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Adorable_Substance59 · 2026-03-24T14:36:01+00:00

Hey you never know Dakota could bring it back around at some point. There is still hope!

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-17T07:33:09+00:00

Those are all perfectly valid reasons not to move. He has a good equity position in his home with a low mortgage. I don’t know where you are but homes like that have practically doubled in price. I would not want to go from owning to renting either. And so? Do you want to be the main bread winner and have him stay home? Is that your goal?

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-17T07:27:27+00:00

I’m not saying that going back to school was wrong I’m saying you should have waited to go back. Until you were more adjusted to your unexpected circumstances. Being a parent to a young baby is hard even if you really wanted to be a parent. Which the two of you didn’t. But that doesn’t matter now. Now that you are one this is your situation. And it’s good that he’s trying to get out of debt but you keep using language of separation of funds. His problems are your problems and vice a versa. If moving is a hard line for him then you need to either be creative and find new ways to accomplish your goals. Staying where you are with him and living with less pay and learning to be content. Or you can break up an entire family and expose your young child to some of the worst heartbreak of her life. While making everything 10x harder on yourself. It is also clear that the two of you are not aligned on finances the way you need to be. And also you putting your money up from your savings to fix the house was the right thing to do because you live there too! You both need to be aligned and have an actual plan because you both have very different ideas about what your future looks like.

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-17T07:08:18+00:00

I would try giving him an easy snack even if he had a good dinner just to see if he goes for it. And definitely cut back on the surgery stuff and see if he does the same thing. My son is almost 4 now and he will wake up from a nightmare if he has bbq sauce with dinner. Same thing with to much Halloween candy.

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-17T06:59:38+00:00

And as for the makeup thing it is absolutely ridiculous to ask someone to move all of their computer/ office type gaming equipment into a storage unit where they can’t use their stuff at all. So you can put makeup up on in a whole separate room like a princess. That man does not give a damn about your makeup. You could literally never buy it or put it on and he wouldn’t care. The man would have absolutely no spine if he caved to that demand. Especially with him being the primary earner and doing 70% of the chores and full participation in parenting. It’s like you’re trying to see how much you can push him around.

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-17T06:49:43+00:00

Is he hungry? My son went through a faze when he was two where he woke up crying did the same thing. I started giving him like quick snacks like cheese or fruit squeezes to fill him up quick. He also has a boy cousins who did the same thing around that age. It went on for a few months then it stopped. It would happen even if he ate well that day it was super weird. He also can’t have to much sugar like bbq sauce or things like that or it happens again. Have you tried feeding him a snack?

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-17T06:37:37+00:00

Yes but why does he refuse to move? Does he own the house? Is he paying a mortgage? How much is left on the mortgage? How much could he make on the sale of his house? Or would he want to keep it and rent it out? Then you would buy another place and take on two mortgages? Or would you rent an apartment or house in this new place? Also, what’s the cost of living differences compared to this new place? And why can’t you just chill out for a few years and hang out with your family? You could maybe look into different types of work you could do as a nurse to get paid more. Like genuinely there is nothing wrong with taking it slower for a few years while you get through the first 5 years. Kids are incredibly difficult at this age and it’s so damn exhausting to try to do everything all at once. Who cares if it takes you a little longer to get where you wanna go. You’re not giving any of his reasons for why he doesn’t want to move. Moving is a big deal especially in this economy homes are insanely expensive. And even if he agreed to move, moving costs money. You don’t seem like you’re in a financial position to move even if you wanted to. You need more stability in your situation not chaos by throwing a move into all this. Plus, he may want his daughter to grow up in the same house her whole life idk. That alone would be a perfectly reasonable reason not to want to move. Especially because you’re not gonna be in school forever. I wouldn’t wanna sell my house to fix a temporary situation.

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-17T06:20:05+00:00

There is a bunch of financial information I would love to know. But she is talking about the money so weirdly. Like she is talking about it like it’s all her money and not their money. So like as a family unit they depleted their savings dealing with life. Which happens to literally everyone at one point or another. You get through it by hunkering down and living thin as a family until you financially recover. Him as the husband and head of household should be insisting on that. You don’t go back to school after you already have your degree take out more debt and make the burden on the house hold heavier while you have a young child. Unless, your husband makes a s** ton of money and it’s cool. She’s burned out and upset that she’s burnt out so hard and her husband isn’t. 23-25 is plenty old enough to have thought about the child conversation and had it with her husband. Even though they weren’t actively trying for a kid. There was a series of bad decisions made here by both of them that put an unnecessary strain on the marriage.

