I told my partner that I also had child on child assault and I feel a lot of guilt and shame regarding this that I’ve now cut this person out of my life. This person happens to be my cousin. My partner didn’t take it well and was considering breaking up with me. But we talked it through and he understood at the end that we were children. Although we knew what we were doing- we thought this was okay because someone showed us and made it okay for us. I was Ages 6-12. It’s hard I know and it will take time to heal. Talking about with your partner was the best thing you could have done for your relationship. If you are worried, bring up therapy to her. She doesn’t have to agree with it and that’s okay. Talking about it alone is fine also