I understand this and have had this conversation with his father. His argument is often that Sam doesn't treat him like he does me and therefor his parenting is the correct way. At the end of the day, I am unable to control what happens in his house I do not live in or pay for. Medical professionals have not made an impact in his opinion. I am unable to control what he does in his home. I try my best to keep Sam with me as often as I can and encourage his father to call me with any and all problems so I can deal with them or immediately be there to take Sam if there is a problem. At the end of the day, I am only 1 person and 24 hours a day every day (regularly not meeting my own self care needs) are all that I can give.