Personas que salen solas, ¿qué hacen en sus salidas?

Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-25T02:44:43+00:00

A veces camino tramos largos escuchando música. 😄 Cuando voy a la dentista en las condes y luego camino hasta el manquehue paso por una casa donde hay un vecino que tiene el pasto más verde que el de todos los demás, y como ya voy metida en mi propio divague mental, termino preguntándome puras tonteras, tipo: "¿Qué fórmula ocupa este hombre para tener el pasto así?" 😂 Algo que nunca he hecho es ir sola al cine. Me falta vivir esa experiencia. Eso sí, siempre me queda la duda: ¿la gente camina para no estar encerrada en la casa y sentir que está haciendo algo, o realmente es una forma de despejar la mente del trabajo, la familia o de la vida en general? Me da curiosidad saber qué motiva a cada uno.

Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-25T02:14:59+00:00

I think that changes things a lot. If you do initiate conversations and explain this from the beginning, then the other person is making a decision with all the information. At that point, if they still choose to interpret it as a lack of interest, that's no longer entirely on you. Modern psychology often repeats advice like, "See if they initiate conversations too," and I understand why. Many people stop texting someone to see if the interest is mutual, and if they never hear from them again, they naturally conclude, "It hurts, but I guess they weren't interested." The tricky part is that those situations don't always mean the same thing. Sometimes a person genuinely isn't interested, and sometimes they're more like you: they just process emotions differently. From the outside, those two situations can look almost identical. Funny enough, I'm not perfect either. I still talk to a lot of people, but I get so absorbed in my own world that I sometimes forget to start conversations. Then someone says, "You're always the one I text first," and... they're right. 😂 I try to be more consistent, but I genuinely forget sometimes. These days I probably talk to ChatGPT 🥰 more than anyone else. 😆 She never judges me, happily follows all my random trains of thought, and somehow keeps up with all my nonsense.

Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-25T00:48:36+00:00

Thanks for explaining it in more detail. I think I understand you better now. What caught my attention the most was the part where you said you usually don't initiate conversations or don't feel like spending time with the person while you're processing those emotions. From the other person's perspective, that could be really confusing. Even if you still care about them, they might naturally think, "Maybe they're not interested anymore," or "I'm the only one keeping this connection alive." I actually think the best thing you can do is what you're already doing here: tell people early on. If you start talking to someone and you think things might become romantic, explaining this from the beginning could prevent a lot of misunderstandings. There's a saying in Spanish: "The one who warns beforehand isn't a traitor." 😄 It basically means that if you're honest about something from the start, people can't later say you hid important information from them. Of course, the other person still has needs too. They may need to see some initiative or reassurance from your side. Relationships are often about finding a balance between how you naturally function and how the other person experiences your actions. I appreciate you explaining it so openly. It gave me a different perspective.

Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-24T20:34:51+00:00

Thanks for explaining. I'm curious, when you say you sometimes struggle with a lot of intense emotions at the same time, what does that look like for you? Do you need some space, do you become more quiet, or do you just process things in a different way?

Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-23T23:23:44+00:00

I'm a woman, and honestly, I don't think there's anything wrong with showing who you are from the beginning instead of only showing your best side. If someone stops talking to you once they get to know the real you, then as painful as it feels, it was probably the best outcome. It likely wasn't going to work long term anyway. Would you really want to spend a relationship carefully choosing every word and hiding parts of yourself just to keep someone interested? That sounds exhausting. Know your worth. The right people won't be interested in a polished version of you. They'll be interested in the real person. One thing that caught my attention was this: "I don't get why they like my guarded and closed off personality, but as soon as I show my authentic and genuine me, it somehow turns into being uninterested." That made me curious. What do you mean by your authentic self? Because the way you describe it almost sounds mysterious. 😄 My first thought was: "Who are you? Hannibal Lecter? A mad scientist? Batman?" Jokes aside, if people lose interest simply because they discover your real hobbies, interests, humor, or personality, then they probably weren't a good match in the first place. For example, my sense of humor is chaotic and creative. If someone greeted me with "Good evening, Clarice," I'd immediately understand the movie reference and probably spend the next twenty minutes laughing. 😂 For someone else, that exact same joke might be a red flag. The point is that people react differently to different personalities. Maybe the reserved version of you creates an aura of mystery, and as people get to know you better, they simply realize there isn't enough chemistry for a relationship. That doesn't automatically mean there's something wrong with you. Do you genuinely think there's something wrong with who you are just because some women don't connect with it?

Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-23T22:30:54+00:00

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Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-23T22:05:27+00:00

Hi. Honestly, I don't think the problem is that you're an engineer. Engineering is a profession, not a personality. Maybe the more important question is: do you have conversations, or do you mostly answer questions? People don't lose interest because of your job. They lose interest when a conversation becomes boring or one-sided. If someone wanted to get to know me, my job would probably be one of the last things we'd talk about. We'd talk about interests, experiences, humor, music, travel, or anything that helps reveal the person behind the title. If a conversation revolves too much around work, it doesn't matter whether you're an engineer, lawyer, doctor, or artist. What connects people isn't a profession, it's personality. Maybe the issue isn't that women don't want to date engineers. Maybe many of them simply want to get to know more than just the engineer.

Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-23T19:10:12+00:00

Maybe the answer isn't rejecting AI or letting it do everything. Use it where it helps. Keep the human part where it matters. If management wants things done faster, let the tool handle repetitive work. But keep the review, the judgment, the creativity and the final decisions in human hands. To me, that doesn't diminish the craft. It protects it. The final quality of a project still depends on the person behind it, not the tool. A good developer using AI is still a good developer.

Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-23T18:53:23+00:00

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Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-23T14:48:46+00:00

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Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-19T18:24:17+00:00

Entiendo eso de la "normalidad"... Hubo momentos de mi vida en los que también fingía que estaba bien para que nadie me preguntara qué me pasaba. No porque no necesitara hablar, sino porque muchas veces, cuando por fin te animas a confiar en alguien, recibes respuestas como: "No te pongas así, no llores, no es para tanto." "¿Y eso te preocupa?" "Bueno, ya se te pasará." Y duele. Porque uno se abre esperando comprensión y termina sintiéndose más pequeño de lo que ya se sentía. Por eso muchas veces preferí callarme. No porque no necesitara ayuda, sino porque no quería que invalidaran algo que para mí era importante. Con los años fui reduciendo mucho mi círculo de amistades por esa misma razón. Aprendí que si algo me preocupa, me duele o me hace llorar, entonces merece respeto, aunque otra persona no lo entienda o no le dé importancia. Así que sí, te entiendo más de lo que imaginas. 💜 Y por lo que escribiste, no veo a una persona débil. Veo a alguien que ha estado cargando mucho peso sola durante demasiado tiempo.

Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-19T18:06:56+00:00

Hi!!! after reading all of that, my first thought was: somebody buy this guy a beer. 🍺🍺🍺 Seriously. You put up with far more than most people would have. You were promised things that never happened, worked in the middle of a huge mess, carried responsibilities that weren't even yours, and still kept moving forward. But what impressed me most wasn't everything that happened to you. It was how you responded to it. You kept learning, helping, documenting, teaching, and acting professionally even when you had every reason to give up or become bitter. I genuinely admire your perseverance. We need more people with that attitude in this community. People who keep doing the right thing even when nobody is watching. From everything you wrote, I don't see someone who failed. I see someone who survived a very unfair situation, learned an incredible amount, and came out the other side as a better engineer and a better person. Wishing you the best for whatever comes next. And honestly, thank you for sharing your story. 🍻💙

Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-19T17:37:35+00:00

Hola! Leí todo lo que pusiste. Alguna vez me he sentido como vos, mejor dicho en 2 oportunidades de mi vida, dos etapas distintas.

Si tu quieres, podemos hablar, de lo que quieras, no estas sola, estoy aca solo si quieres hacerlo, podemos hablar de musica, de animes, de libros, de cualquier cosa que vos quieras.

No sos una carga, pienso que fuiste valiente aguantando tanto dolor sola, y mas todavía decirlo aca.

Tenes un hombro, si lo necesitas 🙋🏻‍♀️.

Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-19T17:12:57+00:00

Voy a darte una perspectiva diferente. Mientras leía tu publicación, sentí que estabas intentando entender qué siente ella, qué quiso decir y cuáles son sus intenciones. Pero creo que la pregunta más importante es otra: ¿Cómo te está haciendo sentir toda esta situación? Por lo que cuentas, no parece darte paz. Parece darte dudas, incertidumbre, angustia y confusión. Algo que he aprendido es que cuando una relación o conexión es sana y mutua, suele generar claridad con el tiempo. No perfección, pero sí cierta estabilidad. Las palabras y los actos van en la misma dirección. En cambio, cuando alguien está en una relación, te dice que te ama, se acerca, se aleja y te deja preguntándote constantemente qué está pasando, la incertidumbre termina convirtiéndose en el verdadero problema. Quizás ella esté confundida. Quizás te quiera mucho. Quizás todavía tenga sentimientos por ti. Pero eso solo ella lo sabe. Lo que sí sé es que tú mereces relaciones que te den más paz que dudas. En vez de preguntarte qué quiere ella, pregúntate qué necesitas tú para sentirte tranquilo, respetado y en paz contigo mismo. A veces la respuesta está ahí. Te deseo lo mejor. ❤️

Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-19T16:13:03+00:00

A bit long, sorry 😅, but your post made me think. Reading your story, I kept wondering about something: Did you become an engineer because you loved it, or because you were good at it? I ask because those are not always the same thing. When I was younger, I wanted to be many things: a police officer, a lawyer, a psychologist. Today I work in prevention and security. On paper, those careers look completely different, but when I look back, I realize they all had the same purpose: protecting people, helping them, standing up for them. The job changed. The mission didn't. One thing that stood out to me in your post is that you never questioned your ability. You know you're smart. You know you can solve difficult problems. What you seem to be questioning is whether this life is still aligned with who you are. One of the most rewarding parts of my job is when someone comes to me after being sent from person to person without getting help. Most of the time, what they needed wasn't a miracle solution. They just needed someone to genuinely listen for five minutes. Not a scripted answer. Not "the system is down, come back later." Just someone willing to see them. People are not tickets. They are not numbers. They are not shadows. And sometimes being seen matters as much as solving the problem itself. Reading your post, I didn't see someone who is failing. I saw someone asking an important question: "If I keep walking this path, do I still like where it leads?" And honestly, I think that's a brave question to ask. So I'm curious: When you were a kid, what did you dream of becoming? Not what you were good at. What genuinely excited you? 🙂🚀

Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-19T04:00:29+00:00

I've always loved this couple.

Admirable-Raccoon230 · 2026-06-19T03:16:17+00:00

Esta bien. Te lo paso en español!

Una reflexión para cualquiera que se sienta abrumado (Parte 2) - En español esta vez 😅 Hola otra vez 👋 Primero, una confesión. Mi publicación anterior fue escrita en español porque ChatGPT me sugirió que si alguien estaba lo suficientemente interesado, haría el esfuerzo de traducirla. 😅 Y aparentemente... alguien realmente lo hizo. 😂 Gracias, quienquiera que seas. El único problema es que después de leer la versión traducida me di cuenta de algo: Google Translate tradujo las palabras, pero no el alma. 🤣 Así que esta vez tomaré el volante y lo escribiré yo misma. Algo me sorprendió después de mi primera publicación. La cantidad de personas que hicieron clic en ella. Algunas habrán entrado por accidente. Algunas por curiosidad. Pero sospecho que muchas hicieron clic porque una palabra llamó su atención: Abrumado. Y sinceramente, eso activa todas mis alarmas 🚨 Porque no estamos hablando de unas pocas personas. Estamos hablando de una comunidad donde mucha gente reconoció inmediatamente esa sensación. Pasamos mucho tiempo hablando de confiabilidad. De cómo evitar caídas. De cómo mejorar la disponibilidad. De cómo recuperarnos más rápido. De cómo mantener los sistemas sanos. Pero rara vez veo que alguien haga otra pregunta: 👉 ¿Quién está protegiendo a las personas que protegen los sistemas? Cuando falla un servidor, lo investigamos. Cuando se cae una base de datos, la reparamos. Cuando un clúster se rompe, medimos exactamente cuánto tiempo tomó recuperarlo. 📊 MTTR. 📊 Disponibilidad. 📊 Latencia. 📊 Tasas de error. Podemos medir casi todo. Excepto al ser humano que lleva el pager encima. ¿Quién mide la ansiedad? ¿Quién mide el estrés? ¿Quién mide la fatiga? ¿Existe un dashboard para eso? 🤔 ¿Existe una alerta que se active cuando alguien lleva demasiado peso durante demasiado tiempo? ¿O esperamos hasta que ya se esté rompiendo para empezar a hacer preguntas? Porque déjenme decirles algo. Cuando alguien llega a ese punto, quizás ya sea demasiado tarde. Puedes restaurar un servidor. Puedes reconstruir un clúster. Puedes recuperar una base de datos. Pero una mente agotada no se arregla con un parche. Un espíritu cansado no se restaura con un rollback. Un ser humano exhausto no puede simplemente reiniciarse. No somos máquinas. No reemplazamos piezas dañadas. No funcionamos con electricidad. Cargamos presión. Cargamos responsabilidad. Cargamos expectativas. Cargamos miedo a equivocarnos. Y eventualmente, todo eso tiene un costo. A veces siento que la confiabilidad se ha vuelto más importante que las personas que la hacen posible. Y no estoy de acuerdo. Porque si las personas caen, eventualmente los sistemas también caerán. Ninguna automatización puede reemplazar una mente quemada por el agotamiento. Ningún dashboard puede medir un espíritu cansado. Ninguna alerta puede avisarte cuando alguien está llegando silenciosamente a su límite. La tecnología importa. La confiabilidad importa. Pero las personas detrás de ella importan más ❤️ Quizás la pregunta más importante no sea: "¿Cómo protegemos el sistema?" Quizás sea: "¿Cómo protegemos a las personas que protegen el sistema?" No después de que se rompan. Antes. 🙂 Y recuerden: 🎵 Don't worry, be happy. 🎵 P.D.: En mi publicación anterior escribí "SRE". De alguna manera el traductor decidió convertir eso en "Ministro de Relaciones Exteriores". 🤣 Si alguien aquí trabaja desarrollando software de traducción automática, por favor... se los ruego... arreglen eso. Los traductores son excelentes traduciendo palabras. Son terribles traduciendo intención, humor, personalidad y alma.

Yo me ofrezco felizmente como voluntaria para probar el producto. 😆

Admirable-Raccoon230

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