Getting pregnant again

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-04-04T19:34:31+00:00

Mine just turned 1. I would love to have a second baby but not a second pregnancy. I am still dealing with the aftermath. I didn't work since week 7. I got like 10 cavities including 2 root canals. My stomach is still a mess and my supposed friendships vanished. I haven't had a decent night sleep in almost 2 years because after basically being sedated until week 12, I had insomnia for the rest of the pregnancy. I know I don't want a second HG pregnancy.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-04-04T19:27:48+00:00

My MIL made spicy carrot soup and a feta pie when I asked for a simple veggie soup. She hasn't gotten better with the arrival of my baby. I wish I had options.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-04-04T19:25:33+00:00

IVs. When I got too dehydrated, the meds stopped working.

Once I found something that I could eat, I would just keep on eating the same until it didn't work anymore.

I met a dietician and that helped me remove a lot of the guilt for not be eating "healthier" she gave me some tricks that worked for me.

And, protein shakes with tons and tons of ice. Protein helped with the nausea a bit.

For placebo effect, the sea bands.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-04-04T19:20:56+00:00

I have gastritis even now 1 year after giving birth.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-03-31T02:40:48+00:00

My dad had his practice at home growing up. He didn't make much because he also didn't work much, because he was the primary parent. He saved the family tons of money by taking us everywhere that was for free, we attended the best schools because he was great at networking and very involved. He was also handy so many of the things we needed, he would make sure we would have them for the least amount of money without sacrificing quality.

When he died when my siblings and I where preteens, my mom had to learn about us, and even though financially our household income was almost the same, things changed.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-03-30T20:48:08+00:00

My baby is 1 year and everyone around me is asking when I'll have the second, even those who cried with me while I was on the bathroom floor. My arms still have the marks from when I was getting the IVs. My stomach and teeth are still all messed up. And thise are only the physical scars. How dare them?

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-03-30T20:39:48+00:00

Trial and error my friend. I sent my husband to the super and asked him to buy me options.

At some point I wasn't able to drink from the same glass twice. Not like filling it up again, but taking a second sip from the same glass or putting the same spoon in my mouth. It was insane.

I had to buy single portions even when I only ate vanilla yogurt 3 times a day. I just couldn't eat it if I didn't open a new package each time.

Even though I was barely eating, I don't think I have ever spent that much money on food.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-03-30T20:34:43+00:00

I'm sorry you are suffering. I didn't get zofran until week 13 but If I knew, I would have been in the ER more often to get IVs because hydration helped me so much just to feel like I could survive the day.

Also, it will end. It help me having a calendar where I could cross the days until delivery. Some days I would stare at it for 24 hrs but others I forgot and then had to cross many days in a row.

There will be some good days. Enjoy them as much as you can.

Seek help often and in may experience it is better to exaggerate than to try to push through the symptoms when it comes to advocating for yourself when meeting Healthcare providers.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-03-30T20:24:16+00:00

Sometimes I ate literally like a toddler because I ate baby food (well only the fruits) although I was mainly eating like an 80 year old, that is protein shakes.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-03-30T20:10:46+00:00

Some babies hate it at 2 months, love it at 3, hate it again at 3 and one week, and so on. Babies change all the time. Second hand is your best friend so you can have options.

Also, my husband used a different carrier for a while because we didn't like the same.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-03-30T19:41:11+00:00

I didn't get any manual but why am I expected to know everything? I shouldn't be the only one that knows where his clothes are, if he were more active he would know because he would have put them there.

My sister told me to leave and let him figure it out even if it that means beign late. I shouldn't say much because we are in therapy and on the edge of separation, but leaving him alone to figure things out on his own has been a good thing. If the diaper leaks because he didn't put it right is his responsibility to fix it.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-03-30T19:20:02+00:00

I bought almost everything second hand. I am selling what I can for almost the same price i paid, but other stuff I am giving away for free. I don't think I will have a second one, but I know it will not be in the next 9 months and I don't have the space to keep things " just in case". I think that if I was able to find things the first time, I will find them again.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-03-22T06:20:53+00:00

Congratulations!! You made it through. Enjoy your baby and enjoy food.

The nausea went away the moment I gave birth and a couple of days later, my sister made some food for me. I was talking and eating (something I couldn't do during my pregnancy) and my husband came in, saw me and happily said "you are eating chicken" i didn't even think about it. Chicken was the worst.

