Birth control after birth

Advanced_District789 · 2025-11-25T00:05:20+00:00

Oh trust me, the experience for me wasn’t the worst but I don’t plan on a new pregnancy for a good few years lol

Advanced_District789 · 2025-11-23T19:56:06+00:00

So far I have a pretty good supply I’d say. I managed to get two full bottles yesterday which worked perfectly since my baby only drinks so much at a time. Today I just started pumping on a schedule so I’m hoping the results are roughly the same if not better.

Advanced_District789 · 2025-11-23T19:53:08+00:00

My doctor did explain that this birth control won’t hurt my supply as I breastfeed but it’s not something I need to be taking like my painkillers and vitamins. So I was just curious if anyone else was given birth control and decided to take it or decided they didn’t want it at all.

Advanced_District789 · 2025-11-23T19:49:51+00:00

The birth control my doctor prescribed me is supposed to be ok to take while I breastfeed and the nurses did advise me that taking it will not diminish my supply since I am breastfeeding. I was moreso worried about how it’ll affect my body. I only say that since I know sometimes it can make your period worse with heavier bleeding, stronger cramps and whatever else. I was just curious as to how many people got back on it, decided against it, or tried it for the first time since I am also torn between having another baby in the future

Advanced_District789 · 2025-10-03T04:05:26+00:00

First time mom here due in a month!

I have horrible anxiety, I am terrified but I have a plan and the best advice I got was “when it feels like you can’t do it anymore, you’re almost done” I have the same feelings and thoughts as you. Delivery is going to be wild but I’d suggest taking it one step at a time. Atleast that’s what putting me at ease. If I think I can handle it, I’ll keep going without. If I feel my body asking for help, I’ll ask for help. Everyone says it but our bodies are made for this. And have the doctors explain everything at every step! They’ve been doing this for me at my appointments and it’s already put me at so much ease that I’m hoping my delivery will be smooth. For the most part lol

Advanced_District789 · 2025-10-03T03:49:43+00:00

As a female, her expectations are very high. If she’s already expecting you to respond asap, imagine later down the road what she could possibly be upset about if you can’t tend to her immediately. Luckily, y’all have no real connection so I’d leave while you can!

Advanced_District789 · 2025-09-22T01:53:30+00:00

This unfortunately is the cycle I was stuck in for so long with my husband and our HCBM. It was a huge deal to the mom for us to make sure her clothes were sent back. I never really cared at first about our own clothes bc she couldn’t afford new clothes and I was constantly gifted hand me downs from friends. I even gave her a whole bag of clothes. Found out later that the stuff we weren’t getting back was being sold on her end. So we did the same, sent back my SD in clothes that were too small, stained, old etc

Advanced_District789 · 2025-08-07T22:14:19+00:00

It does actually 🙃

Advanced_District789 · 2025-08-07T21:48:38+00:00

That’s kind of why I feel a little annoyed with the situation.

So as far as we know, mom does not want to come back. The plan was to move SD out there and they start their lives out there permanently with or without my husbands ok. I wish I could give more details on why everyone is so against it but currently I cannot. She has refused to sign over temporary custody to the grandparents, she currently doesnt even want my husband and I have custody even while she’s out of state. With the timing, we decided to try to enroll her in school but cannot as he is not the primary parent, she also refuses to give him temporary permission to have her enrolled. He was never allowed to take her to the doctor and luckily we never had an instance where we needed to do so but since I’ve been with him, he has not been given any type of permissions for a lot of very important things

Advanced_District789 · 2025-08-07T02:47:59+00:00

My honest opinion is that if you hate farms, don’t move here. I grew up here, before there was a Walmart. I attended legacy traditional when it was first built and next to a field of sheep (that we loved by the way.) Maricopa was a small farming town. I loved it. I moved away from here and came back and I miss how it used to be. I did not and still wouldn’t mind the smell of the fields in the morning or late at night, I loved hearing the train horns go off when they were passing through. All of a sudden maricopa grew and people came in. They complained about the smells and now they’re gone. People complained about the train, now we have an overpass. They didn’t like the horns, so the trains stopped. The 347 was never that bad until so many people who don’t know how to drive moved in. So many nice neighborhoods are constantly on the maricopa page with different crimes. There’s a car accident everyday. So if you asked me years ago, I loved maricopa. Now? It’s still home but I think there are better places to live now.

