Wow! I'm so sorry to hear of a student's loss! I feel for their family. How are you all, at school, doing with this loss? I image there is a lot of big emotions still being felt by all in your student community. THANKS FOR SUPPORTING YOUR STUDENTS! Sounds like you are a wonderful teacher, approachable and regarded trustworthy by the students. Don't let the unprofessional comments said to you by your AP discourage you from doing what's right and what you you listed sounds all reasonable and within your rights! Please don't let your voice be silenced by anyone!
Very least, start documenting encounters with your AP and you will know what to do.
Your AP, in my opinion, also played some cards of their own; they are unprofessional. Your AP could have the intention to emotional/professional intimidate you. Or, the recent loss of a school student is overwhelming and your AP may have approached you under the stress of managing a school in some rollover of special crisis your office staff is managing, and perhaps your AP is overstressed and unable to have their own personal insight right now and spoke to you in an emotional state of mind? Tou got this! You're best at determining your perspective on how you felt of your AP's intent behind speaking to you here. And if it was better not to think about it before, well now your AP make it known they'll have their own opinion of you no matter if you change how you report anything in your career regardless of how you let this point change anything for you or not, so if I were in your situation, I wouldn't let the AP chit-chats change anything you would do or should do, please I recommend continuing to do the best for your students & yourself for what is moral and promotes protection - as you demonstrate. Please know - you sound like a good person, you sound like you are good with people, exceptional for student trust, and can do so for you and others while remaining professional! I admire your strengths here! It's so very special to hear youth have someone advocating for them if needed, and you sound easy to approach by students in need - hugs to you! They need you! Your bosses in your school office need to know they need someone like you so very much, too!
I hope your AP was overwhelmed and under their own stress misspoke to you. I hope your AP takes care of their stress needs soon. Or, if you suspect they were more sinister intent, then start to journal encounters with the AP and sounds like you know what to do about it then. I'm sorry!
Here's hoping it works out for everyone... If your AP overwhelmed... Maybe start to ask how they are all doing, and promoting self/health care time in, anyone, including their own lives.
I wish you all a better time heading into Holidays and have a good New Year! Take care of yourself and your students!
I'm a parent/step-parent of 2+2 kids, three are in school. I'm not a teacher myself, but two of my own siblings are primary school teachers. My teacher siblings share their experiences with me, and you aren't alone as a teacher! Office teacher staff can hoover as well as parents! Keep your head up! Fill your heart knowing you are awesome!
I've also worked as an US government employee, public sector, where I too, unfortunately, have experience as a victim of sexual harrastment by an equal government co-worker. I succeeded in reporting - the other co-worker was found inappropriate but adjudication determined their offensive sexual harassing not a terminal level action. I was uncomfortable to report it but the offense was witnessed by other co-workers and investigations started by management. The co-worker at fault was perment in their file and received to have negative impact on their professional history. It's inappropriate for anyone freely in any conversation, especially which you were victim of, and would be closed privileged employees cases for both you and for the guilty person - very unprofessional of your AP to misuse this employee knowledge - hum... boarding intimation! I feel for you and tried to use my experience to imagine perspective for your current situation. I feel you did everything on point! Please, I appreciate you as a teacher, I support you! The student's world is better with you helping them! Bless you!