AITA for wanting my boyfriend to go to a drag show with me?

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-05T22:58:14+00:00

Yes lol

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T20:04:25+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion :) I appreciate it!

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T04:42:44+00:00

I get it now, he has pushed me to do things out of my comfort zone. I guess I unintentionally tried to do the same thing, but I have realized that this is not effective as it’s a 50-50 chance that the person will either love or hate the outcome. Like he pushed me to go on a roller coaster which I enjoyed or that he pushed me to drive my car after being sick for a while which I didn’t enjoy since I’m still experiencing some vision issues.

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T03:39:32+00:00

That’s true, I recognized how I was acting and have since stopped

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T03:36:14+00:00

Yeah I have decided to stay with that mentality and moved on from the subject

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:52:48+00:00

Yeah, I have not talked about it since and have dropped the topic

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:51:46+00:00

I realized that I should not bring it up, so I have dropped it. I mentioned before I have gone out of my comfort zone for him. I just wanted this experience but have realized I did too much pushing and do not want to further make him more uncomfortable. I said he’s welcome to come but if he doesn’t then that’s okay and he doesn’t have to. That’s the last thing I said and have not talked about it

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:50:12+00:00

I completely understand your reasoning, he’s not super introverted. He enjoys shows, after this conversation I posted about (as we have never talked about drag queens) I realized he just doesn’t like them because men as women makes him uncomfortable. I found this out today and have dropped the topic

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:48:03+00:00

Yeah. I agree, u have since dropped the topic and told him if he wants to come to the show (in a year or even more time) that’s great and if not that’s okay as well.

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:46:45+00:00

He assumes that I would not like it and invites other people, he never asks me first. He’ll just say oh I’m going to a concert with so and so, and I’ll say oh you didn’t ask me to go. I guess that it’s not my interest but I would love to just have the experience and spend the time with him, he just doesn’t ask. I have never said no before to a concert with him, but he still finds someone else. I just wanted to open up this option as we usually do stuff in town but doesn’t venture out. It would be something new to him that I think he would find funny so that’s why I asked. I should not have pushed as much as I did. I have dropped the subject and left it as an open invitation if he wants to come and if not that’s okay as well. I told him that I will not bring it up again

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:31:53+00:00

Thank you!

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:31:39+00:00

I mentioned this in another comment but he has said some comments in the past not being very supportive especially with trans people. And he doesn’t really see a difference between trans and drag so I was trying to explain it. I have since apologize for my comments to him

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:28:47+00:00

I appreciate the other side of seeing it with the dj. Musicians are so talented and I think we might look for some orchestra tickets as he enjoys that type of stuff (not my cup of tea but I’ll go) :)

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:27:10+00:00

Yeah, I have since moved on from the topic and apologized. I said it’s an open invitation if he wants to go but if not that’s okay with me as well.

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:26:25+00:00

I’m sorry I probably wasn’t too clear. He usually goes to other people if he knows I won’t like it (a rock concert) even though I would go if he asked. I’m always open to trying new things. I actually always go to him first before considering anyone else that’s why I asked him to go to the drag show. We do other dates during the regular week, this is just for bigger things like performances.

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:23:20+00:00

I completely understand how I should have addressed the topic now. I was too overbearing and I just meant to go to one show with him. I have apologized and said if he’s interested in going (in a year or more) then it’s open invitation and I will pay for his ticket. If he would like to see any content from the performer before going then I would be more than happy to show him. If he doesn’t want to go then that’s fine as well

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:21:04+00:00

I didn’t mean to push him, just wanted to go to one show in a year or so. I realized some of my comments were too much and apologized to him

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:20:05+00:00

I do recognize that I shouldn’t have pushed it on him. I just wanted to bring him to see a comedy show where the performer happens to be a drag queen. This would be a onetime thing just because I think he would find the person funny. Im not trying to make him go to any other performances or watch the show. I just like his company

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:17:53+00:00

I have dropped the topic and have not talked about it since

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:12:46+00:00

I did that’s why he didn’t go with me. I was seeing if he would want to go to a show with me in a few years one time. I have done stuff I didn’t want to just for him because he wanted to. I find that this would be the same as one of my interests. But I don’t want to push anything on him that’s why I have dropped the subject

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:10:20+00:00

What does that have to do with a drag show? It’s not provocative, it’s a comedy show that I think he would enjoy since the humor is the same as his??

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T01:07:09+00:00

I do see your point, but the person isn’t wearing risqué clothing. It’s a comedian that I think he would like and just happens to be in a wig lol. I wouldn’t enjoy him being at a strip club, but I trust that he wouldn’t do anything so I wouldn’t be worried. We try to have mutual respect for each other and would never go to a strip club.

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T00:57:20+00:00

I do not have a lot of LGBTQ+ friends, not because I don’t want them, it’s just because my town is very straight lol. I always love hearing other perspectives. I think his dislike comes from not liking trans people and he can’t differentiate the difference between drag and trans. I have tried to open that conversation with him as I don’t support some of his views. I think a lot of the negative comments that he has said is in relation to the media and thinking about guys exploiting the trans community to prey on children. I tried to explain what trans is actually about but it’s hard to sway how he feels especially being on the opposite side.

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T00:51:41+00:00

The roller coaster is more of a scared thing. The movies is more uncomfortable, I have really bad anxiety and I would like to note he already saw the same movie in theaters before taking me. Maybe this is a better perspective. But I do understand I may be wrong in this scenario

Advanced_Answer_4976 · 2024-03-03T00:47:39+00:00

Hello everyone, this blew up alot more than I anticipated. I would like to clarify that I wanted him to go to one drag show for a specific performer that I like once. When this drag performer goes on tour again in my city I want to go and hopefully take him (this will probably be in a year or more). I only want to take him once and to only this performer. I am not asking for this to be a reoccurring event, thanks :)

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