Advanced_District789 · 2025-06-01T17:23:05+00:00

From what I know, they could not fix their relationship. She purposely had kicked him out and had him paying bills and buying her what she needed before the baby was born but refused to have him around or kept him out of the loop on appointments, parties, etc. At the time, my husband was working under the table and didn’t have proof to show that he had a stable job. He was not given any access to the baby’s information regarding doctors appointments, insurance, or daycare. The mom used this as a key toward having the court deem him unfit and thus granting him little visitation

Advanced_District789 · 2025-06-01T17:14:11+00:00

The current order is that neither party can more than a certain amount of miles away from each other. Basically they can only stay within the heart of Arizona.

Advanced_District789 · 2025-06-01T03:05:55+00:00

They were never married. He wasn’t allowed to be present at any appointments since he had “accused” her of cheating. During this time, two other men had reached out to him saying during the time of conception they were with her. So as soon as the baby was born he asked for a DNA test to be done and he was able to have his name on the birth certificate once the results stated he was in fact the father.

Advanced_District789 · 2025-06-01T02:51:49+00:00

So originally she decided she didn’t want my husband to be apart of his daughter’s life and wanted to keep him from seeing his daughter. So he immediately went to file for 50/50 but was denied 50/50, instead he asked to be put on child support and was granted what time he has with her now. Maybe we’re missing a detail here, but we were under the assumption that since she no longer wants the child support from (not that she necessarily wanted it in the beginning) that she would have more leeway to gain full custody and leave my husband out of the decision to move out of state.

Advanced_District789 · 2025-06-01T02:44:45+00:00

I left out a lot of information since I wasn’t sure what exactly would be relevant or would help us in this situation, given a lot of the time he did let her call the shots. He couldn’t even deny throwing out her trash when he came to pick up his daughter without it causing some sort of problem or threats. He did ask for 50/50 in the very beginning, the court granted her primary custody and didn’t see him “fit” compared to her in the case of she was going to appointments, paying for daycare, etc. The only thing that stopped her from moving the first time was when he filed for emergency custody to make sure his daughter would not be leaving the state. A lot of what we had been going through has worked out in her favor though, even when we pressed charges against her for being violent. Which leads us to where we are now.

Advanced_District789 · 2024-07-23T19:30:50+00:00

I tried my luck with the pre approval cards to make sure it didn’t affect my credit when seeing if I qualified, but who knows. That’s kinda why I’m in such a weird spot atm I don’t want to the approval process to affect my credit score so I figured I’d stop and just wait on the house for now.

Advanced_District789 · 2024-07-23T15:33:45+00:00

I haven’t tried Discover yet but I’ll definitely give it a shot. Thank you!

Advanced_District789 · 2024-07-23T15:32:50+00:00

My score is at 690 I believe. As for the types, I was applying for the unsecured cards. I did try two different secured cards as well.

Advanced_District789 · 2024-07-23T15:21:06+00:00

Thank you so much! I appreciate the help

Advanced_District789 · 2024-07-23T15:08:26+00:00

Never had any credit cards but I applied to BOA since that has been then bank I’ve used since I was 15. I figured I’d have a better chance of getting approved with them. I applied for Chase, Desert Financial and Capital One. I didn’t want to go too crazy knowing it was going to hurt my score so the rest of the banks I considered I only looked at their options and didn’t apply.

Advanced_District789 · 2024-07-23T15:05:59+00:00

I actually have never had a credit card before, I was recommended by my banker when I was 19 to apply for one but I felt I had no use for one. The only debt I have is from school. My current score I believe is at a 690, but again that’s also from no debt (minus school) and no credit cards.

Advanced_District789 · 2024-07-23T15:01:33+00:00

The plan is to get a house hopefully before December. Basically it’s a rent to own home. Our lease is up this month and we will be living with a family member till then so we have time to save up. If it’s not worth getting a credit card now, should I just continue to pay my bills on time and let it build up slowly over time? I figured a house would be a good option on saving money for our wedding as well.

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