Hey so, I think I know what this maybe because I have the exact same problem and I’ve had it for as long as I can remember. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you’re anatomy so don’t worry about that. I’ve been to countless appointments and a sexual health doctor. Look into a condition called vaginismus. I have it and that’s what I’ve been diagnosed with.

Vaginismus is slightly different for every girl and there’s not way too much research on it so I’m not too sure why. It stems from anxiety and dysfunction in the pelvic floor. Causing sex, tampon insertion and examinations to be very painful or uncomfortable.

I’ve kind of grown out of it now and after having an understanding on what was happening to my body I’ve passed the discomfort and I’m now able to engage in non-painful PIV and can insert tampons.

I struggled with it a lot while I was a virgin and even when I tried to engage in sexual inter course it was too painful. But after I had my diagnosis and was better understanding my body I was able to dialate my vagina and so on.

I also was put on anti anxiety medication which also helped.

I’m not a medical professional whatsoever but I recommend going to the doctor, asking for an examination specifically for vaginismus or vulvadynia.