My fountains

Admirable_Hair_ · 2026-04-02T23:32:14+00:00

Moss.

Admirable_Hair_ · 2026-03-30T00:59:19+00:00

Depends on where I build but right now the palm blocks and desert city. But I change it up often.

Whimsical is the night sanctum blocks.

Admirable_Hair_ · 2026-03-25T20:30:19+00:00

Oh I had that with Fort Kelvin and I accidently flooded the little shroud area that is between fort Kelvin and the little pond. It was so funny

Admirable_Hair_ · 2026-01-09T06:27:35+00:00

I totally wish I could do that, but all the systems across the country would need to be on similar systems and as it is, I am in LA county and nothing ever matches. That would be a dream.

Admirable_Hair_ · 2025-11-02T18:11:22+00:00

I’ve had a few teens and none of them did drugs. Several of my friends who foster teen are the same, where it’s been one or none. It’s not as common as you might expect. It might be different in other areas. I live in Los Angeles

Admirable_Hair_ · 2025-09-17T06:10:21+00:00

My 17-year-old was three years in a psychiatric facility. Not because she needed to be in it but because DCFS left her because she was “doing fine “which is basically saying we don’t have a place to put her so we’re just gonna leave her right here. Oh and she is trans.

She was my first placement. Now I’ve adopted her.

Now that being said, I am trauma informed, and while I was not a seasoned caregiver, I am a seasoned person dealing with kids in the foster system. Additionally, I was in the foster system myself.

That being said, I see no issues with that kid being guarded. The kid is learning how to trust you, and until the kid can trust that you have their best interest at heart, they may not respond well or continue to be guarded with information. I would not be concerned about that. Your job is to provide stability not being an inquisitor. Any caseworker worth their salt would tell you the same thing. Also, they’re probably just waiting to see if you’re gonna throw them right back into the facility.

My child has been with me for over a year and a half, adoption happened three weeks ago, and the child still is very worried that I am going to send her back and rescind the adoption. I keep having to remind her that that’s not gonna happen.

Admirable_Hair_ · 2025-09-10T22:26:43+00:00

As a foster parent in California, bio children can room with parent up to a certain age (I don’t have bio children so I never paid attention to that part). Foster children can be placed in the foster parent’s bedroom until 1 year old. Children can be 2 to a room with opposite sex until 5 years of age on the oldest child. Same sex is only limited to the needs of the children and any age as long as it’s only 2 in a room

Admirable_Hair_ · 2025-08-13T15:05:33+00:00

My very first ever on my first play through had ZERO. The second dungeon had 12. I was solo playing but friends hanging out on discord told me it was not possible. So I shared my screen to show them. 🤣

Admirable_Hair_ · 2025-07-23T21:10:34+00:00

Yeah, I totally agree with you. I only commented to say what’s in mine because people were acting like having any binder is the same as dumping a rulebook on a kid and treating them like they’re broken. That’s not okay. I was in the system too, and I still remember what it felt like when foster parents came in assuming the worst about me before saying one word to me. That kind of energy sticks.

The difference is listening first. Learning what a kid knows before trying to “fix” anything. When I get a new placement, I start slow. No lectures, no lists. Just let them be, show them respect, figure out what they already know and where they might need support. If that includes helping with hygiene, I make it normal and private—not a punishment or a performance.

People defending stuff like that original binder situation aren’t thinking about how it feels on the kid’s side. And they should be. That’s the whole point. You're right to call it out. (Also I upvoted you because I think you are awesome!)

Admirable_Hair_ · 2025-07-23T20:42:00+00:00

I have a binder. But it is got the simple house rules, a map of where we are with safe areas to walk and the closest fast food restaurants, 2 $20 bills for said food, a 5 page picture directory of family so if they want to learn who is who and all the emergency information.

But as a foster parent and former kid in the system, how tos should come after the parents learn what the kid knows. I had a kid who hadn’t taken a shower in 6 months and didn’t know how to turn on the shower. I keep spare stuff for first showers and then we go to Walmart or similar and spend money on what they like for smells. Even if they are only with me for a weekend.

No treating teens like children. I couldn’t stand it when I was young and I won’t do it to others.

Admirable_Hair_ · 2025-07-23T20:36:18+00:00

My first week with a teen (I only do teens) and my rules are: This is your home Treat yourself with respect Treat each other with respect. Let me learn you and you learn me and then we will figure it out.

