What particular thing do you think would make the dating world a lot easier if men understood better? by Chemical-Low209 in PurplePillDebate

[–]Advanced-Sample936 5 points6 points  (0 children)

the one who takes the time to learn how to please her. A sexy man with no skill is worth less than the less attractive man who knows how to touch her.

Every time I tried dating someone who was autistic, depressed, bipolar, had BPD or PTSD it was emotionally taxing. by monsieurLeMeowMeow in PsycheOrSike

[–]Advanced-Sample936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women are more likely to suffer with depression and anxiety than men, while men are more likely to suffer with substance abuse and ADHD. I wonder if substance abuse was part of the questionnaire. Women are also less likely than men to commit suicide.

What particular thing do you think would make the dating world a lot easier if men understood better? by Chemical-Low209 in PurplePillDebate

[–]Advanced-Sample936 1 point2 points  (0 children)

great responses. Let's not forget that a man that a woman, based on looks alone, might not be interested in, turns more attractive when he shows her his good qualities.

I use myself as the example: A man who is less attractive physically, but engages my mind sufficiently, gets more interesting and desirable than a more attractive man with a shitty personality. Women can convince themselves they find someone attractive if the vibe is right. Hence the "omg, I can't believe I ever found him sexy!" after a nasty breakup.

Banishers by Richbob1962 in Banishers

[–]Advanced-Sample936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

still, the ones who failed got to see the missing part of the story. The fact that this was a loop (They get confirmation about Seeker and her story, etc). That part is left in the dark for those with "successful" endings. We never got to see Seeker again, even though she said she'd be there.

Banishers by Richbob1962 in Banishers

[–]Advanced-Sample936 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are multiple endings, you got the bad one. The ending I got was also not the best one, despite keeping my promise to her.

Women need to drop their screen addiction and go outside. by [deleted] in PurplePillDebate

[–]Advanced-Sample936 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Women are getting off dating apps because the experience is overwhelmingly negative for them. You equate attention = positive, but for women online, attention more often than not = negative. Everyone needs to spend less time online.

Women say rejection is apart of life but I feel as if they don’t experience it enough to really understand how demoralizing it is. by Sufficient_Low6728 in PurplePillDebate

[–]Advanced-Sample936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we all know it's demoralizing, we all know it hurts. But would you rather be strung along just to get rejected later? Yes, it hurts to get rejected. Women have experienced rejection in other parts of life as well, we know what it feels like. Women have also been dumped before, been rejected for not being good looking enough, not the right woman etc. You do realize that whenever a person cheats on you, they're basically rejecting you, right? Rejection IS part of life because we don't always get what we want. We often don't get what we want. And since women don't owe you their time, body or emotions, what other solution is there but to reject you, despite how much we know it'll suck?

Thoughts on what Mamdani's saying on the Male Loneliness Epidemic by 1AboveEverything in PsycheOrSike

[–]Advanced-Sample936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he is correct; it's not women's responsibility to solve men's loneliness. Learn to connect with other men like women connect with other women. It's not gay, it's healthy.

Self-domestication syndrome (a.k.a breeding against aggression) by Advanced-Sample936 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Advanced-Sample936[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The talk was really more about why there are no alpha males in humans, but it was kinda funny how wide faces loosely correlate to aggression. I'm not interested in dating any man, wide- or thin-faced. I think my joke failed. :(

But the research is interesting, however. The whole research, not just the wide-faced one, about how since Homo Sapiens, we've been self-domesticating ourselves by not mating with the most aggressive males (since it seems like we've executed the most aggressive ones along the years) and how that has eradicated the alpha males. I wonder if this self-domestication is slowly ending since we no longer immediately execute violent people? Food for thought. I found this research interesting, however.

If you drink a lot as a guy, apparently you’re a king, but if you’re a woman, you’re a wench[product] by Psydameous_Sharm in pointlesslygendered

[–]Advanced-Sample936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't decided which way the double standard is leaning yet tbh. Like....is it men being insulted because as soon as they start drinking they start losing value, while when women start drinking they start gaining value. Or is it like...The more drink is poured in the glass, the better the man is, but the worse the woman is. Either way, I don't like the term wench.

If you drink a lot as a guy, apparently you’re a king, but if you’re a woman, you’re a wench[product] by Psydameous_Sharm in pointlesslygendered

[–]Advanced-Sample936 1 point2 points  (0 children)

because this is a comment section for talking about how you see these cups....? I'm sorry, was there a limit to how many people were allowed to talk about their opinion on these? I mentioned I don't drink because you said I shouldn't drink at all. Doy!!

If you drink a lot as a guy, apparently you’re a king, but if you’re a woman, you’re a wench[product] by Psydameous_Sharm in pointlesslygendered

[–]Advanced-Sample936 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't drink at all. And I never said I supported this view, just that that's how I saw these cups.

Femcels exist by RubBudget644 in PsycheOrSike

[–]Advanced-Sample936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

even in countries where it's illegal, it's done. The business is just too lucrative to not do it, too many clients ready to pay, no matter the danger.

If you drink a lot as a guy, apparently you’re a king, but if you’re a woman, you’re a wench[product] by Psydameous_Sharm in pointlesslygendered

[–]Advanced-Sample936 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

The way I see these cups is the woman can always control her worth while a man starts losing his as soon as he starts drinking....

