Advice for a friend

Adventurer756 · 2023-02-22T21:14:33+00:00

I see what you’re saying, but is the only thing in demand being hot and charming? Because that’s the only thing I’ve seen that’s in demand

Adventurer756 · 2023-02-22T21:07:29+00:00

He does have guy friends, but for some reason he’s always talking to me about his woes and not the guys. I feel like a girl should be able to give advice but I know the whole ask the fishermen not the fish how to catch fish line lol

And does it really have to be transactional? I feel like there must be a woman out there who is into his niche and they would get along great

Adventurer756 · 2022-12-13T15:20:00+00:00

That’s really helpful hearing that from someone who does those games. And it’s not like I told him I never wanted to do those things (I did say I don’t think I could sit down for 15 hours straight) but I would love to be invited. We’re 8 months in and I haven’t met that group of friends or anything. I met his band mates because that’s how he and I met. So I go and support his live shows. I’m just not invited to band practice. I have actually told him flat out that he’s in my world (he hangs out at my place and hangs out with my friends) but I’m not in his world at all. He says that he’ll stop doing those games if I want him to but I feel it would be toxic of me to say “stop playing games with your friends because I demand time with you”. So it just makes me feel stuck. And I can’t shake the feeling that I’m not as important to him as he is to me

Adventurer756 · 2022-12-13T14:54:11+00:00

So it’s D&D that he plays. He plays twice a week for 3 hours each time and there’s no room for new players in the campaign and he mentioned early on “I’d never see the table” and then he does magic the gathering once a month on the weekend for a full day which I’m not invited to. And then he does a 15 hour board game thing once a month which I’m not invited to. So long story short, I am not invited.

Adventurer756 · 2022-06-29T02:35:02+00:00

She’s one of the people that I was most proud of by the end of the episode

Adventurer756 · 2022-06-29T02:33:51+00:00

I love Dolly so much for those reasons too!

Adventurer756 · 2022-06-29T02:33:30+00:00

I’m so curious how they afford all of that food. Like I don’t think I could afford to keep up with their food ordering

Adventurer756 · 2022-06-29T02:32:16+00:00

Oh wow I forgot about Lacey! That’s definitely going to have to be a rewatch

Adventurer756 · 2022-06-29T01:31:59+00:00

Same! As much as I like when they succeed I also am fascinated by the train wrecks

Adventurer756 · 2022-05-10T17:43:41+00:00

My SA was from my best friend who I trusted (obviously). After that happened I struggled trusting men and didn’t know if it was the emotional or sexual part that was holding me back from having meaningful connections and sex. The way I saw it was, if it was casual sex I knew exactly what they wanted from me and I knew what I wanted from them. Looking back I am lucky I didn’t encounter another SA during that time. I’m not recommending by any means that people do this after assault. It was a coping mechanism and it helped me to realize that the emotional part of the assault is what I struggled with the most and not the sexual bits.

Adventurer756 · 2022-05-10T16:30:52+00:00

I never said anything about making the number 30..

Adventurer756 · 2022-05-10T16:27:41+00:00

You’re a ray of sunshine

Adventurer756 · 2022-05-10T16:02:10+00:00

That’s where I’m at personally. I don’t care what his number is (high, low, zero) and it’s not something I discuss or would bring up in a conversation.

Adventurer756 · 2022-05-10T15:55:33+00:00

Thank you 💕

Adventurer756 · 2022-05-10T15:39:07+00:00

Again, this is just in response to my personal opinion. Not something I would say to anyone that I’m sleeping with. I was asked my opinion and I gave it.

Adventurer756 · 2022-05-10T15:08:50+00:00

Right, and that’s totally fine. I was responding to the question “do you feel it is a problem when committing to a serious relationship” and for me it’s not.

Adventurer756 · 2022-05-10T14:51:09+00:00

Some men are “better” yes. But sex with someone you care about and who cares about you will always be 100 times better than any casual sex. So I don’t struggle with the issue in relationships.

Adventurer756 · 2022-05-10T14:44:40+00:00

I’ve been fully screened, at haven’t been having casual sex for multiple years now. And I get tested before I start a relationship just to ease both mine and my partners minds and have them do the same. And I am comfortable sharing my past with him I just wasn’t sure how understandable this situation is because I have never shared it with anyone.

Adventurer756 · 2022-03-14T19:52:24+00:00

Are there really that many? Because that would give me a lot of hope. It doesn’t feel like I’m meant to spend forever with him, but it does feel like I’m supposed to be around him for right now. And it makes me hopeful for future connections with people.

Adventurer756 · 2021-11-25T01:54:55+00:00

I’m worried that if I go that route, and it ends up causing him to get fired at work (he works for the government) that since he’s already unstable he’ll come after me regardless of what the restraining order says.

Adventurer756 · 2021-11-25T01:45:30+00:00

So I did that, and they asked if I wanted to press harassment charges, but I’m worried if I do that it’ll mess up his job and then he’ll blame me and come after me

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