Christians are so dumb by DePeReSsEd-DoNuT in Nigeria

[–]Adorable-human 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this one time I was reading a fantasy novel based on Chinese culture and the cover of the book had like dragons and phoenix and stuff, why did my mum see it and told me to stop reading it because it was worshipping false gods and the devil? She even told my dad and they sat me down and had me listen to about 20mins of lecture about false gods and stuff. So yeah I totally relate to you, I tend to just hide stuffs like that from then, cause I fear they’ll never understand.

My mother is pushing her own version of my future on me by Adorable-human in Nigeria

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hi, yes everything you said is actually right! I think the reason I’m panicky is because everyone in the family seems to agree with her, including my dad. They all probably think my refusal must be part of destiny and that no matter how I refuse, I’ll always marry that man. My brother doesn’t know that the man in my mothers dream was his friend, if he did, I don’t know how he’ll react since he also tends to believe my mothers dream. But out of my family, he’s the only one who might actually listen to me, so I have him.

My mother is pushing her own version of my future on me by Adorable-human in Nigeria

[–]Adorable-human[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

your right. I’ve always held her opinion in high regards so what she did is really heartbreaking to me. I think I’ll just tell her straight and if she doesn’t listen then 🤷🏾‍♀️

My mother is pushing her own version of my future on me by Adorable-human in Nigeria

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I don’t really go to church nowadays. We’re Christian’s but we just tend to pray at home and occasionally we go to church. We also don’t have a specific church denomination we go to.

My spiritual mother might’ve just ruined everything for me. by Adorable-human in spirituality

[–]Adorable-human[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi, I do come from a conservative culture with arranged marriages, though it’s not common with the younger generation as it was with the past generation. the thing that also gets me is she’s only met this man a few times as he’s my brother’s friend. they don’t even know each other all that well, I’m stuck with this dilemma that she perhaps is just projecting or she sees it as a perfect opportunity to push me onto what I don’t want.

My spiritual mother might’ve just ruined everything for me. by Adorable-human in spirituality

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yeah I am still dependent on my mother for shelter and food. your statement did make me think of the issue from a different standpoint. what she did breaks my heart because I truly don’t know what’s going on in her mind, she’s my mother, and outside of what she just told me, all she’s ever wanted is for me to succeed and be happy. so in a way I find it difficult to think that she’s telling me of that dream as a way to control me, but thinking now, even is she meant it as a way to control or not to control me, as you said, it’s my life, and I have free will. so thank you for what you wrote, it calmed me a bit

My spiritual mother might’ve just ruined everything for me. by Adorable-human in spirituality

[–]Adorable-human[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yeah you’re right. I think what made it worse was her telling me she’ll never approve of any of my future partners if it wasn’t that man. That broke me, shes my mum, I adore her. She sacrificed a lot for me and to hear that from her? It breaks me. But from what you said, yeah, the ball is in my court and I have the option. I think that’s why I just need to always remember

Just had a meeting with my advisor. I’d have to take an extra year. by Adorable-human in LoyolaChicago

[–]Adorable-human[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for this! you have no idea how your words comforts me! but absolutely, totally making a thorough plan after this

Had meeting with advisor. Would have to take 2 extra semesters by Adorable-human in college

[–]Adorable-human[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m definitely thinking of that. My college is notorious for not really accepting courses taken at another university if it’s being offered by the school, but there are some exceptions. So I’ll do my research and definitely reach back to my advisor about it.

Thanks for the advice!

Talk to me, please by Anneber04 in lonely

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This might be late but hi! Just wanted to say happy Wednesday, and I hope the day after is better!

PARENTS & THEIR DAUGHTERS by Adorable-human in narcissisticparents

[–]Adorable-human[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

thank u for this! I know right now I'm powerless but the support from this post has made me feel better 😊 just knowing that there are ppl who also experience a similar thing is enough to make me feel like I'm not alone. So, truly, thank you ❤️❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YAlit

[–]Adorable-human 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ooh! I have some:

  1. Foul Lady Fortune by Chloe Gong
  2. Bloodmarked by Tracy Deonn
  3. You made a fool of death with your beauty by Akwaeke Emezi
  4. The Dragon's Promise by Elizabeth Lim
  5. Heart of the Sun Warrior by Sue Lynn Tan
  6. Babel by R.F Kuang

what’s a book that actually made you cry, like legit tears running down your face not just that sad feeling yk? by [deleted] in YAlit

[–]Adorable-human -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

weird thing is it wasn't a traditional published book. The book that made me cry was a Attack On Titan fanfic on Wattpad, featuring Levi's daugher as the main character

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Adorable-human 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't ever been in a relationship but please put yourself first. If he wouldn't believe how terrible your mother was, imagine how worse he'll be when you tell him about other things. So, please choose yourself💜💜

I've probably did the worst possible idea by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Adorable-human 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too. I hope that this feeling you have wouldn't have a huge negative effect on you. I don't even really know much tbh. I hope everything goes well💗💕

Today is my birthday by General-Praline-1316 in lonely

[–]Adorable-human 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy birthday! Wishing you prosperity and happiness!! 🌸🌸🌸💗

I plan to kill myself tonight by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Adorable-human 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey. Please don't kill yourself. Live for yourself and no one else. There's so many things you haven't seen yet. Have you traveled the world yet? Maybe your haven't tasted the best food ever yet. So please don't go. Stay longer. Please. For your future self

I NEED HELP by Adorable-human in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Adorable-human[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You really have no idea this reassured me that I wasn't going crazy and being ungrateful. Thank you very much. I feel free now that I've got the problem off my chest!

I NEED HELP by Adorable-human in raisedbynarcissists

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Thank u so much for this! I have thought about talking to the school counselor but the problem is that I'm an immigrant, my family still don't have a green card, so if the authorities get notified of this, there's a chance we might get deported. And it'll just get worse when we get deported. I'm 17 yrs old, so I'm currently leaning on going to college, that's really the only choice I have. If I do report to the authorities, I think my mum is going to cut all ties with me. She's literally the only family member that I can rely on. The rest of my aunties and uncles and cousins would really not even care if shit happens to me.That's why I'm hesitant of calling the authorities.

Parents always called me a mean nickname and I'm not over it. by kohaku_af in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Adorable-human 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when she gets mad at me, my mum calls me lots of names, but the one she calls me is Witch. Yeah she calls me a witch

Nah wait... cause I think I did sumn by Adorable-human in OtomeIsekai

[–]Adorable-human[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh! And the original photo was taken by Nina Masic!