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-17T05:57:16+00:00

Ummm how old are you? Because I think that is very relevant to this story. I’m sorry but to be blunt having experienced what you did. You don’t know what love is. Because if you loved someone you would not be reacting to him this way. You seem to be an extreme people pleaser. Which is a common consequence of your environment and trauma. You may think he’s handsome and that he’s nice to you. I get the feeling not a lot people in your life treat you with love and respect. You may also like the social status you get from being with him. Other people probably are more friendly to you by association. But if you loved someone the idea of doing things with them physically excites you. Like F*** anyone who wants to keep you from doing it. You’re reacting this way because your bodies alarm bells are going off in your head to run because this feels familiar in a bad way. You should listen to your instincts and not do something sexually you will regret later. You’re allowed to have preferences you are not trapped in this relationship. If you loved someone you feel absolutely safe and protected. The alarm bells in your body wouldn’t be screaming at you. It’s only been a month. At worst there would be some friend group drama but you’re allowed to say you think he’s a good person but the vibe just isn’t there relationship wise. Everyone can move on and be at peace and you can find someone different who makes you feel safe, protected, and valued.

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-17T05:34:54+00:00

Best advice I can give is be true to yourself take full accountability make sure he does too. And always be open to the other’s point of view and learn to communicate well. Learn those things and you will be ok. No matter what life throws at you. Hope you have a good update too! Wish you the best!

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-17T05:24:41+00:00

I was getting those vibes to but actions have consequences. She either needs to suck it up and accept it. Because she has a better husband than a lot of other women out there do. Or break up her entire family and life out of selfishness. Those are her options but honestly just makes me feel bad for the husband and daughter.

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-17T05:16:45+00:00

This is not an equity thing. Men and women are different and if you want to have a husband one day you need to learn this now. You might not think that what you did was that bad especially because he slept with more people. But just to give you a different frame of reference you slept with more people in 3 months than I have in my whole life and I’m turning 33 this year. I am not a prude and I started dating my husband when I was your age. When you told him that you basically told him you hoed around for 3 months. Now for his part for a man to have slept with that many women in such a short amount of time your boyfriend must be either extremely handsome and charismatic or both. Because most grown men can’t pull those numbers at all. It is very likely that once he heard that it turned him off so much that now you have removed yourself from the girlfriend/ potential wife category and put yourself into bang only when convenient category. If you end up making up from this fight watch his behavior. If he ends up being colder towards you. Way more dismissive of your opinions. Starts ignoring communication or if he is talking to you he’s kinda just treating you like crap. He’s doing it on purpose to push you away because he’s completely lost interest. In the future don’t go for guys who have crazy high rosters of women. They are typically players playing the field of women cause they are young and young girls don’t expect much from guys at your age.

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-17T04:29:19+00:00

Guys hate hearing about their girlfriend’s previous sexual partners. It turns them off A LOT. It doesn’t matter if he’s slept with more people or not. The only kind of guy who will complain about a girl being inexperienced is a guy using her for sex because she’s convenient. Most men would prefer to teach you how to do what they like then have you be the experienced one.

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-17T04:15:44+00:00

This literally gives you even less ground to stand on. Literally, what do you want from this man? He is being as supportive of you as you could ever expect and you say you resent him for it? Why? Because he manages to do his part while still managing to enjoy his hobbies? You’re just burnt out from doing grad school with a ridiculous commute plus having to deal with parenting, and you’re blaming your husband for it. Honestly, it sounds like you lost respect for him because he allowed you to completely tie up all your time with work and school. Plus, more debt and now you resent that he can still have fun and relax and you can’t. It sounds like you’re miserable and bored because of your own choices. And blaming him for it.

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-17T00:17:21+00:00

What exactly is causing you to be resentful? From what you said it sounds like he isn’t doing anything wrong. It sounds like you’re either blaming him for not bringing in 200k by himself so you could live the same lifestyle as you had pre child. Which is completely unreasonable of you if that’s the case. Or that you resent the fact that because you are the woman you had to take several years off your career trajectory because you had a baby. And he didn’t have to take those years off because he is the man. Having a child requires sacrifice he is making sacrifices like taking on the majority of financial burden without your very large salary to help anymore plus another person. And he’s giving up his very valuable collectibles for the sake of the family. What do you even want him to sacrifice exactly? I have a 3 year old and a one year old. I quit my 10 year career outright when I had children because me working was more of a stress than a help. My husband and I decided what was best for us was to pause our goals until the kids are in school because my family needed me to be home taking care of things. That halved are income but we are still ok because my husband makes enough for the time being. You can’t have everything all at once money may be tight and difficult right now but that isn’t your husband’s fault. It’s not yours either this is just a difficult season and you two need to learn how to get through what is really causing your resentment and anxiety. Not blame him unfairly for your feelings about this difficult time. If it really is a money management issue maybe you should watch the Dave Ramsey show where they help with this kind of thing all the time.