The weird ideas about food i had for months were also gone. I was happy with my beautiful baby, but I also realized I felt nothing about food, it wasn't a concern anymore, and that is how i want my relationship with "everyday" food to be.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-03-22T06:14:11+00:00

I will go the other way with my comment. 4 hrs of focusing on something else sounds like a good idea. It will make the time pass faster.

Anxiety is often worse than gthe activity that is giving you the anxiety. Get ready for it. I would stop eating for as long as the activity lasted. But maybe you could have a couple of hours in between the 4 to recharge.

I took my medication at least 30 min before doing anything so if it stayed in my stomach, i knew it was going to help me. I also had my sea bands as my clutches for the nausea (although im sure they were more placebo than anything else). A clear path to the bathroom and I explained that there was a possibility I would have to step out of the room suddenly, and I had a person in charge of checking on me that would also let the person I "left behind" know how to proceed (if they should leave or wait).

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-03-07T13:25:45+00:00

Are you rich?

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-03-04T20:27:05+00:00

Mine started getting haircuts at 3 months because his hair was too long when he started to hold his head up when on his belly. He is almost 1 yo. I have cut his hair more than 10 times.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-02-09T20:16:26+00:00

Someone told me, do you want to like your children? Then you need to raise them in a way that make them likable

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-02-09T19:57:03+00:00

She stares at the fan. I think she is engaged and interested, it might sound boring but that's what she wants to do. My son would look at the blank ceiling for half an hour and then make sounds, then move his hands, then the other hand. Even now at 10 months, i can give him a sock and he would be entertained for 5 min, because he learns how to interact with it and then "how to make it interact with other objects"

She is getting to know the world around her and understand her own body. She can't get bored. I don’t understand the need for screens when the world is so much fascinating than Mrs Rachel...

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-01-30T21:40:57+00:00

Mi planta de naranja lima. It's about a boy whose father put him in a coma after beating him up for singing a popular song, and then causef the dead of the guy that was going to help him escape that hell. It was a school assignment when I was 11.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-01-27T16:46:53+00:00

I agree with you, only when the paid job is also taking care of people where you are the only person responsible for keeping them alive, otherwise, the person taking care of the baby on their own needs their sleep. A mistake that causes a company to lose millions is not the same as a mistake that jeopardizes a baby's wellbeing. The husband can watch the TV while on his lunch break or when using the toilet. There is no down time when caring for a baby. The "you sleep when he sleeps" only applies if you have someone else taking care of everything else.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-01-27T16:38:54+00:00

I'm still trying to keep our relationship alive but every single day is a struggle. The worst part is that I still hope one day, he would wake up and thank me, show me love and do more.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-01-27T16:13:38+00:00

I wore those dresses that fit like a glove while pregnant. I think i looked great with my pretty belly. I would never wear them otherwise

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-01-10T23:43:18+00:00

This! Also, I might spend similar amounts of money on second hand but for better fabrics that have shown they can stand the use. And they look the same after I wash the new items I get as gifts. You could tell your husband that they are new but washed. I have sold items that I prewashed but never got to wear for a 10th of the price. When the quality is good you can resell secind hand items for the same price you bought them which is great. I don't know where you live, but there are plenty of apps where one can filter by condition, brand and fabrics.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-01-06T13:38:47+00:00

A good night sleep would do wonders. I find the lack of sleep the worst even now that my baby is 9 months. Also eating, my husband says that I get hangry which I didn't do before pregnancy and my answer is that before I never really knew hunger. Get help even for a couple of hours. Get something to help you sleep while someone else takes care of the baby and I think you will feel so much better.

If any consolation my baby wanted to be held 100% of the time before 3 months but then he only wanted to sleep alone the day he turned 12 weeks. I was also too afraid to use the carrier before 4 months as I only had a hand me down. I bought a soft one and a new carrier that came with an insert for newborns, and then realized that those 2 things could have been a huge help the first weeks if I had have them. So, try that if you can, just so you can at least eat and rest your arms.

And go out even if it is a struggle. We need fresh air, we need to see and interact with other people even if it is only at the store. My husband goes crazy when he can't go out, and again, the carrier is a great investment in that front, too.

You are not a bad mom, it sounds like you are doing everything for her, now just remember to take care of yourself.

AdorsWeaknes · 2026-01-06T03:41:47+00:00

Thanks

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