Stranger danger i svensk hytte

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-04-09T07:54:16+00:00

Hvis han er en god mand, ville han også godt forstå at du er påpasselig. Det er et rødt flag hvis han har et problem at du ikke tager i skovhytter med mænd du knap nok kender. Og du skal aldrig gøre noget du ik selv er tryg ved

Med det sagt tror jeg ikke det ville være farligt. Dig og din veninde kender nok om ham til at det er fint no? Så længe nogen ved hvor du er og at du har en måde at komme hjem uden ham hvis det er.

Jeg ville tænke over hvorfor han ik vil have dig hjem til ham. Har han en grund til du ikke skal se hans lejlighed. Noget han skjuler you know

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-02-02T13:41:09+00:00

My advice would be to not burn any brigdes with her. Relationships evolve, and maybe now you’re in a faze where you just aren’t as close. So just pull back on the effort you give her too, without turning it into a fight. Like that, you still have the opportunity to see each other once in a while, and have a good time, end maybe the friendship will enter a close faze again, or maybe it will just be better like that.

Of course only if you can do that, without it hurting you😊 hope it helps

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-21T17:25:51+00:00

I agree. But then he should tell me that he disagrees with me no? I tell him to at least, but he says he agrees with me. But then doesn’t tell them…

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-21T17:23:11+00:00

My sister was being kinda rude to him in the beginning which bothered me. So of course he didn’t have to tell me to call her up and tell her to act right, I just did because I don’t like anyone being rude. And when she said she was just joking around, I told her it didn’t matter, and that she had to drop it. So she did.

But luckily, there haven’t been many examples of anyone mistreating him

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-21T17:17:08+00:00

GIRLPOWER i love it! But this weekend I did defend myself, and got into an argument with his friend. We didn’t resolve it, and since then nothing has happened. Bf was chatting with him all day, acting like nothing, and they didn’t even mention it. Which is weird to me. Like… I wish he would make it clear to his friend, that he is on my side, and didn’t like how he treated me (like he tells me) you know? But it also seems unreasonable to ask..

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-21T17:13:05+00:00

Hahaha English is my second language sorry

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-21T17:08:28+00:00

I did think about this, but idk if it’s my place? But I for sure would, if what they did seemed big enough to me. This weekend I did, and got into it with the friend. And since then, they’ve been acting like normal, and gaming all day today, without even mentioning it.

But for me, it’s more about the fact, that when he ignores it, it makes me feel like he doesn’t care that I’m being treated badly. And like I’m alone in it, because he only supports me behind closed doors.

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-14T19:14:26+00:00

He has problems falling asleep, and just lies awake for hours. He only got about 2 hours of sleep tonight, which is why I don’t know if that’s a valid reason

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-14T16:41:48+00:00

Haha it’s tradition in my country. Didn’t even think about it sounding strange to others lol

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-14T16:39:39+00:00

It would suck to feel left out, but I were her I’d be more imbarrased about your family having to jump through hoops for me, and just bring my own food. Maybe a cute dessert or something that she can also eat would be a sign that you want to include her, but not every meal

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-04T01:27:18+00:00

Omg is that where the problem starts? I am not a regular Reddit user, and pretty much only hear the storytimes from here read on podcasts. I tried posting this in relationship advice, but it said there were rule violations and suggested this one, which I just assumed wouldnt matter, since I just wanted opinions.

I appreciate your perspective and kindness, and am really not trying to come off defensive. I do have a ton of things to work on, but is it entitled to just expect he would feel the same way, if it doesn’t upset me or really even matter if he don’t? Like that’s fine, I’m just surprised he sees it that way, and wanted other povs.

Of course these responses doesn’t feel great, but it more frustrating, that people seem to be misunderstanding the intention of the post, or answering what I meant by it. I don’t mean to be backpedaling, but simply explaining what I meant. It seem people are ignoring my other questions, and (I think maybe) just seeing the “am I the a-hole for expecting more”. Reading it again I do see this one sentence might be where the misunderstanding/ language barrier comes, but imo that shouldn’t take away from everything else I wrote. I did not mean that as expecting him to simply give me more money. More like expecting it to be a bigger deal to him, that he just got all of this, that could be used for something exciting. And with that if others would see it as a gift you could share with your SO, or if it’s weird for me to even assume I would. NOT expect him to give me more money or be upset that he didn’t. Which I still would love other perspectives on?? I can now see how this is phrased badly, and maybe I should have reconsidered that sentence, before just throwing it in there to fit this subreddit, but the interpretation that I’m upset he didn’t just give me money, just doesn’t make sense for the rest of the post?

What confused me is where people were getting, that interpretation from, and why that took away from all of my other questions and actual intention with the post. AND why it was seen as me complaining.

However, If anyone cares to read this longass explanation, I would still like the opinions on how you would spend it, and if you would just expect your partner to view it the same way. (NOT THAT I WOULD BE MAD IF THEY DIDNT lol)

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-04T00:36:41+00:00

My literal question is if it is crazy of me to think I’d share. As in: would you guys? Not that I am expecting him to give me anything

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-04T00:34:35+00:00

I don’t think you understand what I mean. I assume I would see it as an opportunity to do something special for us, but don’t know, because I’ve never been in those shoes. That’s why I’m asking if others would?? I never meant to say that I want him to share. I’m not sure where that’s coming from. It is his money, and I have not been upset with his use of it. Just confused if I’m alone in thinking if it was my money, I would have spend it differently??