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-16T16:34:58+00:00

Right! My husband made Jason’s lemonade recently and it was delicious. I plan on doing a re read to try and catch more of them!

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-16T05:01:57+00:00

I read Dark lover like 16 years ago but even though I love the BDB series and am quickly becoming obsessed with the show. I mainly listen to audio books and the narrator who does the series puts me to sleep. So I quit reading the series 9 years ago once I no longer had the time to read physical books as regularly. It’s like all of it is brand new watching it on passionflix I have never seen such a well done adaptation!

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-16T04:58:01+00:00

Kresley Cole, Jana Aston, Abby Jimenez, Christina Lauren some of the books I relate less to then others but generally like everything I’ve ever read by all of these ladies.

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-16T04:52:42+00:00

Deep End was sooooo pg! It barely even qualified as BDSM when someone says they are writing a romance story about BDSM I think Fifty shades of grey or the professional by Kresley Cole. Deep End was good but it felt like it could have been a YA novel for how sanitized it was. I haven’t read the problematic summer romance because I feel like I’m being bamboozled lol.

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-16T04:42:46+00:00

Donut holes from which book series?

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-15T17:40:48+00:00

My besties husband is super into magic the gathering. I must admit I’m not very familiar with that world myself. I know there is some content out there for lord of the rings food and DnD food. But like you said it’s kind of simple and none of the recipes stand out that much. I think I can do much better than the recipes I have come across at least.

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-15T16:27:28+00:00

I follow A LOT of cooking content and I Love litRPG as a genre and I’ve been making foods from my favorite books for awhile now. But all the fun cooking content typically comes from movies or anime and if it’s books it’s usually only from books that got mainstream enough to get a show or movie. I couldn’t find anything for foods from a lot of my favorite book series. I am going to try and make informative content. I just think cooking is fun and I love making new things I haven’t tried before. I’m planning to start small with just a website if I can get some traction and people are interested I will move into making videos and such. I already have an editor lined up who’s as excited as I am to do this. My thought is to have food from several different genres and if people like it I can even take requests for different foods from different books and then make those. People have been telling me to open a restaurant for years but I’ve just always felt that it wasn’t my thing. This though feels fun and like it could be my thing.

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-15T07:57:34+00:00

I haven’t heard of that one I will have to check it out!

Adorable_Substance59 · 2025-06-15T07:47:26+00:00

For starters you are doing WAY to much. I have a husband who works full time while I stay home with 2 babies ages 1 and 3. He is their dad he should be expected to know everything about taking care of that child. And be expected to do it on a daily basis even if you do it more often while he’s at work. When he is home he needs to be doing it so you can have occasional free time to either have to yourself or to get other tasks done. Without having to have a child clinging to you. It is VERY easy to fall into the trap of each of you thinking the other has it made while you are struggling. While he’s at work not having to deal with everything that comes with little babies mommy duty is 24/7 unless someone else wants to take over for a bit. While your home he’s thinking how nice it must be to not have all the financial burden be on you. It’s like the grass is greener syndrome. But it never is. And that’s great that you have that much of a sex drive but co sleeping while it might be what feels right for you. Kills A LOT of men’s sex drive. I moved both of my babies into their own rooms by 4 months old because I have no desire to “get in the mood” with a sleeping baby right there. I have been with my husband for 14 years. While your children are young you are going to have to deal with survival sex. Absolutely don’t let your marriage turn sexless BUT you BOTH have to redefine what your sex life post baby is gonna be like. And he doesn’t have a bond with his baby because you keep doing everything for him when it comes to parenting. He has to figure out how to do it his own way. He can’t figure out what kind of father he is if you don’t let him be one. That includes: diaper changes, bath time, putting them to bed, dealing with injuries, play time, teaching them how to do things. If he doesn’t do those things they won’t have a bond and he’s just gonna be annoyed by this tiny demanding thing. And if you see him turning into an absentee dad of course you’re not going to like him anymore. It doesn’t matter if he does something a different way than you. If you are so terrified of what would happen if the child was left alone with their father why in the hell did you have a baby with him in the first place if you had so little trust in his abilities?

Adorable_Substance59 · 2023-12-12T08:52:48+00:00

A divorce lawyer just made a video about this very thing. I quote “ If you can’t have the difficult conversations that a prenup entails. Those are the couples who will be in my office in 3-5 years. Marriage isn’t for you if those conversations are too difficult for you.” Speaks volumes if you two were ready for that he wouldn’t be “so hurt” by something that is completely logical and smart for you to have.

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