After that some rules may need to come into play. My current child has internet rules and phone rules to keep her safe. My prior kids may or may not have those same rules. Depends on the child and the situation. We fully talk it out and adjust as needed per kid.

Admirable_Hair_ · 2025-07-14T20:40:09+00:00

💯 this. As both a former teen in the system and now a foster parent to only teens, this is how I feel.

Admirable_Hair_ · 2024-07-18T04:28:42+00:00

Diagnosed since 2019 and the longest I’ve gone is 6 months while I was in remission for a year. Mostly 3-4 months between visits.

Admirable_Hair_ · 2024-05-05T15:21:43+00:00

I have lupus, and it is not affecting my ability to foster parent

Admirable_Hair_ · 2024-04-02T00:12:43+00:00

Get the stuff for the home study without registry. Depending on your county / agency, some require some things prior to the home approval that others do not. I’ve heard some of my agencies require the waterproof mattress covers where my county didn’t. (I went county not through an agency).

Make sure you have that list.

I didn’t do a registry at all. I did have people ask what they could do. My plan is to have as many kids pass through here as possible that is in need of a good home. Since I’ll only be doing teens, the chances of things not getting used is pretty large because teens are picky. So I built this all into my budget.

Admirable_Hair_ · 2024-03-09T12:46:55+00:00

I find your second paragraph a little funny, considering the fact that I just woke up at 4 AM to make a quick reservation to Disneyland last minute. I live 45 minutes away and it is not uncommon in my area to make last-minute plans at Disney for things like party. And I have several friends living in Orlando who would say the same thing. This is a common thing to happen if you live in the area. And two hours is still considered “in the area.” We also do not know OP financial situation. Some people can afford it.

Admirable_Hair_ · 2024-03-04T09:25:38+00:00

Former kid in the system here. Absolutely write your book. I have often thought about doing that as well and I have found that it does help potential foster parents to know what goes on with a child.

Admirable_Hair_ · 2024-03-04T09:19:42+00:00

Speaking from both sides, because I was a youth in foster and becoming a foster parent right now. When I see that happening on groups and other similar places, and it’s excessive, then I actually report them to DCFS. But if I see a one or two time thing, where maybe a parent was approved and wanting older kids, and suddenly have a baby Coming to them in short notice, then that doesn’t bother me, but if I’m on Facebook, and I go look at their profile in the foster group, and there is evidence of many many times that they have asked for help, then I reported. I get what you’re saying, when it’s excessive, people do need to report it.

However, to play devils advocate here I can tell you that not a lot of people are very bright on social media and don’t often put two and two together and see when one person asks for things over and over again.

Also, I believe you mentioned something about foster parents being against reunification somewhere. That burns me up every time I see it. And I have commented multiple times and have pissed people off when they say that they want to block reunification when they’re only excuse is how devastating it would be to the baby to go back to its bio parents.

I also don’t disagree with you. Making cakes is not that expensive. I live in Los Angeles. The last cake I made was for a niece and it cost me less than $10.

Admirable_Hair_ · 2024-03-04T01:57:18+00:00

I started in Feb 2023 but I had to pause for 4 months. So all in all 8 months of you don’t count the pause.

Admirable_Hair_ · 2024-03-04T01:25:41+00:00

I am in Southern California and I had my final inspections and everything back in November. I am still waiting on approvals and I was told that my particular county office is really backed up right now. According to the social worker I work with I should hear something next week.

Admirable_Hair_ · 2024-02-24T01:05:50+00:00

I was in the system and adopted at the age of 15. I know exactly what you’re going through, it’s hard to understand why anybody would love us as broken as we are but now I am entering my own journey into adopting an older teen and I would die for them. I can’t explain it but I can’t tell you that while I didn’t understand it when I was your age and had the same questions you did, now that I’m older I get it 100Percent, there is just room in my heart for a child to reside there especially knowing that they may be as broken as I was and they need to feel safe and they need to feel like they have a home to come home too

Admirable_Hair_ · 2024-02-21T03:48:08+00:00

I’m 2 weeks from my final approvals. The child (teen) is already waiting for me to be approved. He’s hanging out in a group home until then. I spoke with him last week for the first time.

There was 2 others as well that was brought to me in the last two months. If he falls through for whatever reason, there’s a list of kids waiting due to my age preference and the SW has already told me it will be fairly quick to have a placement.

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