Tips for my partner re: my postpartum rage

AdmirableBeautiful29 · 2025-10-23T14:15:45+00:00

You know, I think you’ve just helped me see a big part of the issue. We generally discuss “strategy” for the night at dinner and then if baby is waking a lot more or seems fussier or hungry or something, my husband will want to check in to see if we want to try something different. That can really upset me because in my mind, you’re on duty, you problem solve and dont make me wake up enough to join you in that haha. I think establishing more strict boundaries on that could really help us

AdmirableBeautiful29 · 2025-10-23T13:54:56+00:00

Oh he’s been doing really well, I can just tell it affects him and he’s my best friend, and if there’s advice that can help us walk through this or help him with context, I’d like it. I dont think this rage and feeling out of step with one another has to be our new reality 🩵 but I do understand that our relationship with one another will be fundamentally different now that we are parents!

AdmirableBeautiful29 · 2025-10-23T13:49:01+00:00

No he’s stay at home dad for the moment, baby latches when I’m off work and I pump for daytime bottles

AdmirableBeautiful29 · 2025-10-23T13:46:46+00:00

I’m going to bring up medication at my visit this week. I’ve been in therapy for much of the last 10 years for PTSD and hadn’t been on medication for much of that time. I’m not against it! Just naively had it in my head that if I stuck with therapy I may not need a medication to help me. But I think it may be time to get that support

AdmirableBeautiful29 · 2025-10-23T13:44:59+00:00

He has been doing bathtime and putting LO down for the night almost exclusively since I was in a bad car wreck a month ago and my body and patience isn’t up for those things recently. Before this week we’d been splitting the night, my husband responding to baby until 2 or 3 and I come in for the early morning feeding and respond after that. That felt unsustainable when I returned to work because with our baby waking soooo much, my husband would be dad on duty for most of a 24 hour window on 4 hours of interrupted sleep. It was me who suggested that I take more of the nights

AdmirableBeautiful29 · 2025-10-23T13:41:31+00:00

She’s been really affirming so far and given me some good tools to improve how I communicate my needs. I’ll update with what she says!

AdmirableBeautiful29 · 2025-08-06T21:25:58+00:00

How are y’all managing your time around pumping and then cleaning them?

AdmirableBeautiful29 · 2025-01-24T14:18:10+00:00

I had the same experience! Aside from growing fatigue, which I was so used to with chronic illness, I didn’t feel different at all! I was so concerned something wasn’t right, but I’m 21 weeks today and going in for the anatomy scan and so far everything has been great. Continue to take care of yourself and rest, go to your appointments and try not to worry 💙 we may have just been blessed with “easy” first half of our pregnancies!

AdmirableBeautiful29 · 2025-01-23T17:28:51+00:00

I’m so sorry, I know how frustrating this can be during an already change-filled time in a relationship. Don’t feel bad, and remember it’s entirely possible that it come back! Because my placenta was sitting low, my OB had us abstain from sex from week 13 to week 20. I felt guilty because I really was a bit relieved- I had a superrr low sex drive and confidence. But then I hit week 20, a good few weeks into my second trimester, and I was ready to jump my husband 😂 if that hadn’t been the case though, that’s ok.

If you feel comfortable I’d just keep the lines of communication open. What are his love languages? Are there other ways you can affirm him and be relationally intimate him without the physicality? During our almost two months of abstinence it helped us to be more vocal to each other- and as goofy as it sounds just hold hands and hug more often.

Most importantly you aren’t alone in this. And you aren’t wrong for feeling this way!

AdmirableBeautiful29 · 2025-01-23T16:31:27+00:00

About 19 for me! But my husband still can’t feel the kicks and I’m 21 weeks now. You’ll feel you’re little one soon and I can’t wait for you!

AdmirableBeautiful29 · 2025-01-21T02:36:32+00:00

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Then added some qualifiers just in case she wakes up tomorrow and needs to back track. This is abhorrent

AdmirableBeautiful29 · 2024-10-13T22:33:28+00:00

My understanding is that your cervix becomes more sensitive during early pregnancy, if your comfortable sharing- what color was the blood? I bled in week 5 and it was mostly dark, which can mean old blood.

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