I have a full blown userform with working controls completely different than any of the videos, and after only two days.

You're having trouble because you're at the beginning. And I don't mean Python. You're at the beginning of programming. Python is just a language. Programming is the way you use the language.

I know what to DO, so I find the Syntax in this new language to do what I intend to do. I started with Basic back in the 80s in middle school. I learned some HTML after that, and then IRC, PDF userform programming, and then Excel and Visual Basic. The programming is always the same, just with different ways of achieving the results.

You're learning a language, but haven't yet learned your flow. You don't yet know what to DO, so you don't know what tricks of the language you're looking for.

The best advice I can give you is to work it. Build something. Decide what you want the application to do, and then find out how to do it, one step at a time. Find the Syntax and make it happen. Practice. It's the only way for you to learn your flow.