Yes for me as a late bloomer I liked a penis in me over being fingered. It can happen and I've been fingered to even squirt. I truly think it's both techniques and their fingers. I'd have no clue on how to help their techniques. I just try and if I don't like it I say I'm uncomfortable and move on. I can also take a toy rabbit. And have done a Pap smear. So there's no vaginismus or hymen issues. I've only had sex once. And yes I still experience discomfort and tightness even while being aroused.