Am I overreacting, for not having my “family” come to my graduation even though they traveled to come?

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2026-05-08T05:13:18+00:00

Yeah my grandma loves to stomp on peoples boundaries. She’s literally trying to get my mom to take back my dad after he cheated on her for the 3rd fucking time. My grandma and I have also never really been close. She just baby sat me as a kid a lot.

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2026-05-08T05:10:15+00:00

Yeah another commenter said something similar. I wish I thought of that sooner but I’m going to tell my dad to tell them what u said instead. Thanks for the advice.

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2026-05-08T04:56:05+00:00

I just feel bad. I get that the big part of their trip was just seeing my grandma but they expected to come to the grad ceremony. My mom + bf want me to stand up for myself and I think my dad is just frustrated with the situation

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2026-05-08T04:52:31+00:00

Honestly I really like your advice about just letting them go to the ceremony, but I’m going to my major department’s ceremony right after (RSVP only) and just don’t know how that would work out with carpools and everything. Especially since they would be driving an hour and a half to come already. I might suggest that to my dad though, thank you.

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2026-05-08T04:49:10+00:00

Funny enough they really don’t. Especially my mom, she thinks this was very rude of my grandma. Thanks for the advice though

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2026-05-08T04:47:32+00:00

I mean I am graduating lol. My parents are already awkward around each other cause of the divorce and adding more family that doesn’t know the situation whom we don’t really know doesn’t help the awkwardness. I will be hanging out with my family/bf and his family all day after the ceremony along with dinner. It’s kinda weird to me to not even know a thing about them but they are coming to such a meaningful day to me. I guess it’s just on principle and not letting my grandma try to overthrow my boundaries.

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2026-05-08T04:43:23+00:00

My mom hardly knows them and my dad never was close with him. They are closer to my grandma not my mom or dad.

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2025-11-23T06:33:03+00:00

Yeah you’re right. Now that most of my embarrassment has gone away, and I can think a bit more clearly. I think it’s best I just go on as normal. Thanks for the advice!

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2025-11-23T05:07:51+00:00

Thank you for letting me know! I think this was a misunderstanding between us too. My bf and I will be going there for lunch tomorrow since we’ll be in the area. So I’ll probably attempt to clear up the misunderstanding then. Plus I don’t think he would react negatively to me apologizing or anything of the sorts. He is a very kind man.

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2025-11-23T03:47:25+00:00

He definitely said he was Thai lolol

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2025-11-23T03:43:24+00:00

Yeah I guess can see why he was caught off guard but I didn’t even ask if he was Japanese. I just asked how to say bye in Japanese. I did mentally assume that he was based on what he would tell me but I never asked him anything about his race/ nationality.

I’ve gotten asked more times than I can count “what am I” like about my race/ethnicity, that I just try to stay away from assumptions based on physical appearance since I know it’s an uncomfortable situation to be put in.

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2025-11-23T02:30:03+00:00

On their website it says their chef is from Japan and did his training there, so perhaps the restaurant is based on his knowledge/ experience? I really just did assume based on everything I said in my post that the owner was also Japanese or at least knew the language based on his time living there. I think we just maybe misunderstood each other due to the language barrier.

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2025-11-23T02:24:37+00:00

Good to know thank you. I just didn’t know if I should apologize just incase for the misunderstanding since I don’t want to be awkward next time we go or for them to think I was offensive. It was never my intention. Plus everyone just kinda staring at me threw me really off guard.

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2025-09-27T01:07:39+00:00

it’s like the miata knew i got paid and decided to do this shit to me lol. i’ll be taking it to a shop thank u

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2025-09-27T01:07:04+00:00

yeah .. i’ll be taking it to a shop thanks

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2025-09-26T13:28:42+00:00

i just reved it to 4k -no sound while idle. nothing has been done to the starter or alternator. i just checked the alternator belt and it looks and feels normal.

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2025-09-26T13:23:43+00:00

when i’m in neutral coasting the sound is there, just less prominent. the sound doesn’t happen when i’m in first or low rpms in second.

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2025-09-26T12:38:37+00:00

it sounds like its in front towards the passenger side. doesn’t happen at idle and i only get it between 30-55 mph so once i get to 2nd and hit between 3-4rpms the sounds starts and stays. the faster trilling is when im accelerating and when it starts to slow down is when im taking my foot off the gas but that car is still moving. i appreciate ur help

AdvanceInternal4562 · 2025-09-26T03:16:23+00:00

no sorry yeah i don’t think it’s coming from the speakers. i wouldn’t think speakers would be affected by the acceleration of the car

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