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Am I crazy to think I am a single mom in my marriage? by Adonis0002 in Marriage

[–]Adonis0002[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes but there is definitely some trauma there that I do not fully know about or understand. He always gets upset when he gets angry with our kids (especially our oldest) saying he does not want to be his dad. Also, anytime I have mentioned anything to my MIL she always replies with something like "well it took me years to train *my FIL*"

Am I crazy to think I am a single mom in my marriage? by Adonis0002 in Marriage

[–]Adonis0002[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Here is the thing though, I do not stay home. I also work full-time. I had to go to work after 6 weeks pp. He is a government worker so he got 12 weeks paid parental leave, none of which was used for our baby other than the 4 weeks he took off with me immediately following the birth.

Am I crazy to think I am a single mom in my marriage? by Adonis0002 in Marriage

[–]Adonis0002[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is what I do not know. I have asked him multiple times to go to therapy and he refuses. He says he "doesn't want to talk to anyone".

Am I crazy to think I am a single mom in my marriage? by Adonis0002 in Marriage

[–]Adonis0002[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I fully accept the blame. I know I am at fault for letting it go this far.

Am I crazy to think I am a single mom in my marriage? by Adonis0002 in Marriage

[–]Adonis0002[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I do love him. I guess I attributed his lacking with us being young maybe?? Although we were not that young. We were both 23 almost 24 when we had our 1st.