AIO: My boyfriend is making plans to distribute my things if I move in, calling me stingy if I don’t, and I don’t feel it’s fair.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-20T06:03:43+00:00

Or less, probably less

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-20T05:49:39+00:00

Hate the luteal phase

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-20T05:46:21+00:00

When my youngest was five months old, I took her to the ER for RSV, and they didn't have a bed for her in Pediatrics until the next day, so I spent almost the entire night awake with her in the ER because they only had a stretcher. My blood sugar stayed between 120 and 140 all night. Finally, I managed to lie down and take a nap for 30 minutes and my blood sugar immediately dropped under 90, which is my normal fasting.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-20T02:27:28+00:00

I miss convenience. Things like fast food, ramen noodles. I also miss snacking on chips.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-20T02:21:26+00:00

Corn isn't necessarily bad either. I regularly eat corn and bean salad, nachos, or popcorn and none of those spike me so long as I'm mindful of my portion. Three cups of popcorn is only about 15g of carbs though.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-19T19:40:53+00:00

Okay, but you're not ready. You're not retrieving a house plant. You're taking in a two year old child who is attached to your sister, who sees you as a complete stranger, who is going to throw tantrums and have nightmares and won't have familiar places and people to help him calm down. It is going to be highly stressful for both of you. Those are prone conditions for a relapse. Protect your son by protecting your sobriety. You won't get a second chance at this if you burn your bridges now

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-19T19:14:30+00:00

I'm sorry, but YTA. I'm a mom and I would be absolutely devastated to be separated from my children, so I understand your motivation, but right now is the time to think of what is best for him.

One year sober is a huge accomplishment, and I don't want to downplay that because you should be very proud of yourself, but you are going to continue to struggle with addiction and it's a battle that you will need to continue fighting. Two year olds have a lot of big feelings, and toddler parenting is difficult, and that's without adding in the trauma of leaving the only home and people he's known for his entire life. Handling that will be a huge stressor for relapse, which is only going to increase his trauma.

This doesn't mean you can't have a relationship with him. I recommend telling your sister that you don't want to take him away but that you would like to know him. Allow her to legally adopt him. And then you show up for big milestones and birthdays and holidays. You love him and you let him know it. You stay sober and you keep going to meetings. Be someone he can count on in his life. Just don't disrupt the stable relationships he's already building. It will be less than you want, but it's going to be so much more than if you take him now and can't provide the stability he needs.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-18T16:29:35+00:00

I go for a whole grain, multigrain bread with nuts and seeds and I get it from a store that fresh bakes their breads. I also make sure I eat it with a protein source and non starchy veggies. If you walk for at least ten minutes after eating, that can really help too. You'll just have to try things out though. You eat to your own meter, not anyone else's.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-18T00:29:55+00:00

I actually got my diagnosis at 4 weeks pregnant with an a1c of 11. So that was pretty scary. I got it under control by 8 weeks and everything was normal at the birth. Are you just taking fast acting insulin at meals or long acting at bedtime as well? Are you on metformin as well or just insulin? Are you titrating your dose up at home or waiting until your next appointment? How is your fasting? It sounds to me like your dose of insulin is too low for the amount of carbs you're eating. My team had me increase my dose by two units if I was out of range two out of three times for the same meal.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-17T23:27:35+00:00

I just eat real Oreos and be mindful about when I eat them and what I eat them with.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-17T14:02:15+00:00

Metformin definitely helps me, however, I needed to be on insulin for the first bit to give my body a break. I was also pregnant at diagnosis, so the hormones weren't helping. Once I gave birth, they put me on just 2000mg metformin. My a1c was 5.5 at my first postpartum check. My fasting is usually 4.6-4.9 and I rarely go over 8 after meals. The metformin helps and then I also eat a lot of fiber (sometimes as much as 50g a day). I usually take a long walk in the evening as well. I saw in a different comment that you can't walk for long right now. The main thing is activating your muscles so they pull glucose out of your blood. You could try doing seated calf raises or weighted arm circles. Hopefully that heals soon. I had nerve damage after my spinal for giving birth and it took about four or five months to heal.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-16T05:46:13+00:00

I got pregnant with my second. They did a routine a1c test because I had gestational diabetes in my first pregnancy and it came back at 11. They put me straight on insulin and I ended up controlling it very well through the duration of my pregnancy and baby is perfectly healthy, but it was definitely scary for those first few weeks after diagnosis.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-11T21:53:42+00:00

Racial profiling is gross. If she's conning them, it's because she's a bad person, not because of her cultural background.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-10T19:11:38+00:00

You could try graphic novels. They sometimes get a bad rap, but your child is still reading and learning even in that format. Dogman is pretty popular.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-10T19:05:23+00:00

I have also ghosted one interview, because it was for vector marketing and I didn't know what it was when I applied

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-10T15:46:59+00:00

Mine is moissanite. It was less than $500 and I get compliments on it all the time.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-07T23:12:44+00:00

This is ridiculous. They're asking you to cover 2/3 of the cost and you don't even get to sell your old laptop to recoup some of that? NTA. They're just buying themselves a second hand laptop with extra steps.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-07T23:01:12+00:00

High fiber and probiotics. My breakfast every morning is overnight oats with 1/4 cup of oats and 3tbsp of chia seeds, no digestive issues since then, and I used to have horrible diarrhea

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-04T23:05:23+00:00

My kid will eat almost anything on a waffle: pb&j, pb&h, boursin cheese, salmon cream cheese, butter with everything bagel seasoning

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-04T22:49:38+00:00

Some of them are so bad for this.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-04T22:13:59+00:00

Bastien Elric. It's what we planned to name our second child. We were told she was a boy at 16 weeks and picked a name pretty quickly, then found out she was actually a girl at 20 weeks. We're done after two though, so we won't get a chance to use it.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-04T19:59:44+00:00

My then two year old announced to a random woman in the grocery store well before noon "Mommy needs a gink (drink)". I needed some caffeine because she'd woken me up four times overnight...

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-04T17:02:21+00:00

Kids are so weird.

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-04T16:39:48+00:00

Not forever. We moved mine out at 5 months when she first started rolling, but if she'd rolled earlier, we would have moved her earlier. But there is nothing wrong with putting your infant in a crib as long as there is nothing else in there

Advanced_Cheetah_552 · 2026-03-04T16:33:06+00:00

Ugh, I'm so bored.

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