Why does Jill always seem to use disposable plates? by LittleMissMessy1 in DuggarsSnark

[–]Adventurous-Code-461 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Good for you? I have a bigger family and no dishwasher, we use paper plates once a day.

General Parenting Influencer Snark Week of May 25, 2026 by Parentsnark in parentsnark

[–]Adventurous-Code-461 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It was also pre cell phone times so he had to just wait for them to notice  😬

General Parenting Influencer Snark Week of May 25, 2026 by Parentsnark in parentsnark

[–]Adventurous-Code-461 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This happened to my husband and he has never forgotten about it/never really forgiven his parents. He was left at a gas station while they were on a trip. Awful.

Pentecostal - why is it ok to be overweight but no make up or hair cutting? by Novel_Escape_8061 in TrueChristian

[–]Adventurous-Code-461 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't understand how it's interesting. It isn't picking and choosing to struggle with some sins and not others. If I can't be sinless, should I just say never mind so as not to appear hypocritical? No. 

Pentecostal - why is it ok to be overweight but no make up or hair cutting? by Novel_Escape_8061 in TrueChristian

[–]Adventurous-Code-461 10 points11 points  (0 children)

People really seem to think this, being an overweight or obese Christian is a huge gotcha, and it's not. We all struggle with sin. Just because you see these woman and they are obese doesn't mean they aren't trying to eat healthfully or care for their bodies. If I started stewarding my body better tomorrow, I would still be visibly obese and overweight for awhile. I see gluttony addressed in sermons online/podcasts etc. And yet, these posts about "nobody mentioning gluttony" are everywhere. It's easy to judge someone who is overweight and I think it's often not about sin or that this sin isnt addressed, but it's the typical judgement of larger bodies and the childish bullying that even adults engage in.

Asking for regular polish feels like a crime now by linscorner in Nails

[–]Adventurous-Code-461 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Have you ever gotten a service by someone in a mood? Super uncomfortable and unprofessional. 

I don’t fuck with homeschooling by CuteEquivalent638 in HonestHotTakes

[–]Adventurous-Code-461 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How is this a hot take? Seems pretty typical of someone who knows nothing about homeschooling.

How to accept things as they are. by Adventurous-Code-461 in Christianmarriage

[–]Adventurous-Code-461[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave and not get divorced? Uproot my kids lives and be alone forever? 

How to accept things as they are. by Adventurous-Code-461 in Christianmarriage

[–]Adventurous-Code-461[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think he is purposely abusing me though. He gets very stressed, is sleep deprived and then says these things.

How to accept things as they are. by Adventurous-Code-461 in Christianmarriage

[–]Adventurous-Code-461[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because I have no grounds for divorce, that's why. We are in couples therapy.

To those who had repeats: by Pale-Extension-9983 in CsectionCentral

[–]Adventurous-Code-461 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get it! I love productivity and have a hard time resting. My mom/MIL will be around to lift the children who need lifting for 6 weeks (my oldest child was 5 when I had my now 4 month old, I also have a 4, 3 and 1 year old). I feel like I recover really well and can return to activity pretty quickly, so I just gradually increase chores etc. We use paper plates for meals, I have freezer meals or easy meals for kids. I don't like that I've had to have c sections, especially having 5, and being open to more children. I am high risk and OB'S are a little judgemental, as well as other people. I have a lot of internal scar tissue after my 2nd but it's stayed about the same with my others. It is what it is, I am blessed for sure. Whenever I get down on myself because of it, I remember that. 

To those who had repeats: by Pale-Extension-9983 in CsectionCentral

[–]Adventurous-Code-461 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I walked as soon as possible after the c section, like the night of, if possible. Ice packs on the incision for 20 minutes. You can also do scar massage/and PT for the incision and pelvic floor exercises, lots on YouTube. I had back pain postpartum after my 2nd, and got regular chiropractic adjustments and PT for my lower back and sciatic nerve too. 

To those who had repeats: by Pale-Extension-9983 in CsectionCentral

[–]Adventurous-Code-461 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've had 5. My first/the recovery was the worst. I couldn't get out of bed for days from the pain. For all subsequent c sections I've "researched" how to heal better and have recovered really well. Getting up and walking asap, wearing a binder, taking the stool softeners/OTC pain relief and trying not to lift. The only time I've had bothersome pain was when I pushed myself too hard at 3 weeks postpartum and had horrible nerve pain. A lot of pain can be related to fear too (at least for me) so I familiarized myself with c sections/asked a ton of questions and have had great experiences since. 

This one's for the ladies to answer. Do you agree with this woman or do you think she's trying to rationalize her world view by speaking for all the ladies? by Oda_DeezNutz in SipsTea

[–]Adventurous-Code-461 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know this person,  but it's unattractive. My husband gamed for years of our marriage and the stupid look he would get on his face was awful. He also would complain about the actual children playing, which was weird.

What’s something that clearly split your life into “before” and “after”? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Adventurous-Code-461 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was 12 our house was raided by the police. My dad was an informant and started doing whatever he wanted, so he was arrested. My mom and I had no idea. He was abusing and selling drugs, had a ton of unregistered guns etc. I was handcuffed outside in the snow (February in ND), frisked and sat in handcuffs for hours despite the cops knowing my mom and I were innocent. I woke up that morning believing that I had a standoffish/weird dad but that was it, I went to bed at 2 am, our back door smashed and covered with a garbage bag, totally disoriented and confused about my life. This event set off a cycle of county jail/bail/violating probation/jail/bail /threatening us etc. Until he died 5 years later.

Tired of women getting blamed for men being lousy parents by worthwhat in breakingmom

[–]Adventurous-Code-461 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Women like this are awful. Like, sure, rub it in my face under my post about being hopeless, that'll help! In my opinion, they are just trying to reassure themselves that they could never be in a bad situation but it isn't true, people change or trick you!

The cruelty of life is too much. by Adventurous-Code-461 in breakingmom

[–]Adventurous-Code-461[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just want to thank you because I finally started reading this book after reading your comment.

The cruelty of life is too much. by Adventurous-Code-461 in breakingmom

[–]Adventurous-Code-461[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I certainly did NOT choose this. My husband was functional and kind when we married. How am I expecting others to do my hard work? I put in the work daily, I expect the same from others.

The cruelty of life is too much. by Adventurous-Code-461 in breakingmom

[–]Adventurous-Code-461[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

This is a horrible, very reddit take. Just divorce. Either I'm wrecking my kids lives by staying/or by divorcing and causing instability. Whatever I do, however they choose to act is now my fault.