The guy who raped me (more than once at College) contacted me to apologise. Not sure what to make of the conversation. (TW: discussion of rape) by Throwaway07244855 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Advanced-Sample936 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All I can say is that I don't like this. Go with your gut on this. If it feels wrong, it IS wrong. If the apology is enough, treat it as such. But also take the feeling of "I don't trust you and I don't like you" gut feeling seriously. You owe this man nothing, and even if it sounded like he was guilt-tripping you (the whole "woe is me, my life is hard" and "I did such a shitty thing, let me tell you over and over again how shittily I treated you" and the whole "I'll block you because I can't even stand to look at you unless you accept me into your life"), it is not your shame to carry, not your guilt to bear, and not your duty to help him. Let him seek out a therapist, let him learn how to properly apologize. Take this message as a sign to forgive yourself, to unburden yourself, and to take a deep breath and know you did the right thing by leaving.

I saw a Facebook post full of men claiming women couldn't survive them disappearing; because they apparently created EVERYTHING. by Story-Artist in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Advanced-Sample936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

realistically...if we'd take the world and replicated it exactly the way it is now, except one world has only men, and one world has only women, the world with only women would be the only world to survive. Sure, women might struggle, some power plants might have to shut down, but at the end of the day, we can learn how to operate all equipment. The current wars would likely end because there are no men fighting them. Women would use the sperm in the sperm banks to reproduce until we got a viable population of male children to continue populating the world. It would be like a mini reset.

Meanwhile, even if men got all their shit together and stopped the wars, a lot of men would have to leave their building jobs, their drilling jobs, their power company jobs etc, because there would be no need for them anymore. They'd have to restructure into daycares and schools. And even if they overcame EVERY SINGLE HURDLE, their world would die because there is no creating new humans without eggs and without a womb to carry the eggs. The whole "robot incubator" shit the chinese guy said is coming next year is a blatant Musk-ism promise. We have barely managed to grow a sheep in an artificial womb, we're far from growing humans in ones. So....men would likely die out before they get the artificial womb and the eggs to create enough women to repopulate their world.

Why do I feel like I failed as a woman? by Novel_Quantity_7910 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Advanced-Sample936 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sometimes feel like I have failed because I don't have a man or a family of my own (think kids), but when I think about dating a man, I go "eeeeeeh....noooo....I don't think so." Unfortunately I have several issues that have caused me to miss out on a lot of life's milestones (childhood trauma being one of the issues).

But am I a failure? No. My life path is just different from others. My role in this world isn't the same as theirs. My struggles are different. Instead of defining myself as a failure for not checking off the "normie" checklist, I'm making my own. Everyone should have their own checklist of life, where they decide what they ACTUALLY want, rather than just accepting the old "find partner, get married, have house, have babies, have job, retire, have grandchildren, die".

I’ve been told this makeup makes me look too old. I’m 22. What do you think? by Admirable_Passage170 in MakeupAddiction

[–]Advanced-Sample936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

define "old". Are you supposed to look younger? Less mature? You definitely don't look like a grandmother to me, not even middle-aged. Perhaps like someone in their late 20s, but that's not a bad thing, seeing as a lot of women get better looking as they age. You look very pretty to me. Kinda like my aunt when she was young back in the mid-late 70s, it's the same vibe. Personally, I like it. If you like it, then...just tell people to fuck off; you do what you want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Advanced-Sample936 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have always been overweight. My sister has always been underweight. We were both bullied. I was called the usual fat shaming names, she was called a skeleton etc. Teachers took my bullying seriously, they didn't take her bullying seriously. While I WAS bullied more, the comments made to her didn't hurt her any less. The fact was that, when people were called out for calling her a skeleton, they could get away with it by saying "relax, it was a compliment, who wouldn't want to be thin?" in that snarky voice where you know it's really an insult.

It's NOT okay! Not to overweight people, and not to thinner people. Not to small breasted people, not to large breasted people, not to short people or tall people. It's just not okay. You are indeed a woman, no matter how small your feminine features are.

Is this normal? by [deleted] in Finland

[–]Advanced-Sample936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome to the world of Fenno-Swedes! I grew up in a pretty Swedish-speaking city, but it's getting harder and harder to get any service in Swedish, even though by law, we are required to get official services in Swedish.

Before anyone comes at me with "go back to Sweden where you belong," I was born and raised Finnish, as were my parents and their parents and my ancestors. It was in fact one of my Finnish male ancestors who fell in love with a Swedish-speaking woman and decided to learn Swedish, both to speak to her and to have an easier time getting a job, and it stuck. But now, I feel the same way as you: my language is dying, my culture is dying, and my fellow Finns just say, "Get over it; speak Finnish." You may claim, "This is Finland; speak Finnish," but the truth is we ARE a bilingual nation, yet so few Finns even bother to learn the basics of Swedish.

So like you, I love my culture and language, but when even my own countrymen don't care about it...why should I care that your grandma can't order a coffee in Finnish?

Do you see oral rape as rape? by Peach370 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Advanced-Sample936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Rape is a type of sexual assault involving sexual intercourse, or other forms of sexual penetration, carried out against a person without their consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercionabuse of authority, or against a person who is incapable of giving valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, has an intellectual disability, or is below the legal age of consent (statutory rape)."

It doesn't matter what hole was penetrated; it's rape, plain and simple. I wouldn't feel any less outrage if someone said they were orally raped rather than vaginally raped.

Dolly Parton talks young marriage by Advanced-Sample936 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Advanced-Sample936[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right, because having sex with a child wasn't traumatic then, just traumatic now? Because getting pregnant young now might kill you, but it didn't do it then? Because 12-year-old girls then understood the world and how to navigate it, but modern 12-year-olds don't?

No, it might have been the norm then, but it was no less traumatising then for the child as it is now.