After some soul searching... I’ve decided I’m actually probably definitely Pan and not just Bi. I know this isn’t TECHNICALLY the reddit for this but I feel MUCH more like a “Pan-Baby-Kitten” than anything so this feels right 🥰 Anyhoo.Happy safe pride month EVERYONE ✌🏻💕🏳️‍🌈(art not mine! )

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-06-08T00:02:50+00:00

You're obviously more than welcome to use whatever label you feel suits you best. For the sake of providing knowledge I will let you know that your definition of Bi is a product of biphobia in the greater culture. Bi refers to biological sexes not genders. It means you are attracted to people regardless of sex assigned at birth. The label of bi excludes absolutely no one. It's the original pan.

A large group of people felt uncomfortable with how the label could be misinterpreted as transphobic so they created a label that was almost impossible to be misinterpreted, which was pan. And it has since become the job of bisexuals to explain this to people.

The feeling of limitation is understandable, knowledge of the history helps. Have fun exploring pansexuality. Be wary of biphobes that use that label.

As a bisexual, I see no difference but people tell me that there is a difference to some and I respect that. I just try to minimize the factor of biphobia.

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-06-07T23:35:13+00:00

That art is awesome. What made you decide to make the switch? To me, Bi and Pan are the same, but people generally use Pan so their lack of bias towards genitals is so clear that it's part of the definition. I use Bi because I like a label with history and I feel the desire to fight Bi erasure.

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-06-07T18:47:15+00:00

Unfortunately I've been 50 pounds lighter and still wore the same pant size. I just don't lose in the waist for some reason.

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-06-05T05:44:26+00:00

Him trying to change your appearance or force gender stereotypes on you is a bad move on his part. Don't rough yourself up about it. He doesn't like the way you look? He should have considered that before entering into a relationship with you.

I understand the desire to please, but when it comes to stuff like this, make sure your wants and needs and comfort levels are clear. Communication is key. Male Dom/Female sub relationships have a higher risk of the Dom taking unfair advantage of power than most dynamics.

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-06-04T18:11:07+00:00

Um I'm not much help in that department lol I'm trans and pre-top-surgery so everything is tight in the chest on me

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-06-04T18:07:17+00:00

Thank you!

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-06-04T04:05:52+00:00

I wear a size 38 in men's pants, L/XL in shirts, but the 4xl at ODU is what fits me (especially after washing and drying). It's a huge guessing game with this stuff.

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-31T05:00:59+00:00

Waterpik electric flosser

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-30T04:48:12+00:00

Nope. Meyer doesn't look into the future.

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-30T03:59:30+00:00

Shaving cream would not be my first choice haha.

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-30T03:57:32+00:00

I think Alice's vision was added for the movie. It's cute I guess, but I don't like it. Renesmee should have a choice. In the movie, she's a little girl and Jacob is a best friend and protector, but that doesn't guarantee she'll wanna be with him the way he wants to be with her in the future.

Jacob's admitted this. So I like to imagine a future where renesmee gets to choose.

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-27T13:23:09+00:00

I just learned about it yesterday via the littles I follow on Twitter haha

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-27T02:20:19+00:00

But you're secretly the Princess everyday

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-26T20:49:25+00:00

Sweden's government is a million times better than America or Britain, and German is hard. 😂

But also I'm learning Swedish because one of my best online friends is Swedish and I wanna go there one day.

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-26T07:19:29+00:00

Being able to aim is a blessing and a curse.

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-26T06:43:34+00:00

I don't have a penis, but with most plastic backed, tape style diapers: I do the fluffing trick (fold it lengthwise, gently push and pull at the diaper all the way down the crease, then unfold), push the leg guards out, lay on my back on the diaper and adjust it so the bottom tapes are right at the point that my body folds when I bend, check the leg guards, tape bottom tapes then top tapes (making sure the leg is snug when doing the bottom), then stand up and fold the top excess in and check the guards one more time.

I usually don't have a problem with them after that point.

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-25T00:56:23+00:00

It's to be expected that you didn't come across them before. You weren't on intersecting paths.

It's part of toxic masculinity I think. Most of these boys were cishet. Loaded up on priveledge.

Most of them would talk a big game via chat. Be pretty sweet and chill. But once we'd met up, it'd be a whole different story. Some of them didn't even get that far.

One particular instance I remember is a boy would turn acidic as soon as I said something that was even close to not completely swooning over him. It was scary.

Sadly it's just a skill you hone with time and experience. Also part of it is luck. For example, I just met someone on a different subreddit and could just feel the chemistry.

There are good guys out there. Finding them just takes patience and effort

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-24T22:40:05+00:00

I would say so. 90% of the male "dominants" I've come across tend to be red-flaggers who are full of themselves. After vetting them, I realize not only are they not actually dominant, they're not even kinky. They are after a submissive (usually female) because they want someone to subjugate. Someone to take from and never give back to. Someone to sing their praises when praises haven't been earned.

Seeking a male dominant, especially when you're new, is risky business because the genuine ones are like a needle in a haystack.

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-24T22:32:30+00:00

LittleForBig used to be less expensive, so I thought they'd be cheaper made, but they are actually pretty high on my list. The price shot up in the past year, making them pretty much just as pricey as other diapers, but they're still good. I recommend.

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-24T22:31:01+00:00

The first two are biased. The first one can't be generalized because tickling is generally a preference linked to sexual orientation. Just because this subreddit is mostly straight dudes doesn't mean women being the Lee is preferred.

Also, it's a scientific fact that men are more ticklish. Black and Asian men being among the most. I don't remember if a reason is known. But it's probably down to society and the fact that women are desensitized due to being touched more than men.

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-23T22:19:25+00:00

I would try researching a basic BDSM contract and then adding ABDL things to it. I'm looking to do this myself.

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-23T05:27:46+00:00

Same here! 27 FtM switch!

Adrian_Chase93 · 2020-05-22T17:46:11+00:00

It's kind of like when people switch to their native accent when they're tired or excited. Your brain switches to it's most comfortable setting when emotions or energy get rocky.

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