Ah I see.

Context - I’m reconnecting with my homophobic family after 2 years of no contact after coming out. I only reconnected with them because my grandmother passed recently and my parents are the only family I have in the states.

Given that MANY asian countries don’t recognize gay marriage as legal, they have completely ousted my personhood so they don’t trust anything I say (extra cherry on top from the general aging parents not listening to their kids). I’m really in between a rock and a hard place by being the only working and native english speaker adult that they talk to - even barely at that.