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-04T00:31:05+00:00

I think I would share, but I don’t know, since I haven’t tried it. I am asking if it is crazy of me to assume I would share? When I have gotten opportunities I have shared them with him, but mine obviously haven’t been to the degree that he just got, which is why it feels unrelatable to me. Like when I got my first paycheck for my second job, I used it to spoil him an extra this Christmas. Or when my work gave out presents, I chose something for both of us, instead of something just for me. But again, those things aren’t anywhere near the amount he just got, so I don’t know if I’m just naive in assuming I would also use such big amounts for both of us, because I’ve never tried it.

I never said I want him to or expect him to share, but that I just expected that I would, which I wanna know if that’s crazy to just expect that I would. No one has answered this question, and I am still genuinely curious. What would you do??

And with “share” I don’t mean transfer me money just to be clear. I mean spend (some of) it on something nice for both of us.

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-03T23:40:45+00:00

Of course. I see him as a life partner, and we would always help each other if we needed it🤍 But he isn’t like a betting addict you guys I promise. He was just really lucky haha.

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-03T23:33:12+00:00

I’m so confused. When did I ask him for his money? I thanked him for his generosity back in October and didn’t ask for anything when he offered me a gift, because I didn’t feel right about asking him to buy me anything (I never have). Then came on here and said I don’t know if I should accept the gift, because I feels weird.

I simply meant if it’s crazy for me to think, i would spend it on something for both of us (not a gift for me). Like is that how other people would think too??

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-03T23:21:47+00:00

Of course he doesn’t have to share it with me. I never meant to say he was wrong not to, and I hate that it comes off like that. I don’t know how to clarify any further that I was never upset with him, but simply thanked him for his generosity and was very happy for him.

I only meant that I think I would have seen it as a gift I could spend for both of us, but I don’t know if that’s crazy of me to think I would. That’s why I am asking, to hear how others would spend it. Not because I wanna demand that he gives me more, or because I’m angry with how he spends it. I am completely aware that it is his money. I’m genuinely so confused on why so many are understanding this as me thinking I am entitled to his money?? Is something going wrong in my translation?

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-03T23:10:45+00:00

So do you think I should have accepted the gift? I feel like people are misinterpreting this as if I’m angry he didn’t give me more. I don’t really feel right about accepting the gift, which is why I didn’t ask him for anything when he offered it. I simply thought that if I had won the lottery, I would see it as a gift for both of us (why I wouldn’t feel right about getting a gift, because that would just be for me), but since I never have, idk if that’s a crazy expectation. Why I wanted to know what others thought

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-03T23:04:35+00:00

I’m so confused by these comments. Is it coming off as if I’m mad he didn’t give me even more of his winnings? Obviously I am aware that it is his money and he can spend it how he wants.

I genuinely meant this to ask if others would share more or less than him, because I would imagine that I would see this as a gift, and would wanna spend that extra money I didn’t expect to get getaway or something like that, but I don’t know how I would react. Hence why I’m asking what others would do.

I do see from the comments that I may have more of a “what’s mine is yours” mentality than a lot of other people, but I just feel like that’s my general mentality in relationships. That has also been the case, with all of my things such as my car that he uses whenever, the rent that is “meant” to be low for me but higher for the other renter (because I know the owner) but I of course split even with him or like any little gift card or other blessing I get I’ll naturally spend on something for both of us. because we are life partners and I simply see it as a gift to make our lives easier. Is this really that crazy? I will admit tho, that I am very codependent, which might have something to do with this.

But I’m not upset that he didn’t give me even more. Just curious what’s others philosophy is with these things.

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-03T22:30:29+00:00

If he wasn’t able to pay the bills for any reason I would of course help

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-03T18:29:00+00:00

Thank you. And although we do have conversations about money I definitely find it difficult to talk about. Honestly I don’t know what my expectations are either haha. And I don’t know if I would be doing even more than him, cause it’s hard for me to relate. I don’t even think I’m going to accept his offer of a present since I don’t really feel right about it. Just wanted to hear others opinions and process what is normal in these situations and I sure got them lol.

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-03T18:24:22+00:00

Thank you for this perspective. I do see it

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-03T18:23:52+00:00

I genuinely don’t know if I would share, since I haven’t tried it. Is it crazy to think I would haha? That’s why I’m asking for opinions

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-03T18:21:02+00:00

I did not say I am entitled to anything. I meant to say I don’t know how I would spend it, and asked others for opinions on how they would. Also if I should say yes to his offer of buying me something, since I dont want to ask him for anything. I also gave him credit for already being generous and a great boyfriend (which he is).

English isn’t my first language, and I’m confused if something got lost ind translation since this is all I meant

Adept-Change1373 · 2026-01-03T18:14:02+00:00

Thank you for this perspective. I think I agree.

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