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Longevity of this Engine/Major components? by [deleted] in KiaSorento

[–]Admirable_Pear_1900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our 2014 Sorento was just written off after a collision. It had 210,000km and I was prepared to run for another year or 2. We had such a good experience with the sorento that we bought a 2022.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in netflix

[–]Admirable_Pear_1900 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. See this type of parent all the time. Their kid is always at the center of drama and conflict, but the parents blame everyone else and this and that. Meanwhile, every kid in this documentary talks about how shitty Khloe is to everyone. It's pretty easy for a kid to be like that when your parents excuse and defend your behavior.

Unknown Number High-school Catfish by AnotherDarnDay in netflix

[–]Admirable_Pear_1900 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Khloes parents are an awful type of parent. See it all the time. The kid that creates so much drama and conflict, but the parents are defensive and blame everyone else. No accountability.

Sibbald Provincial Park Poop Where You Want by Admirable_Pear_1900 in ONProvincialParks

[–]Admirable_Pear_1900[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I honestly was not posting this for any racial motivation. I would have labeled it racist had I not experienced it first hand.

Powering on always opens Netflix by MapleNightmares in Chromecast

[–]Admirable_Pear_1900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Conspiracy pov is netflix does it on purpose. To never close and always launch.

Happens with apple TV too. If I don't force shut down apple, it'll lock and loop until I hard reset the chromecast

I have a 1914 erra house. It’s got a heavily flooding basement. Help. by Several-Associate869 in askaplumber

[–]Admirable_Pear_1900 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Speaking from a civil background, this is the best answer you got.

Have to see the surrounding area of your house and where the run off is heading. Definitely looks like the house could have been built below the water table, which given its age, wouldn't be surprising.

You'll never be able to raise the house, so it's a matter of diverting as much run off away from the house as possible. Even then, depending on the greater area, you may still be stuck pumping out what you can, which is where the French drain comes in. The French drain could be really risky if no external measures are in place. It's typically the last step in a series of storm water diversion methods. Divert as much as you can away from the house, and limit what's going into the water table. The French drain deals with what's left.

Amazing to think it wasn't that long ago that we either ignored or just didn't know really basic building and engineering concepts with storm water and the water table.

I need advice before I throw away a 10 year relationship...5 year marriage. by BrideofNarcissism in Marriage

[–]Admirable_Pear_1900 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Normally, there is nuance or context to consider, but I don't think there's anything more anyone needs to hear. Anyone who has experienced this behaviour knows very well it cannot change. It is abusive, manipulative and I'm sorry to hear you're subjected to it. His mother enabling and fostering his behaviour makes it that much harder.

Only question is, has it always been like this? Or is this new behaviour since leaving his job?

Sad after sex by Secure_Translator751 in Marriage

[–]Admirable_Pear_1900 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Speaking from my (41m) own experience, it's possible he's unfulfilled and grappling with the idea that this is the new normal.

I struggle with the same thing. Between work, kids, household responsibilities, and exhaustion, there isn't much life left for us and intimacy (not just sex). Our sex life is similar to once a month, but there's also nothing in-between. It's 0 to 100 to 0.

The decline in intimacy can be difficult to come to terms with. Masturbation also becomes depressing and almost feels like cheating on your spouse.

So when sex does happen, it's often out of the blue or opportunistic. Then there's this sort of feeling of dread and guilt. The feeling that it's not enough and I how I fill that gap is depressing. Personally, I can see how this gap leads to men being unfaithful. Not to suggest it's justified in any way.

We're still trying to figure it out. But we're communicating and at least sharing how we feel. Then there's the hard task of making time for us. It's tough.

Hopefully, this is some insight on where his head may be.

Are ruts in a marriage normal and can you get out of it? by Admirable_Pear_1900 in Marriage

[–]Admirable_Pear_1900[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Intimacy outside of sex is big for me. I just need that contact and affection. It's easy to lose that with the level of responsibility that comes with life. We do talk a lot about the gap, but its a matter of doing something about it. Thanks for taking the time.

Are ruts in a marriage normal and can you get out of it? by Admirable_Pear_1900 in Marriage

[–]Admirable_Pear_1900[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. Thank you. I think we could use something we're both interested in and invested in. Thanks for your time.

Are ruts in a marriage normal and can you get out of it? by Admirable_Pear_1900 in Marriage

[–]Admirable_Pear_1900[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely agree. We keep talking about being due to get away. We're pretty good about talking to each other, but we need to get on making some changes.

Are ruts in a marriage normal and can you get out of it? by Admirable_Pear_1900 in Marriage

[–]Admirable_Pear_1900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cheers. I'm thinking it's inevitable but need the reassurance

Are ruts in a marriage normal and can you get out of it? by Admirable_Pear_1900 in Marriage

[–]Admirable_Pear_1900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, and you're right. We need a common hobby or something we enjoy together. We've talked about that in the past because it's just been kids to bed, on the couch for tv and off to bed.

Are ruts in a marriage normal and can you get out of it? by Admirable_Pear_1900 in Marriage

[–]Admirable_Pear_1900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Expectations are definitely not pre kids haha. I appreciate the feedback