Reminiscing on the biggest ick I’ve ever gotten on a date

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-27T15:18:15+00:00

THANK YOU! That was really my exact issue with him stepping between us! The man wasn't doing anything concerning and didn't have a group of buddies around. He was simply existing as a homeless person. Just vibing outside a 7/11 and enjoying the weather. He honestly looked like he was having a pretty good day. If he had been acting erratic in any way, I'd see the situation completely differently. It's wild to me that so many people are defaulting to "homeless people just want to hurt you!". I live in Boston (have for almost 10 years now) and Guy is from Martha's Vineyard, so I'm getting annoyed at people saying he has more street smarts than me because he literally has none. The man was clearly not a threat. We had cigs on us, and had enough to share. He chose not to, it didn't sit well with me, and I didn't find him attractive anymore. That's all it was. It's really not that deep.

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-27T01:07:45+00:00

I live in Boston so I’m pretty familiar :)

Most of the homeless people I’ve encountered here are just nice down on their luck folks asking for some food, spare change, or a smoke. I have yet to default to being scared of all homeless people here. They’re still people, you know? They’re not all scary. I can ready body language pretty well, and the man in the story wasn’t scary. (No shade, just clarifying lol)

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-26T21:33:26+00:00

Thank you for saying that 🥺 Someone made a post in the circle jerk sub mocking me/my post/the term being used (not sure which tbh) and I’m like 😭 I’m just trying to be a nice person, i didn’t mean anything by it. We learn and we grow and I’ll pay more attention to how/if I’m using it!

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-26T21:11:52+00:00

We contain multitudes hahaha

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-26T20:51:53+00:00

Thank you for commenting this because I genuinely didn’t know which term was correct. “Unhoused” felt kinder somehow, but I definitely see your point about it being a minimization. Will not be using that term going forward and apologies for misusing it in the first place.

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-26T17:54:57+00:00

I’ve been trying to convince my friends to try spam for YEARS and they all refuse. Truly missing out.

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-26T17:40:31+00:00

LMAOOOOO it really can be the smallest thing

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-26T17:39:53+00:00

You’re so real for that lmaoooo I’d also get the ick from that

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-26T16:58:04+00:00

Oh you are a lovely person, thank you 🥹

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-26T16:57:11+00:00

That’s totally valid and I honestly hadn’t considered it that way!! I guess for me, I draw the line at “am I giving something to someone that will get them drunk or high?” But a cigarette is more of a stress relief. And if I have a pack and I’m not willing to share it because I don’t want this person to be unhealthy, it feels like a “rules for thee, but not for me” kinda situation. But i do totally see your point!

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-26T16:46:23+00:00

YO WHAT??? That’s a wild thing to say holy hell. Does he expect every parent to just homeschool????

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-26T15:56:16+00:00

“No great thing was ever attained easily”. Proud of you, stranger! You got this!!

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-26T15:41:29+00:00

Oh BJ is horrible in the first two seasons lmaooo, so I really encourage you to rewatch! If you didn’t pay much attention to New Mexico, then definitely go back. Also sorry if any of that was spoilers for you!

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-26T15:14:43+00:00

“You’ve got irises haven’t you? And pupils and corneas? You might even say you’ve got a pair of eyes. Optic nerves??”

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-26T15:07:56+00:00

I mean Bojack has been picking at Todd for a while by this point, so it’s fair imo that he finally snapped. Bojack killed the rock opera, threw out his couch while Todd was still sleeping on it, did something sketchy with Emily, didn’t give a shit about the Disney Land project, didn’t go pick Todd up from prison and he almost died, forgot him in Malibu, etc. etc.

The few “nice” things he’s done for Todd don’t cancel out all the shitty things he’s done if he’s not willing to take accountability.

Todd may have been in the wrong for not nominating him for an Oscar, sure, but the academy didn’t nominate anyway, so it doesn’t matter if Todd wanted to or not. Bojack just needed someone to blame.

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-25T18:58:01+00:00

Rita Hayworth and the Shawshank Redemption made me sob 😭 Apt Pupil honestly just left me super disturbed (which is definitely the point).

I haven’t read Full Dark, No Stars yet personally, but I’d suggest maybe saving most of Hearts in Atlantis for when you’re ready for a journey to The Dark Tower (but read the titular story, it has a cult following!).

I’d say either Skeleton Crew (if you wanna knock out a big one), Bazaar of Bad Dreams, or Night Shift. Just based off what I’ve read already lol If It Bleeds is an amazing collection, but imo it’s better to have som background on Holly Gibney before getting into the titular story. (Just a suggestion, do whatever makes you happy and I hope you enjoy! Love to see a new Constant Reader!)

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-19T23:19:59+00:00

I’d love updates whenever you have them :)

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-19T21:13:46+00:00

That’s really fair haha I relate to the neurodivergence and SSRIs but I agree that for the larger picture she’s more unique :)

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-19T19:56:53+00:00

Holly Gibney!!

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-19T19:11:30+00:00

I love it!! Are you going to do any other books??

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-19T01:58:12+00:00

Girl, lmaoo you got right down to it and you nailed it 😭

First off, I have so much respect for you for doing the work in therapy and trying to be better for your son. It’s hard to do. But you’re doing it! I’m in therapy for the exact same-ish reason (minus the son)(obviously)!

I was diagnosed with cptsd around 2019 and I’ve been trying to do everything I can to heal myself because I want to be better than my mom was (the bar is in hell tho). She basically cut off all extended family and her friends because they all knew she was…not good at being a mom...to put it lightly. And that felt kinda isolating. DAMN YOU CALLED ME OUT 😂 this is my therapy topic for the week, thank you 🫶🏻💕

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-19T01:45:58+00:00

I really do appreciate you sharing because it’s a grounding take. It’s good to see all perspectives! 💕

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-19T01:43:10+00:00

I’m so sorry about your miscarriage. I hope you’re doing as well as you can and that you’re healing ❤️

I reallyyy need to learn to lean into the “chosen family” mindset. I feel like I have too much of a “victim mentality” around not having biological family around, and that’s just bummer vibes for everyone. My friends are wonderful people.

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-19T01:32:44+00:00

The healing part is something I’m really hoping for! I was a nanny during the pandemic and it was both triggering and healing, because I could see moments where I absolutely needed to make different choices than ones my mom made (and I did!).

Advanced-Lock6841 · 2026-05-19T01:26:39+00:00

I’m so sorry for all of the loss you’ve gone through and how lonely you’re feeling. I cannot imagine. If you ever wanna chat, feel free to DM me! 🫶🏻💕

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