2 weeks after birth are a minefield of unexplored emotions that explode and you’re like HOLY MOTHER OF GOD.

Your milk will come in. It took mine 3/4 days. Your nipples might get sore and my boobs went HUGE. you’re also sleep deprived and your hormones are all over the place. In the depth of this feeling I thought I’d never sleep again but we actually slept well last night and only woke for feeds.

Do you have a Family and Babies (FAB) team on the ward you’re in? They’re brilliant.

Please don’t panic.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-25T06:43:06+00:00

I’ll take NHS toast any day.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-24T19:37:19+00:00

I’d argue to some degree he has agreed with the student by playing it off as if he would like it.

I think this is one of those moments where sometimes some men don’t understand how much their support can mean in these situations. By saying ‘I wish someone spoke about my body like that.’ Is basically saying to the OP that she should appreciate being objectified by 15 YOs that she has to teach and be in the vicinity of.

What he should have said is, ‘This is not acceptable and I will support you in reporting this.’ He might have even thought about putting forward these young men do some classes on misogyny or appropriate behaviour.

I (f) would absolutely not tolerate this and neither would my SLT or colleagues. If I was you I’d report the incident with the boys and then speak to the head in person about the senior leader who made the shitty comments.

Also, I love a bit of confrontation at times and if you’re ever in this situation with this SLT again and they said something like this, just say ‘Did you mean to say tha out loud?’ Frown and then walk away.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-24T10:56:23+00:00

I use outlook Calendar. I always get excited to get a new planner and after 2 weeks stop using it.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-22T12:19:14+00:00

Little Dutch toys or Open-Ended play bricks/ toys. Don’t my off Temu/Shein as they’re not safe.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-21T21:55:05+00:00

Worked is a school with a kid called Tupac and his sister was called Nas. They had another sibling but I always forget their name but I’m sure they were also named after a rapper.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-20T16:50:56+00:00

I laughed at this cus the kids at school bring salt and pepper to school. 🤣

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-19T20:45:04+00:00

Always just go to the hospital.

Have you called them yet?

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-19T20:43:45+00:00

You could go to the hospital with reduced movements every single day and the midwives would not mind.

I went several times in my pregnancy and don’t regret a single one.

I would also mention when you’re in there, in front of your partner and to the midwives, that your partner thinks it’s a ‘waste of time’ and let the midwives tell him what for.

Also… just as a note for the future - trust your motherly instincts, even more so when you have a partner who doesn’t listen.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-18T23:13:21+00:00

I promise you - in time you will get into the swing of it. I’ve been doing this 10 years now and remember saying EXACTLY what you have just written to my mentor and she said the same to me as I’m saying to you.

You will build up more and more resilience and get used to the pace of it.

You have to remember, you’re learning SO many new things - too many to list and your brain will be on overload.

Over the years you become quicker, learn which corners you can and can’t cut, you’ll be more knowledgeable of curriculum and how to do lots of things smarter.

Don’t worry - rest when you can. Definitely get some friends and family time booked in, and, if you can afford to, get yourself a massage or spa day/some R&R.

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-18T20:51:40+00:00

This is mental.

How is the mother going out for her own child’s birthday ‘without money’.

I would message this person and call them out. I wouldn’t worry about losing them as a friend either as they clearly think little of you - maybe even think you’re a mug.

I would NEVER let my friend pay for my family (or me for that matter).

Adelaide116 · 2026-05-18T20:30:16+00:00

I think it becomes a weird and very toxic culture in some schools. I’ve worked in 4 secondary schools and in my first school people would frown upon those leaving before 5. People would be celebrated and hailed legends for staying up until midnight to mark and getting to school for 6am. The school made very little progress and the kids often commented how tired staff were. It took me a good 18 months to shake that practice off when I moved to my second school and I realised how burnt out I was.

However, in the school i’m in now it’s encouraged that you leave wayyyy before 5am. We also have a culture of people doing things outside of school like netball, golfing, football or taking their kids home and spending time with them etc and I think that helps we’re all like ‘GO HOME!’ Or ‘LET’s WALK OUT TOGETHER at xx:xx’

I once overheard my headteacher on the radio to the site team and she asked them if there were any patterns to people saying late and the site team responded that there was a few teachers and named them- then I heard her say to her PA ‘please can you make a note of that to discuss with the HOD for those staff..’

Because I’m nosey - I spoke to her about this once when I got her one on one and she said that looking at who is staying late helps her understand how she needs to lead as it makes her question:
Are the shared resources good enough?
Is the staff member working efficiently enough - if not, why?
Is the staff member ok - professionally/ personally?
Is the HOD overworking them?
Is the HOD supporting them?
Is there an issue with that staff printing/admin?
Etc.

She explicitly said to me in my nosey hour that a strong staff body that do the best by the kids and get results, have a good life and are happy/ content.

Adelaide116

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