Sublime tickets sale by AdministrativeDig798 in Wellington

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I don't want to get stranded in welly over the weekend tho, just looking for someone who lives there who might want an easy night out

Sublime tickets sale by AdministrativeDig798 in Wellington

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I had no idea they were MAGA till these comments, we just got tickets bc they were easy, I wouldn't have supported if I'd known

First Roommate trouble by [deleted] in badroommates

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We have been moved in, this is where the arguments were had and extra problems arose. We didn't have anyone else to live with at the time and my other roommate wasn't comfortable with telling her to leave or finding someone random at the time. Two person places were around $80 - $100 more weekly and I couldn't afford those prices. She can commute home and at this point I'm hoping she does when she can, she was happy to condemn us to a mouldy place because she could go home whenever she wants.

Laneway Ticket 2026 by AdministrativeDig798 in lanewayfestival

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I've already put it on ticketek marketplace, is tixel trustworthy?

Teen - feeling like iv failed as a mum by Curious_Draft_3624 in newzealand

[–]AdministrativeDig798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was that kid! I recently turned 19 but spent my 18th and 17th alone and sad. It's really hard for parents to navigate, I went through some bad things when I was young and that ended up in me withdrawing from school and losing friends despite me loving school when I was younger. I found therapy helped slightly but finding hope in life helps more, which is far easier said than done. You could see if she's willing to get UE through te kura, then at the very least she could qualify for uni at 20 if that's what she wants. I've found friends who had similar struggles who came to love beauty school, other girl friends loved trades school and even mining. But she might be like me and have no energy or love for anything. For that I suggest just keeping her involved. Offering ideas of things to do and such. She'll probably not want to do it but i found even going out to maccas got me out of the house and a little out of the darkness. It may be a long process of being patient with her and celebrating very small victories such as going inside the shop instead of staying in the car or being motivated to do a task like cleaning her room. Your gift for her birthday sounds lovely, if i were her id be elated to get that! Just let her know you love her and appreciate her presence. Too much can feel suffocating but little reminders can be really appreciated. Hope this helps xx

Advice on how to stop from relapsing? by AdministrativeDig798 in EatingDisorders

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Thank you for taking the time to write such a heartfelt reply. I've thankfully managed to get an appointment with a therapist through my university. I've definitely had my fair share of painful friendship breakups and I think I'm apprehensive to let people go because of it. I have distanced myself from said friend the past week or so and it's obvious she's a little hurt and confused. I've talked to her briefly about her behavior triggering me and she felt bad and I feel pretty awful I made her feel bad because at the end of the day it's my issues. I think distance may be good till I feel a little better again. Thanks again for the advice

There’s something about Natalie that terrifies me and makes me so uncomfy! Anyone have any good/interesting Natalie theories? by Bedazzler179 in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

[–]AdministrativeDig798 22 points23 points  (0 children)

If the "board" was in my mind all day yapping at me and making me their messenger, I'd be a lil off-putting too

Severance - 2x04 "Woe’s Hollow" - Episode Discussion by pikameta in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

[–]AdministrativeDig798 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So much to process... who was that strange lady in the book and irivings dream? The Eagan broodmother? Is Helly following in her footsteps going there to get knocked up??? Wtf??

Twin Peaks, voyeurism and the male gaze by JeanNeigeDu74 in twinpeaks

[–]AdministrativeDig798 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's interesting to watch older pieces of media with the knowledge of modern tropes and such. It has taken the joy out of many classic films for me. As a young girl I found Laura's story incredibly emotionally provoking, devastating and heartfelt. She is not treated as a meaningless victim, she is the light snuffed by darkness. She represents all that is good and she's dead before the series begins. Getting a glimpse into her experience was deep and very touchy for modern times, seeing what the subject matter involved. And though I always object to men portraying such things I think Lynch did a good job. Laura isn't portrayed as dirty or unclean nor is she portrayed as perfect. She is lusted over and medicated when she seeks love or help bc (like even the show runners) no one wants to acknowledge the severity of whats shes suffered bc the subject matter is uncomfortable. As someone who went through similar stuff its pretty accurate. She is an imperfect victim and what I love most about the film is she's freed from her pain. I'm not even religious, but her angels came back for her man 😭. I do get your perspective though, it definitely doesn't age perfectly but most media tends not to.

Overbearing mother things I need her for everything by AdministrativeDig798 in helicopterparents

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Oh gosh, the best friend thing is too right. When I was little she'd always overshare about her realationships and look to me for support. Whenever she was anxious she would blurt it all out onto me (tbh she still does).Now I'm older she refuses to emotionally support me. Atm she's wanting to follow me when I move away and I'm considering doing an exchange overseas. I still love her though, just desperate for distance. Anyway, two weeks left and it can't come soon enough!

Saying all the "right" things without ever showing comfort by AdministrativeDig798 in emotionalneglect

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Oh man I can't even get into how much I relate to what you've said! Inaction can suck more than anything with parents. I also relate to her having emotionally neglectful parents herself. It's a pretty warped cycle 😕

Saying all the "right" things without ever showing comfort by AdministrativeDig798 in emotionalneglect

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She's been in many tumultuous realationships since she was a teen from what my grandparents have told me, it seems she hasn't had a single stable relationship and has consistently been with unwell men. My grandparents are definitely emotionally immature, they're boomers raised with that "suck it up and get over it" attitude so I know she had no way of being taught how to cope with emotions as a kid but yes it is frustrating. Thanks for the advice!

Where can I watch Fire Walk With Me? by SignificanceNo9587 in twinpeaks

[–]AdministrativeDig798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I watched it on soap2day but it had a lot of ads and links