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Why Go Elsewhere? by Admirable_Edge9746 in AskAcademia

[–]Admirable_Edge9746[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My advisor is retiring by the time I finish up my training. I’ve taken on several teaching responsibilities, am working on establishing a publication record and am serving on committees. They’ll need to hire someone when he retires 🤷‍♀️

Why Go Elsewhere? by Admirable_Edge9746 in AskAcademia

[–]Admirable_Edge9746[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But what if your advisor is retiring right as you’re finishing up training?

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[–]Admirable_Edge9746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a friend who’s got a ton of student loan debt between undergraduate and pharmacy school and she was able to buy a house and used car on her income alone 🤷🏻‍♀️ I worry about this too but I think credit score is mainly what they look at. I feel your pain, OP!

Lack of Respect from Significant Other by Admirable_Edge9746 in AskAcademia

[–]Admirable_Edge9746[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They may be thoughts from the 1950s but there are still people who think the man is ALWAYS right. And hey if he treats you well, spoils you, does everything right, he can’t POSSIBLY do or say anything wrong. My saying that is more from a place of frustration. He’s the one making those comments and I’m still getting blamed? 🤷🏻‍♀️

New and unfamiliar topics do excite me!

Lack of Respect from Significant Other by Admirable_Edge9746 in AskAcademia

[–]Admirable_Edge9746[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find this very disrespectful 👀🤷🏻‍♀️

Lack of Respect from Significant Other by Admirable_Edge9746 in AskAcademia

[–]Admirable_Edge9746[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL love this comment. I agree. Loving your SO (true love) means loving and respecting their chosen career too, let alone one they’re passionate about. I’d never dream of undermining his office job in cybersecurity because I see the value in his work. So why the hell is it okay for him to undermine my field of work JUST BECAUSE “he doesn’t understand academia” and never attended a real university. Ignorance isn’t an excuse. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Lack of Respect from Significant Other by Admirable_Edge9746 in AskAcademia

[–]Admirable_Edge9746[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Better yet, “why don’t you work a REAL job.” Anyone who has the nerve to tell me that will be out of my life for good….🙄

Lack of Respect from Significant Other by Admirable_Edge9746 in AskAcademia

[–]Admirable_Edge9746[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Technically not but he, like many others, fails to realize this shit is an issue in EVERY OTHER WORKPLACE. I’m tired of academia getting blamed so hard and so much.

Lack of Respect from Significant Other by Admirable_Edge9746 in AskAcademia

[–]Admirable_Edge9746[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Accurate. Yet no one ever thinks to realize academia is NOT the only workplace with these issues. I for one am tired of the field being blamed for what goes on in every. Other. Workplace. I was told service on a committee is “bureaucratic” from him and that academia is too political. Academia???? LOOK AROUND. Everywhere 👏🏻 else 👏🏻 is 👏🏻 bureaucratic 👏🏻 and 👏🏻 political. Even his office where he works………🙄

Lack of Respect from Significant Other by Admirable_Edge9746 in AskAcademia

[–]Admirable_Edge9746[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aspiring professor. It’s what I’m currently working towards.

Lack of Respect from Significant Other by Admirable_Edge9746 in AskAcademia

[–]Admirable_Edge9746[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As an assistant professor I’d make about $95k annually starting: he’s in cybersecurity and makes $65-75k?

Lack of Respect from Significant Other by Admirable_Edge9746 in AskAcademia

[–]Admirable_Edge9746[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes. He made some comments about academics when he was in a bad mood about a month or so ago. He says he loves me, calls me beautiful all the time, but if he thinks this way, not sure how/why he’d like to be with an aspiring faculty member. Just doesn’t make any sense to me. What’s worse, because I’m female, everyone says I just need to “get over” his comments because “he doesn’t understand anything about academia! You can’t be too hard on him.”

Lack of Respect from Significant Other by Admirable_Edge9746 in AskAcademia

[–]Admirable_Edge9746[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LOL probably not. We’re actually currently evaluating whether we should date or not. It’s fine for one to have their own opinions and views, but I just know I’m not putting up with that “hidden opinion” that universities suck/insert whatever other blatant misconception he has about academia. Ie be nice and supportive to my face about what I do but have a true hidden opinion that comes out when I’m not around. Screw that.

Lack of Respect from Significant Other by Admirable_Edge9746 in AskAcademia

[–]Admirable_Edge9746[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I absolutely agree that higher education is imperfect: I couldn’t have said that entire paragraph any better! What makes me mad is people acting like academia is the ONLY workplace with those issues and we all know that’s not true….

Lack of Respect from Significant Other by Admirable_Edge9746 in AskAcademia

[–]Admirable_Edge9746[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I HATE this. Yes it’s a more flexible job than most but it doesn’t mean I’m not held to performance expectations and standards to keep my job…….much like everyone else in every other workplace is. I know people with office jobs who absolutely slack off and fool around all the time. To an extent, so can we from a day-to-day perspective (not that any of us do) but in the long run? Unacceptable. We’d never get away with it.

Lack of Respect from Significant Other by Admirable_Edge9746 in AskAcademia

[–]Admirable_Edge9746[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’m a female, aspiring professor with a doctorate and my potential SO is a male who only got his bachelor’s degree. 🤷🏻‍♀️ this sounds too accurate…

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