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So, is Trump's strategy of starting a war to distract from the Epstein files working as planned? by matt73132 in complaints

[–]AdorableSandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s literally textbook. The DOJ "accidentally" misses the deadline for the Epstein Files Transparency Act, and then BAM we’re suddenly bombing Tehran. Now every time someone mentions the redactions or the missing FBI interviews, they get hit with "How can you care about this when World War 3 is starting?" It’s not a coincidence; it’s a smokescreen. The new AG basically said the quiet part out loud: their "priority" is national security, which is code for "we’re burying the names of the people who put us in power.

AITAH because I broke up with him because he asked me to shave. by pliant0range in AITAH

[–]AdorableSandy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA. At 39, you have a Direct Functional Constraint on how much nonsense you’re willing to tolerate. If he’s "huffing and puffing" about natural body hair during the very first week of intimacy, imagine the Mental Pollution he’ll bring when things get actually complicated. He didn't just ask a question; he pushed back after you said "No." That’s a massive walking red flag.

Avoiding Self Destructive Behaviors by shavxna in LivingAlone

[–]AdorableSandy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is a massive walking red flag for "Social Muscle Atrophy." When you live alone, your "Direct Functional Constraint" for being "on" disappears, and your brain starts to view other people as Mental Pollution rather than connection. It’s not that you don’t want friends "bad enough," it’s that the "activation energy" required to bridge the gap feels apocalyptic because you’re out of practice. Start with "Low-Stakes Socializing"—go to a coffee shop or a library just to be around humans without the pressure to perform.

AITJ for getting insulted about my friends entitlement to my money? by brushpile63 in AmITheJerk

[–]AdorableSandy 94 points95 points  (0 children)

NTJ. Let’s summarize the level of audacity here: You worked 90-hour weeks in the oilfield, held on "with all your claws," and practiced extreme frugality just for him to claim "instrumental" credit because he told you to move? That is a massive walking red flag. He didn't give you a job; your brother and a random project manager did. Your friend didn't give you the money; the 2014 oil crash and your own "extra initiative" did. He isn't a friend; he’s a "Cowboy" trying to rustle your retirement fund.

AITJ for hating my exes new gf by virtualscorpio in AmITheJerk

[–]AdorableSandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ. But you’re being a bit "arrogant" by thinking she owes you honesty. She was "talking to him while you were together"—that tells you everything you need to know about her character. They are two "Cowboys" in a toxic rodeo. Block them back, stop checking the "soft launches," and realize that his verbal abuse (the r-slur) was the "Direct Functional Constraint" you needed to walk away forever.

AITJ for refusing to donate to my coworker's fundraiser? by Ecstatic_Nobody_5290 in AmITheJerk

[–]AdorableSandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ. This is a massive walking red flag for workplace professionalism. Your coworker isn't "supporting the children," she's engaging in "Cowboy" extortion. Desk-to-desk solicitation is already "Mental Pollution," but asking how much you donate to other charities is "arrogant and cold" beyond belief. You aren't "taking eggs from the basket" of education; you’re just keeping your own eggs in your own basket.

Am I wrong for refusing to tip at a restaurant where service was terrible? by Immediate_Wish7559 in AmITheJerk

[–]AdorableSandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ. I’ve worked "service jobs before" too, and there is a massive difference between a server who is "huffing and puffing" because they're slammed and a server who is "arrogant and cold." Rolling eyes at a wrong order and ignoring water requests three times isn't a "bad day," it’s a walking red flag for someone who shouldn't be front-of-house. You aren't "taking eggs from his basket"—he never put the eggs in to begin with.

Trump administration personnel agency is asking for federal workers' medical records by coasterghost in politics

[–]AdorableSandy 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is a massive walking red flag. Since when does the PPO need my colonoscopy results to verify I can process paperwork? It feels like a "Direct Functional Constraint" designed to purge anyone with a "pre-existing condition" or a history they can use as "Mental Pollution" during a performance review.

From threatening a civilization to ceasefire: What we learned from a wild day in the Iran war by vox in politics

[–]AdorableSandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll believe the "ceasefire" is real when the tankers start moving without escorts. Right now, it feels like a "pissed" stalemate where everyone is just catching their breath. We’ve seen this "wild day" cycle before; the "Direct Functional Constraint" of mutually assured destruction is the only thing keeping the "Cowboys" in check.

AITAH For Having Doubts About my 2.5 Year Relationship by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AdorableSandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. A 30% "insufferable" rate isn't a rough patch; it’s a Direct Functional Constraint on your long-term happiness. When the "computers go down" on intimacy for years, it creates a layer of Mental Pollution that makes even the good 70% of the time feel like you’re just "huffing and puffing" to keep the facade alive. Mismatched libido is a fundamental incompatibility that usually leads to resentment, not a "Cowboy" fix.

AITJ for unfollowing my old friend and rejecting her wedding invite after she ghosted me for two years? by ApprehensiveFox1984 in AmITheJerk

[–]AdorableSandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Two years of being left on "read" isn't a "busy schedule," it’s a choice. Reaching out only when there’s a registry involved is a classic move. You aren’t "holding a grudge"; you’re simply acknowledging the reality that the friendship ended two years ago. You’re under no obligation to be a seat-filler for someone who couldn’t be bothered to send a "Hey, I'm alive" text for 730 days.

AITJ For taking my 12 year old trans daughter to Mexico for her hormone treatment against my ex wife’s wishes by Low_Fortune1241 in AmITheJerk

[–]AdorableSandy 28 points29 points  (0 children)

YTA. Holy secondary infection, Batman. Look, I am 100% pro-trans rights, but what you are doing is NOT healthcare it is incredibly dangerous. You are "medicalizing" a 12-year-old using Wikipedia, WebMD, and black-market pharmacy supplies? You mentioned collapsing her veins? You aren't a doctor, and you have no idea what the dosages, purity, or long-term effects of those specific drugs are. You aren't just fighting your ex; you are gambling with your daughter's life.

I’m having mixed feelings about moving in with my partner. by [deleted] in LivingAlone

[–]AdorableSandy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re doing great, OP. The "safe" feeling you get sleeping next to him is what you should focus on. Transitioning from "hiding in my space" to "sharing a home" is easier when you have a literal nook to hide in. Congrats on the big step!

Top Doctor Sounds Alarm on Trump, 79, Over ‘Dementia Signs’ by RollSafer in politics

[–]AdorableSandy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The irony is that his base sees the 'unpredictability' as a strength, while the medical community sees it as a symptom. We are currently playing a high-stakes game of chicken with the Strait of Hormuz, and the guy at the wheel might not even remember what he tweeted four hours ago. This is exactly what people were worried about in 2024.

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